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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

Why do women seem to have difficulty telling us guys what they want?

Why do they seem to have problems communicating intimately?

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gentleforce

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You are barking up the wrong tree on this one Thunderstorm59, psychological studies for the last fifty years confirm that women are better communicators and more emotionally open than men. It is not that it is difficult for women to communicate intimacy, but that they must trust the person that they are communicating with to share that part of themselves. If you practice open honest communication without an agenda, where the woman gains trust in you, then you will find that there is no such problem.

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thunderstorms59

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what you say is only partically true gentleforce I am more then familar with teh psych studies, they did not measure sexual intimate communication in these studies, but the ability to express, love, anger, sadness emotional state. Women yes tend to communicate their emotions more openly on average than men. Us guys were taught to suppress emotions. And again you are correct on good open non-judgmental communication and trust is key for a woman opening up. However when it comes to communication sexual fantasies women fall behind men. They grow up with taboo's that masterbation is bad, and your a slut if you have sex, expressing sexual fantasies...etc... it is usually not until women hit late 30's or 40's for them to over come they negatives they have but taught about sex. This is not the case for men for the most part.

Just take a look at the survey on fantasies.. there is far more known and written on male fantasies than womens. Anyone can ryhm off the top male fantasies. But you can say what the top two female fatansies are?

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gentleforce

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You have to be kidding, we were not discussing sexual fantasies but communication of emotional sexual typically call intamicies. It helps to stay on the topic. What I said is true of that subject.

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thunderstorms59

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Reply to: You have to be kidding, we were not discussing sexual fantasies but communicati...
a fine line... communicating fantasies is part of intimacy and this is a problem area for most women.

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gentleforce

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Thunder... this is pointless, you don't seem able to stay on the subject or to comprehend another point of view. Frankly I don't see how you could possibly manage a long term relationship with an intelligent woman.

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gentleforce

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Thunder... this is pointless, you don't seem able to stay on the subject or to comprehend another point of view. Frankly I don't see how you could possibly manage a long term relationship with an intelligent woman.

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thunderstorms59

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People only see and hear what they wish. Since.. this is may form and not yours. perhaps it is you, that are failing to stay on subject or comprehend others points of view.. you seem to be too busy trying to tell me what my forms are about. Is that exactly what your are doing?

The point of this form is the fact that women have problems expressing their sexual fanaties, which in intimate communication, but not emotion. The oppertunity in thi form is for women to express their fantasies in a non threatening environment. There are probably guys out here too that would like to understand what women fantasize about. Understanding that just might make us better lovers.. do you agree??

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A little less t...

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# 1>>>>>>>& gt; Hmmmmm the first question.I don't know of to many women who have a hard time telling their partner what they want...it's more like getting their partner to comply without out having to be asked several time's. Until they wind up hearing the >>>YES DEAR <-like OK i'll do it so u will stop bitching attitude.... How ever the problem I see is how they ask them, they more like tell them like they would tell a child instead of asking you with respect and as you're partner.
# 2Why do they seem to have problems communicating intimately?>>>>> ;
Can't n wont answer for anyone but myself, I have no problem communicating with my partner intimately or not. People are not mind reader's although many people think other's are.. if one is comfortable and has trust in their partner ( AS YOU FULLY SHOULD)there should be no issue with communication's or expressing anything to each other.

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gentleforce

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Thunder.... the word is not form, it is forum. Look I apologize for getting so personal obviously a phys. ed. major could not be expected to be knowledgeable about human relations. Have a good day. Oh, just a suggestion, why don't you stick to sports something you may know something about.

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just living ma ...

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Well i think most ladies dont want their bfs to think they are dirty or bad.cause their bfs might look at them differently.


xxxxx

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thunderstorms59

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sawyerrp.. thanks for sharing... some men my feel that way.. but I feel sad for them. For me I want my partner to share her fantasies with me... I will most likely fulfill them for her. That takes trust and respect. You shoulkd never fear of sharing your fantasies with your partner.. I you don't feel comfortable with doign that with him then he is not right for you.

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*Sliver!*

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Actually gentleforce is right all the way. We don't have a problem communicating our fantasies and sexual wants to a man, but we also need to trust that man is going to be understanding and actually DO the things we want.

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thunderstorms59

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Gentle... you need to be educated.. about us athletes, coaches sports psyshologists.. In order to perform and get others to perform at the highest levels we know more about human nature, the mind, relationships and yes communication too. I may not be very good at it, but others must think so becuase the pay me lots of money to do want I do.. I am still learning and will always be.

Just to give you some guidence you have a DC personality.. your need to correct my my spelling shows that part of your personality. Smart intelligent perfectionist, details, task oriented. demanding driving.. I can go on. Your weakness it that no one can tell you you are wrong, you have to read and research it yourself. The world in imprefect and so are you as well as me.. accept it and life will be more fun... Do not take what a wrote here as being offensive. It is just leaned knowledge,, that a profiler learns to do for business and certain government adgencies... Read a book called "Postive personality profiles" by robert rohm... I think you'll find it to be an amazing book.

