My husband of 11 years recently dumped me for another woman. I spent every day of our marriage spoiling the hell out of him. Doing everything he wanted in bed, around the house, and for him. One day he looked at me and said, "If you have a three way, I'll stay." So, much to my shame, I did. I didn't want to lose my husband. The next day, he packed his things and said, "I was just having fun." He told me he was bored, and left. He moved in with another woman the same day. Is it so hard to find a man that will be kind and faithful?

In this day and age, it does seem like a chore to find that one person who is everything they say they are and more. Very rare to find one, but it does happen. I'm sorry about your husband doing what he did. There is no excuse for any of that.

Try to focus on yourself for now and do what needs to be done on your end.

very good advice Chino

It's possible that because u did everything for him that he felt like he could walk all over u and expect u to do everything for him. If u made him do more things aroun the house and general things for u instead of putting him always first he would respect u a little more an have more desire for u.

Either way he sounds like a douche for asking for a threesome w his wife and then leaving. But at the same time if u only were doin the threesome to keep him I shoulda realized that wasn't gonna work. He's not gonna fall back in love w u just cause u were willing to do a threeway

Consider yourself in good company and take some lessons from the rich and famous:

Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger ... divorcing because of his
"dirty deed" I gauarentee she wont cry over him long..

Prince William broke up with Kate a few times to whore around...
She fixed herself up... lived like she was having a ball, had her picture taken while out with other guys having fun...
and left him wondering.. Look what happened to her...


I'm sure you've read of your favorite movie star or singer ... getting dumped or cheated on.... Just do what she is doing...
The best revenge is "looking better and living well"..
and when he begs you to let him come back... tell him ... "not til he signs a prenup"

CB

I feel your pain! Being cheated on is no fun and it hurts too. When we love enough to do "whatever" it takes to keep him and then its still not enough is even more hurtful. The truth is...we are better off without them. Mourn your loss, heal and find a man that will love you and only you...he's out there...and chin up....hugs!

You don't earn someone's Love... You don't earn someone's willingness to progress in a relationship with you... You Love, Live and Learn... "Learn, not Earn"!

He lost respect for you after the threesome. You should have shown him the door instead.

She shouldn't have lowered herself to give him the threesome to begin with.

There's nothing wrong with having a threesome, but all parties should be in it for the right reasons. Clearly, these were not the right reasons.

There is nothing to mourn over because it is not a loss! If you mourn over this then you will tend to repeat this cycle... Break Bad, Break the Cycle... No one man is any better than the woman that stands behind him? That's bullshit and said all the time! Be Your Own Self, Individul and Caring Person... Don't ever let anyone's Ego take you by surprise - Know them, See them Coming, Know what it is that makes him who he Is and Never Change What Makes You, "You"...

She shouldn't have lowered herself to give him the threesome to begin with.

That was my point.

nicely,put,direct :} can't go no clearer than that!!

Shott, I agree with what you said...perhaps I should have worded it differently...she's been hurt, she has a right to mourn...it is an ending...she deserves better and you're right, he was not a loss especially since he didnt feel the same way towards her as she did him...but the fact remains she is still hurting and she has the right to mourn the loss of what "she thought she had with him". I am so in agreement with how you said, not in these exact words, but to be true to yourself...thanks

Agree on all levels with ya'...

you deserve to have someone better, there must be a very good man for you out there, be strong. happiness will smile to you again

if you look closely...cheaters hate themselves. They are self-loathing, neurotic messes. that's why they cheat because they know they are no good. They use, abuse and move on. You were a good wife and you should give yourself kudos for that. Don't let this guy take away from the wonderful person you are. 4 real.

I don't think you have found the right man even throughout the whole marriage. I think there's someone out for you.