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Manila rose

Joined: 7/23/2004

What would you say if you accidently bumped into your ex? Mine would be:

" You look well preserved...must be the alcohol."

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SuzEQ

Joined: 6/29/2009

I would say "hey, whats up?" smile and keep on going. (-:

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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

I can SOOOOO relate to that!

I don't bump into mine too often,but we usually are decent to each other.I might say something like: "Well,I am off to do whatever "I" want to do."...

AND YOU CAN'T STOP ME!

LOL ;)

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

If I bumped into mine we'd be bumping into each other for long periods of time..



My ex still turns me on.

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The Chino

Joined: 8/26/2005

I would say absolutely nothing to 83% of my exes. That's only because out of the 6 that I have had some sort of a relationship with, there is but one that I still talk to on a semi-regular basis. Other than that, don't know you, don't care to know you, don't wanna know you -- End of Story.

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anonymous1

Joined: 8/15/2008






Now that my daughter is old enough to call me, and come see me on her own....

I don't EVER talk, or listen to my ex, FINALLY!!!!!!

OOOHHHH YEAHHHHHH!!!!

Thank you Jesus!

I waited 14 years, just to to be able to ignore her; I don't plan on hearing another word out of her, ever again.

I don't even look at her, because...

I don't have to!





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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

Reply to: Now that my daughter is old enough to call me, and come see me on her own.....
I thought I would be lucky and not have to deal with my ex now that my kids got cell phones,but NOoooOOO.My ex will still call ME instead of them.*sigh*
There should be a law against it....

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cutiepie007

Joined: 3/25/2009

Nothing at all - everything that has needed to be said has been said.....every chapter is nicely closed.

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

my ex and i are actually friends now. that is a good thing as we share grandkids and all. he will stop by to just check on me and see how things are going. occasionally we eat a meal together. his wife knows it is okay between us and doesn't seem to mind.

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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

Reply to: my ex and i are actually friends now. that is a good thing as we share grandki...
It's cool to "get along" when there are kids and grandkids around.Alot of times,the parents try to turn the kids against the other parent.

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Manila rose

Joined: 7/23/2004

Reply to: It's cool to "get along" when there are kids and grandkids around.Alot of times...
It's cool to "get along" when there are kids and grandkids around.Alot of times,the parents try to turn the kids against the other parent.

Agree. Kids shouldn't take sides. I never said bad things to my kids about their father and I don't discourage them from remembering the good times either especially those that involves their father.

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HEART QUEEN

Joined: 12/9/2008

My ex is a self centered woman hating/player. I had a few encounters with him recently that were not very pretty. He acted like a complete self centered idiot in front of a whole lot of people.
The big problem is that he has this control issue. He controls my kids to an unhealthy extreme just as he did with me in our marriage. What marriage?!! That was no marriage.
If I could really tell him how I feel. It wouldn't do any good. He thinks he never ever did anything wrong in his life and still feels that way.

I call him the King of the Abusive Male generation.

I can discourage my kids from saying anything against him but they tell me all the time that they hate him, despise him and can't wait until they are old enough to not have to be around him.I tell them they shouldn't feel that way cause he is still their dad and they tell me they don't care.

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

you are doing all that you can to be fair, it would seem.

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Manila rose

Joined: 7/23/2004

Reply to: My ex is a self centered woman hating/player. I had a few encounters with him ...
Kids are smarter than we give them credit for. I guess it's different when there's custody arrangements, my kids father is no longer involve with their lives, so I try to let them know it's okay to remember the "good dad". Life is hard as it is from a dysfunctional family, the lesser the baggage they have to carry,the easier they can handle life...I hope....God...I hope.

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anonymous1

Joined: 8/15/2008





The other night my last girlfriend called out of the blue, it went like this...



The phone rang, I picked it up before the first ring was done, and said Hi my true love! I lovvvve you!

It was quiet....

I said my lady's name...

The X: I thought you were calling ME your true love!...(Long pause).....You're not gonna give me another chance, are you?

Me: I have a girlfriend, I'm waiting for her call right now. Phone off.



Not that she would have a chance if I was single. LMFAO

Being truly happy is the best revenge, I could not have planned it better.

