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playmate4hubby

Joined: 2/6/2009

I am 48, married, but bored sexually. she is a great woman, but is too conservative in bed....i want to stay married, but have some fun on the side. where are all the women who want to be pleased by a married man without the hang ups of commitment???

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

Maybe you should have the hang up of commitment and make things work in your marriage.

If your wife is so great you wouldn't be thinking of screwing around on her.

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playmate4hubby

Joined: 2/6/2009

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y can't she be great and still lacking in what it takes to meet a man's sexual needs....

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*Sliver!*

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That's not the point.

You DON'T cheat on someone if you really love them.

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wolf513600

Joined: 11/23/2008

Reply to: y can't she be great and still lacking in what it takes to meet a man's sexual ...
Have you tried talking to her about what it is you need? Start out slowly, one thing at at time and see how it goes. Maybe there is something she would like, too.

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justgeena

Joined: 9/2/2006

Have to agree with Devil and Wolf...you might be surprised if you really tried to talk to her about it. Maybe she feels the same way but is too 'conservative' to express it. She's a 'great woman' so imagine how great the relationship could be if that one piece of it got better.

I am pretty open sexually, so I hate to come off as fuddy duddy, really. But the fact is whatever I do, hubby is either a part of it or OK with it and I never have to hide anything from him. You will eventually find someone who has 'no hang-ups', that won't be a problem, but make sure you are willing to lose what you have first, because that's what will eventually happen.

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Manny068

Joined: 7/7/2005

Let me guess, she rocked your world before you got married and now you're bored? Or she's always been conservative...make up your mind. I don't know why you bothered getting married in the first place if she didn't satisfy you beforehand. Don't think you can change a woman sexually and turn her into a wild woman...it just doesn't work that way. She's either open minded and a freak in the sheets, or just likes the simple ways of sex...Just my opinion.

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DJTheHopefulRom...

Joined: 9/8/2007

I've always said if you love someone you can't cheat on them. Look I'm a 22 year old guy with a very high sex drive. I'm open and liberal minded when it comes to sex but cheating is wrong and you can't justify it.

You'd be dishonoring your wife doing this behind her back and anyone that would reply to your posting taking you up on that offer is well........pardon my frankness but the saying skanky ass Ho comes to mind.

It'd be like if you had an issue say getting an erection...so your wife just went next store and screwed the neighbor. It's cruel and when you enter into a marriage your making a commitment to love and cherish that person no matter what. Now I respect people's lifestyles as far as having other people in the bedroom or one on one even with other partners when everything is on the up and up and both people are okay with it. Obviously not the case here.

If your thinking of betraying your wife because "she's to conservative in bed" then your without a doubt a bad husband who'd never honor your vows when something really serious comes up. For her sake and ultimately yours even more so I suggest you think about whats really important in life and make the right decision.


Going off topic here but seriously......What the hell is wrong with people these days? Everyone takes love for granted.....it's the greatest thing in the world you guys....don't be so quick to piss it all away over something so stupid and selfish.








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A little less t...

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you say your wife is to conservative in bed, SURELY SHE WASNT TO CONSERVATIVE, FOR YOU TO MARRY HER!!!! have you tried communication?? or are you wanting her to do something that is against her willingness?

You state that she is a great women and you don't want to leave her , But you stand a big chance of losing her , because she WILL FIND OUT eventually!!!... any man or women knows when their spouse is cheating on them. it is a gut instinct !!!( but most stay in denial ) once someone is with another, they do something different then they have normally done , kiss different ,act different, guilt give's signs without one acknowledgement, a spouse knows there partner better then one thinks they do.

Did you even stop to think it might be you, that you are not pleasing your wife so that might be why she is not interested in sex and might be why she is so conservative in bed? if a person dose not enjoy love making 95 % of the time it is because they are not being pleased, and the other percentage is due to health reason's..

maybe you should communicate with her and ask her what pleases her instead of assuming that your doing everything right? a women usually knows her own body and what is pleasing to her. men seem to think they know a women's body but really do not!!!! COMMUNICATION WILL GIVE ONE GREAT RESULTS!.

you seem to have caught yourself in a bullchit statement on why you want to cheat ...First you said " she is conservative in bed"" , THEN YOU SAY "I want to stay married, but have some fun on the side, then asking" "where are all the women who want to be pleased ".... your not asking for something freaky , just looking for fun sex outside your marriage
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YOU ARE ONE PATHIC MALE NOT FOR JUST WANTING TO CHEAT ON HER BUT FOR TRYING TO BLAME HER FOR DOING SO !!!!! HOW THE HELL CAN ONE SLEEP AT NIGHT, FACE THERE PARTNER, AFTER CHEATING ON THEM? I CALL A PERSON WHO CHEATS ON THEIR SPOUSE ONE LOW LIFE, COLD HEARTED PIECE OF CHIT!!!