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AmyStixChick

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Reply to: Gentle... you need to be educated.. about us athletes, coaches sports psysholog...
I am one of those women, who for the past several years has had issues in telling my man what I want period. I was very, ummm, quiet about my needs. Now, I'm not, because I realized that most men want to know what I think/feel. I am willing to share with someone my intimate feelings, but they have to get to know me first. I will NOT share anything intimate with anyone until I'm comfortable with them. THen, its game on, and they shouldn't hold back with me either. If you ever wanna see me come out of my shell, be open with me, I'll return the favor.

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gentleforce

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Thunder.....you must be kidding you have a phys ed degree and I am a psych degree and you are telling me that being a coach makes you an expert. My friend, you don't have a clue and I am very sorry to hear that you are being paid for your services. It is half educated arrogant people such as yourself, who truly believe that they are knowledgeable, but are completely in the dark, who give the field a bad name. I feel sorry for you, you just don't have the horsepower to be in the profession of helping other people. I was correcting your spelling because it is clear that you can't possible have a higher education when you can't spell, misquote statistics, and don't understamd basoc concepts, Don't bother me further, you are only am minor irritant.

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A little less t...

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Come on you two STOP THE BICKERING! This forum is for other's including myself n you're self to express you're and for other's to express their view's and feeling towards a subject at hand......Many people have a degree, But that doesn't mean that they know it all....As far as stooping so low to correct someone's spelling is a bit immature .. NONE is perfect for everyone has their fault's and disability within themselves ... weather it be physical, in spelling, math , knowledge ect.surely you both get my drift. You both are educated men and what a blessing it is that you both were able to attend collage to obtain a degree, many were or are not that fortunate, But that doesn't make them any less of a person. I always believe before one stoops so low to attack another person no matter what the subject at hand is.That they turn the mirror on themselves first. As far as the spelling goes you both have misspelled word's but that's not to say it wasn't a hit of the wrong key or a key didn't hit when one pressed it..I am very guilty of misspelling word's, Hell I am the first to admit, I can't spell worth a chit, But I definitely don't need someone to inform me of something I already know ... You both have great reply's and knowledge but to fight with one another for their belief is a bit wrong on my belief, As the saying goes, Right, Wrong or Indifferent one may be , their feeling's still need to be respected.......okokk Heyyyyyyyyy I'm just voicing my opinion! AND YOU BOTH HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY! OK HERE'S A JOKE
NOW SMILE DAMIT OR YOU TWO WILL JUST HAVE TO GET A SPANKING LOL

One morning, the husband returns the boat to their lakeside cottage after several hours of fishing and decides to take a nap.
Although not familiar with the lake, the wife decides to take the boat out.
She motors out a short distance, anchors, puts her feet up, and begins to read her book.
The peace and solitude are magnificent.
Along comes a Fish and Game Warden in his boat. He pulls up alongside the woman and says, "Good morning, Ma'am. What are you doing?"
"Reading a book," she replies, (thinking isn't that obvious?).
"You're in a Restricted Fishing Area," he informs her.
"I'm sorry, officer, but I'm not fishing. I'm reading."
"Yes, but I see you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment.
I'll have to take you in and write you up."
"If you do that, I'll have to charge you with sexual assault," the woman says.
"But, I haven't even touched you!" says the Game Warden.
"That's true, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment."
"Have a nice day, ma'am" said the Game Warden, and he left........ LMAOOOOOO



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thunderstorms59

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I see you can't spell either gentle. you you know dick all about that stats. The way you communicate shows that you have a superiorty attitude but yet appear to know nothing. It is funny how people judge a higher education.. seems your measure is spelling and it seems you don't measure up to your own measurement. I can give a rats ass of what you think. I haven't scene anything that you've contributed of significance here gentle.. other than your whinning and providing me with some minor level of amusment.

You have to think again Gentle... what the hell are you doing in my forum?? Are you afraid you might learn something??

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thunderstorms59

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Reply to: I see you can't spell either gentle. you you know dick all about that stats. Th...
Bring it on, I ... thanks for the laugh...LMAO you forgot pig headed too...LOL

Okay you can spank me know I missed behaved....


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thunderstorms59

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Reply to: Bring it on, I ... thanks for the laugh...LMAO you forgot pig headed too...LO...
Now back to the topic..

I would love to hear from the ladies.

I have dated some women that once the trust is there, will share there fantasies, but others that say they really don't fantasize.

I guess I thought we all did... any comments for the ladies?

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thunderstorms59

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Reply to: Now back to the topic.. I would love to hear from the ladies. I have dated s...
Okay latest survey says women prefer sweets to sex with their partner...

What do the ladies say here?

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joeandmanny

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life begins

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just living ma ...

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life goes on.

lol
x

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thunderstorms59

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Reply to: life goes on. lol x
does that mean life is a box of chocolates? LOL

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69mindfreak69

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Why do women seem to have difficulty telling us guys what they want?

Why do they seem to have problems communicating intimately?
Well this is a very simple answer.they all want a Joker.their dingy to the fact that men aren't physics.

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