The last time I called her, she wouldn't talk, her "X" answered her phone.


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What Sanity

Joined: 5/9/2009

Probably say "Fuck you!"

Maybe i would say that. Depends on the day.

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John lee

Joined: 3/16/2004

Come see... I want to introduce you to your children...

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masaa

Joined: 2/1/2009

Reply to: My ex is a self centered woman hating/player. I had a few encounters with him ...
"I tell them they shouldn't feel that way"

??Duh! How on earth do you tell how they 'shouldn't' feel!

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HEART QUEEN

Joined: 12/9/2008

I will not discredit their father to them. It's wrong to poison a child's mind against the other parent. I don't pressure them and tell them they aren't allowed to feel. I encourage them to respect their dad.In the end they know that I haven't talked against their dad. They draw their conclusions on how to feel based on how he acted and treated them. They know the difference between a dad that controls and probes them for information and talks against me and encourages them to be against me and a mom that lets them feel and doesn't pressure them or annoy them about their dad.They already know he's a creep.But he'll always be their dad.I tell them they shouldn't feel that way because I didn't raise them to hate.

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masaa

Joined: 2/1/2009

Reply to: I will not discredit their father to them. It's wrong to poison a child's mind ...
I don't have children but I can see your point. Nonetheless, i feel that with anyone regardless of whether they are children or not, negative feelings that emanate from people who are close to us are only best realised and felt by those who bear them. In a sense, it's 'best' true to them. Besides, saying that you didn't raise them to hate is a biased reflection. Do children have to be what their parents raise them to be. Are they ever individual agencies who are free to feel, experience, and respond to external stimulation whether good or bad, without the parent blaming self or claiming credit for it. If they were geniuses, would you say you didn't raise them to be thaat clever? I'm not in any way questioning yr parenting skills,or lecturing-if anything, i'm not even in a position to do that-but just stating what i personally believe. That children know much than adults think they do, and whether you raised them to hate or not, the feelings that cause them to hate are only true to them not anyone else, hence it's not yr 'raising them' as such, but their resonse to displeasure, which will continue to be theirs.

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HEART QUEEN

Joined: 12/9/2008

Yeah, I understand what you are saying.

If I tell them what an idiot they think he is , that would be considered poisoning their mind. In my state this can be used against me in court or by an agency that of human services.They would consider it not in the child's best interest.Divorce and custody judges would consider it in their decisions concerning custody and have been known to hold a parent in contempt of a custody/visitation order.
a child psychologist would say that a child cannot process what the parents feel for each other.
But what the children feel cannot be stopped. They feel what they feel.
When my children talk against their dad.. I do listen because I do need to know..I have to respond to them..so I tell them they shouldn't hate their dad.But I don't encourage hate. I don't totally discourage it if they insist that they feel a certain way. I need to know why.

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masaa

Joined: 2/1/2009

Reply to: Yeah, I understand what you are saying. If I tell them what an idiot they thin...
I don't know much about your laws there, but i believe that any court of law would consider with paramount importance, the views of children. When you say "if i tell them what an idiot they think he is...", they already think he is an idiot, so that wouldn't be you telling them. I don't see how it wouldn't be considered being in the childs best interest, unless you are saying that it's in the child best interest not to acknowledge their true feelings. I feel the onus is not on them to not hate but on their father to change. That's all i'm willing to say on this topic, i'm sure you know more than I do, but thanks.

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masaa

Joined: 2/1/2009

If me and my ex met, and we were both single, we would fuck. Definitely! or so she thinks lol..poor soul.

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Manila rose

Joined: 7/23/2004

Reply to: If me and my ex met, and we were both single, we would fuck. Definitely! or so ...
After a couple of thought provoking replies from you...you come up with this one...another thought provoking...well at least as far as you ex is concerned...your ex will go..."should I or should I not F&@*k"..the answer to her question will hinge on the momories of whether she finds you a good lay...

Cheers mate!!!!

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anonymous1

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My daughters mother just passed me in a truck yelling.
I walked about a block, and heard her yell SHIT!
I turned around and saw that she was running after me, but dropped something.
When she turned around to pick it up, I ditched her.
I haven't spoken a word to her in years.
I'd sure like to keep it that way.


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