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leo blake

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eyesopen

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why do you stay ?.....if the love has gone ...what is it you are doing ?...i can only imagine.... you both are hurting ...there has to be a change in the actions and if you stopped loving her she can see and feel the change....

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leo blake

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I guess old school. Can't walk away from a someone who is dependent on you. Someone who is diabetic,on oxygen 24/7 and obese. It's not easy.belive me.

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eyesopen

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Reply to: I guess old school. Can't walk away from a someone who is dependent on you. Som...
I understand what you mean ...i married for better or worst til death do us part....but the man was very jealous and beat me for 14 yrs ....til i went and sought help ......and she said you need to divorce him ....he will kill you one day ...i already had 6 kids ...he wanted me pregnant so men wouldn't look at me .... so he thought ....well i divorced him and had to stay alone for 29 yrs because he continue to stalk me ...and i dint want to bring a man into that mess ...i raised my kids alone no help from him .. the point is i had to make a choice....he never remarried stayed alone miserable and died 8 yrs ago and then is when i felt free.....but i still waited til now came in here to find my last love ...lol maybe he is in here ...you need to make a choice...living like you are isn't right or healthy ...and time fly's ...i believe she feels bad too ...let her go and go on with your lives..... she will get the help she needs.... still be friends ...it sounds like you are a good man ...but you are being unfaithful to her...... let go set her free and yourself as well ......

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leo blake

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Reply to: I understand what you mean ...i married for better or worst til death do us par...
I can't do that. For all I know she hasn't that long to go. So for the time being a seek occasional afair,some idle chit chat, and my best friend--my right hand-lol

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Nitzynelle

Joined: 8/17/2012

Reply to: I can't do that. For all I know she hasn't that long to go. So for the time bei...
yes, Leo blake you seems to be a good man...I adore with your decision for not leaving her or letting yourself set free.
For humanitarian reasons, you must have the heart to keep your marriage and the promised that you have had made to her...She is in a serious condition now..for sure she needed you on her side...hopefully you could still keep her happy to the remaining time of her life... NO woman likes to have a miserable husband but maybe health reason that she can't give you your human desire..
Afterall you're seeking a self relieve by chit chat etc.
Loveless to reason that she can't give you your human desire??..Remember sick people are sometimes irritable and lesser thought of sex because of the conditions and strong medications that they always take....
I hope you'll keep her until the end of her stay...MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR WIFE..

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leo blake

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thank you for your kind words. Sex with her has been non existent for over twenty years.

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eyesopen

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Reply to: I can't do that. For all I know she hasn't that long to go. So for the time bei...
i'm so sorry to hear that ...and that its been 20 yrs all though i have know couples to go through all of this with love and caring for each other til the end... do you ever go with her to the doctor..... that kind of support is needed too .and keep yourself informed of what she really needs as far as being well kept and that she lacks for nothing ...can she walk and get around ....or do you have a nurse for her.....

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Nitzynelle

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Reply to: thank you for your kind words. Sex with her has been non existent for over twen...
Yes, sir you're most welcome...Sex in marriage if have it is more pleasureble, exciting and meaningful.. Sadly however if you can't have it because of valid reason like your case for a long time...Then I could say that you are a kind man, patience, understanding, supportive and loyal to your wife...Keep up Leo coz your children if ever you have will adore your good doings for sure. Have strenght always...

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leo blake

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easier said than done,that's why I stated before about occasional affairs

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Nitzynelle

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Reply to: easier said than done,that's why I stated before about occasional affairs
occasional affairs for man especial with reason...could be forgiven...
provided that you know how to acknowlege your mistake...just go for repentance to God to your wife...and see to it that you must continue to straight life..

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Nitzynelle

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Reply to: easier said than done,that's why I stated before about occasional affairs
occasional affairs for man especial with reason...could be forgiven...
provided that you know how to acknowlege your mistake...just go for repentance to God to your wife...and see to it that you must continue to straight life..

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nighthowl50

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have you ever discussed things with her?

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leo blake

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I don't want to respond anymore. I will just deal with my own frustrations,untill I go or she goes.It's not in my hands.