SURELY YOU WOULD NOT WANT HER CHEATING ON YOU OR OUT LOOKING LIKE YOU ARE.! IF YOU LOVE HER AS MUCH AS YOU SAY YOU DO AND SHE IS THE GOOD WOMEN YOU SAY SHE IS, WHY IN THE HELL WOULD YOU WANT TO HURT HER? AND STAND THE CHANCE OF LOSEING HER? BE THANKFUL YOU HAVE HER IN YOUR LIFE!!! YOU NEED TO APPERCIATE AND BE THANKFUL YOU HAVE HER IN YOUR LIFE , GOD COULD TAKE HER AT ANYTIME!

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

maybe he better step back and think. she might be looking for more excitement also.

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love 2b lickin

Joined: 12/16/2008

Most people (in my humble opinion) get the concept that someone who'll cheat with them will also cheat ON them. Makes finding a faithful mistress (or the male equivalent thereof) a bit difficult I'd guess .....

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

Are you referring to the mistress cheating, or the guy maybe ending up with the mistress and then cheating on her?


Ususally a woman willing to be with a married man is really into them and THAT is why they're allowing themselves to drop those morals and be with that man.

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love 2b lickin

Joined: 12/16/2008

Reply to: Are you referring to the mistress cheating, or the guy maybe ending up with the...
I'm saying that if the married person makes the jump, leaves the spouse and takes up with the latest greatest thing (be it a mistress or the male equivalent) - then that formerly-married-person is never going to be completely trusted by their new bedmate ... and that will almost certainly eventually result in more marital or relationship-al dissatisfaction, more cheating, and more moving on to a new latest and greatest bed playmate..... Vicious cycle.

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DJTheHopefulRom...

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Generally anyone who has cheated is capable of and ninety nine percent probably will cheat again. For me I can say with a hundred percent certainty that I'd never cheat because honest to god the worst feeling in the world to me is knowing through your own selfishness or stupidity have hurt someone.

If I fall in love I stay fallen and do not stray.

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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

If she is a great woman,why do you want to hurt her by cheating? She washes your underware and cooks,and you want to go out and have sex with someone just because its borring? Welllll....it ALLLL gets borring. No matter who your with.Why jeapordize your marriage for sex?

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A little less t...

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I also agree with your belief!

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eibluestar

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*Sliver!*

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Ok so people screw around when their sexual needs aren't being met. Usually when they're not getting enough sex, or they're not getting the kind of sex they want.


Now I have a huge problem with that.

When you marry someone, it's not because they suck cock or take it up the ass. So if you suddenly have those needs and your partner isn't doing them, yet you won't get divorced. TOUGH SHIT FOR YOU!

Screwing around just for sexual reasons is disgusting.

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The Chino

Joined: 8/26/2005

The point of marriage is to love your partner unconditionally and to do almost everything together as a collective unit. Marriage is a sacred thing and if you can't abide by it, in trying to screw with another woman, then maybe you're the one who has the problem and not her.

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SteveNParkville

Joined: 1/7/2009

Is it just me or does every thing that comes out of the mouth of people who complain that THIER sexual need are not being met usually sound like "ME ME ME ME ME ME blah blah blah ME ME ME ME ME". Make a friggin effort to find out what is going on. Talk to her and you may find out that she is not happy about some things going on within the relationship as well. I generally find that a woman who is not happy with the state of a relationship is a woman who is not going to be up for wild passionate love making. This is call a CLUE. Take that clue fix what needs to be fixed and you may find that your problem will be fixed as well.

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SteveNParkville

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On a side note, if you put as much effort into meeting her needs as you did making your ridiculous profile and trying to find someone to fuck around with, you might never had been in this situation. Put you time and effort were it belongs, repairing your relationship with your wife.

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*Sliver!*

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There's a good chance she's already left him..

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SteveNParkville

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Reply to: There's a good chance she's already left him..
One can only hope

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LiveToLove

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Wouldn't it be funny if "she" was Soaked?

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*Sliver!*

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You mean cams? Yeah that'd be hilarious.

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