I want to say that my girlfriend is very demanding and if she does not get her way, she has a fit and holds it against me. Is this a selfish or insecure problem with her?

Well...it could be a little of both...women are demanding because women need 5,000 things as opposed to a man that only needs 5 things..lol....sad, but it's true....

Women are demanding cause we're used to having to ask a man to do something 20 times.

lolxxx. well i feel we ladies go through alot for a guy. But they dont think about what we go through for them.when we ask them to do one or two things for us they begin to free we are selfish and insecure.
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Women are demanding cause we're used to having to ask a man to do something 20 times.

Ouch!...Sounds like a ball busting scorned women lol.I'm sure women have a problem getting anything out of them because women seem to be PMSing around the clock.

lolxxx. well i feel we ladies go through alot for a guy. But they dont think about what we go through for them.when we ask them to do one or two things for us they begin to free we are selfish and insecure. 
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Here in lies the problem.women are always about women & men are always about men.the sex's are so caught up in what they get or don't get they can not ever see past them self's.women say i don't get this & men say i don't get that.when are the sex's gonna make it about the other & ask what do you need instead of what "I" want,want,want.

I agree...seems to never register in those peanut brains of theirs. Women are also demanding because we've been walked all over in the past trying not to be demanding, so now we don't settle for less.

demand her to shut up and see what she says... nuthin. Exactly. If your a weak guy it will be the otherway around. smh.

A: because men are absolutely CLUELESS!
Men know what they want -and for most, it isn't very difficult to comprehend (in fact, we [generally]don't even have to think about it -we just want it). We don't even need anything, unless we're somehow reminded of its absence... We could sip a brewski and swing in a hammock until the end of time if something did not stir us from our stupor (whether internal or external).
Women, on the other hand (from what I've seen), not only need and want, but FEEL their needs and wants -something about them constantly reminds them of what is lacking -makes them feel ill-at-ease unless those things are satisfied -and they also consciously consider their wants and needs... and they're not wrong to do so.
It doesn't matter what you think ...men and women are (at least should be) ..whether by design or selection ..complimentary.
We men tend to think we owe nothing,
but we owe women respect, honor and consideration (-because they are.. and more so.. because they are more than what they were..)
and we usually don't give it.

Because, women are products of Satan!

Well yah -there's that, too... :op

LOL you made soda squirt out of my nose with that comment.

Ohhh yeah please define "demanding"

The essential differences between men and women can be found on how they are raised by their parents. Boys (remember this is a generalization) are raised sternly by there father to tow the line, be responsible. Little girls are daddy's little darling and with smiles and sensitivity (oh, you make me cry) pretty much can get away with anything. So little girls learn young they can make demands on daddy. A ploy that generalizes to all males, in time. The problem is that during the courtship ritual young males do not confront this egocentric behavior (which is childlike behavior) and then become victims of it. The long range problem is even worse in marriage, the male failing to confront the young lady tires of the egocentricity of the behavior and either confronts her (leading to some serious strife) or ignores her demands, which infuriates her because her demands are not being met.

Oh, regarding your girlfriend, I would suggest a courteous confrontation explaining mutual boundrys and respect. If this doesn't work, don't make yourself a victim, there are plenty of healthy adult women out there. Good luck

Gentleforce....now that's some good advice with some sound reasoning behind it...I must say that I agree with your suggestion. I would take your advise if I were in this guys shoes.

soda out the nose?........damn that burns..........Ladies please..not all men are like the ones most of you have apparantly encountered...some of us are quite well balanced and DO have a clue and do NOT need to be told "20 times"....don't generalize....you might just miss out on a good man.

^_^ dood, I think situations like that are great, I mean anticipate what she wants and/or needs. Get some damned initiative and make it happen. If you dont know what she wants or need's then maybe you need to get to know her better, if thats asking to much, brake up.
But Really the turn around will be sweet or should I say cute girlfriend. (opposed to angry)

Ask yourself this question. "would you rather be right, or happy?" Now don't be a pussy and let anyone walk all over you. You can be strong but at least ONCE, you must be willing to compromise if you expect any relationship to work. This is where mutual respect for one another begins.

Very well put. You should NEVER let/allow a woman go to lengths of holding such behaviour against you, leave alone portraying it in the form you describe as a 'fit.' If you give people an inch, next minute they take a mile. Before you know it, she'll be slapping you in public-maybe i'm exaggerating but the principle remains. There're ways of making known what you want but temper tantrums are a childs behaviour. So i don't think it's selfish or insecure, but childish and manipulative.

Ah, this is an ongoing problem and I'm not sure why it happens, but I agree that it's best to confront this behavior early. I wasted YEARS trying to satisfy my wife's every need and now I just don't care. The marriage is ending because she insists on being miserable until I "do" something about her misery... and I won't.

In all the years we've been married she never once concerned herself with my misery, you know? When I treat her as badly as she treats me, the marriage ends. I should have ditched her years ago.

Women are demanding because I demand they be that way. Fuck the rest of you idiots. I love to see women bitch at you lazy ass ungrateful pieces of shit. I want my woman to voice what she wants...lets me know her need for requested subject is important and I'm helping my partner out. In my house a woman/wife is also bi and also fucks my friends when the stars are lined right. And if you took her pants and panties down, without her telling you to, and she's looking at a couple cocks doing nothing at all, I'll goddamn guarantee she'll demand somebody to fuck her. I enjoy that. I also appreciate a woman who can use a vibrator to her satisfaction, enough so I hear her screaming, as it's gonna be an all nighter for me and she knows I won't be able to climb in bed with her all night to help her out. You other dumb fuckers won't even let your wife get fucked by your friends on occasion or take her simplest requests as important so you piss her off and she's only demanding now cuz your such a bastard she wishes she had a gun but doesn't, and she's thinking you don't realize what a lucky fucker you are. Quit Whining and Praise god for Pussy.

She's demanding because you let her be demanding. You put up with it, therefore, she sees that you'll put up with it and that you accept that type of behavior from the women you date (most men do). You should have laid down the law the first time she started acting up. I'm not talking about controlling her - but simply letting her know where your boundaries are - what's OK, what's not OK, and where the door is. She already knows you'll put up with her behavior - so anything you say or do now to correct it will be viewed as a bluff - so be prepared to FOLLOW THROUGH if you try correcting this and MAYBE it will work out. That said, if she's your GF and not your wife, I'd say move on. It's much easier to start fresh with a new girl than someone you've already trained to behave the wrong way. That's right YOU allowed this to happen. Move on, figure out what you want, and don't let it happen again. I'm not saying this can't be corrected, it really depends on how long you've been dating - but it's an uphill battle for sure.

WE DEMANDING UGHH!! Well we like to have our way yes of course :) what woman wouldn't want it this way... but at the end of u pleasing her I'm pretty she repays u right bak ..thats the it should be..just saying :)

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