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m1nn1e

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Reply to: I don't want to respond anymore. I will just deal with my own frustrations,unt...
well i dont know alot abt marraige or even relationships really but i do know abt feeling cornered and trapped bcuz i believe im helpless 2 make anything different. it seems like u believe ur only choice is 2 take care of ur wife physically and financailly until she dies out of duty but ur ignoring ur other duties 2 her. but most of all and even more crucial is that ur ignoring ur duty 2 urself. specifically tho it seems like she needs assisted living not a husband 2b married with most of the marraige missing. there are always choices. like u could divorce her while still taking care of the needs u do now and u would be free 2 live ur most precious life without betrayal, guilt or restrictions. u could talk abt the difficulty of what ur experiencing without judging urself and therefor being afraid of ppl judging u. only u can decide what u truly owe urself and this lady u once loved enough 2 marry. mabye she also deserves the chance 2 have a nurse but also the chance 2 meet someone who can give her the things u dont. im not saying she wants those things or she wants them from u anymore idk what the deal is but she does deserve 2 know the truth from u but honestly i dont see how she couldnt already know it on her own. it doesnt make sense 2 me 4 2 lives 2b miserable when the whole reason i think its wise 2 get married is 2 add 2 the joys of life 4 both ppl and the world. if things have been miserable 4 so long that is all the more reason 2 hurry up so that u both can go thru the difficult stuff and begin 2 build something beautiful 4 urselves in the time that remains.

u dont have 2 respond i know i dont know the particilars of everything but i sincerley hope u find ur way 2 a better place and that ur wife does 2. i dont pray like most ppl think of praying but in my own way i do and i will pray 4 u both.

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lianapet

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Reply to: have you ever discussed things with her?
something doesn't sound right with all this...particularly opening the conversation and then refusing to continue discussing it....

met some with this situation, I don't get involved in it but I understand their need....and frankly I don't think any woman who is in that situation would fault him for seeking some affection elsewhere as long as he doesn't leave her helpless in the cold....

Whatever, that's just my opinion.

Leo, if your story is true...my best. If it's not...well, I am pretty sure you can read my mind by now...you've read enough of my posts to know how I feel about bull shit.

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leo blake

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Of course ir's true.No waY WOULD a wife tell her husband it's ok to fuck another woman because she doesnt have sex. Besides the sex part is mutual,she is obese too. I dropped the response because there is no solution to the problem. If i am lucky ,I find a woman who want's to play,seek a profesional ,or turn gay(and that ain't happening).

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m1nn1e

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Reply to: Of course ir's true.No waY WOULD a wife tell her husband it's ok to fuck anoth...
 I dropped the response because there is no solution to the problem.

i truly beleive ur lying 2 urself. mabye u dont like the many solutions mabye they seem more painful and difficult then staying stuck but that doesnt mean they dont exist. what has happened 2 ppl? this use 2b a nation of innovative problem solvers and now its mostly a bunch of whiny little kids who break there back trying 2 avoid pain and if u think abt that it makes no sense. mabye im mistaken abt ppl in the past but it seems 2 me that ppl who endured the extremities of hardship seem 2 appreciate theyre own abilities 2 tackle problems and weather the storms 2 find the peace that comes after. sometimes things have 2 get worse b4 they get better but 2 me thats better then playing passive and staying miserable 4 yrs and yrs. luck has nothing 2 do with it.

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leo blake

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Hey this is not world war we are discussing!!!!!!!!!!Geeeeeeeee ez
It's a domestic stituation,a unhappy marriage,mostly on my part. I am tired of having to agrue all the time & being horny-that's it. Give it a rest. Your blowing it out of proportion.

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m1nn1e

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Reply to: Hey this is not world war we are discussing!!!!!!!!!!Geeeeeeeeeez It's a domest...
exactly its not world war the problem has many simple solutions ur the 1 making it this HUGE UNSOLVABLE PROBLEM that only death can fix and it is wrong 4u 2 cheat on ur wife and u know it or u would b honest with her and u put ur dirt up here 4 comment so ill comment 2 my hearts content tyvm

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eyesopen

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fine its on you ...but do you know how many men are turned on by Big women ...let her go ...and enjoy herself ...there is a place for everyone in this world ...what doesn't turn you on anymore ...does someone else...set each other free...and enjoy...without committing adultery.....

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leo blake

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Thank Everyone for all there comments

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Nitzynelle

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Reply to: Thank Everyone for all there comments
It is there pleasure...Peace Be With You...

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Nitzynelle

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Reply to: Of course ir's true.No waY WOULD a wife tell her husband it's ok to fuck anoth...
Definitely right...solution of the problem could be draw out after studying the main cause of the problem... but the responders here just learned a bit of your problem. I mean the facts are very lacking... actually all in the posts here are just suggestions...and the solution is still in your head...not on other people..
Sadly however, if your looking for a symphaty from a woman who wants to play..surely not a solution but a temporary relieve of human desire..that you have had it now...Please remember this,, "To solve a certain Problem,, Isn't mean to create another Problem".

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Nitzynelle

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Reply to: Of course ir's true.No waY WOULD a wife tell her husband it's ok to fuck anoth...
Definitely right... the real solution is in you...Remember, to solve a problem Isn't mean to create another problem.

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