Have you ever had someone purposefully sabotage your relationships, or in any other way try to control or wreck your life, head or chances at happiness? Who, how, why, etc....?

Or -southern style... Has anyone ever been all up in your bidness?

I had a friendship of mine ruined for awhile. His girlfriend hated him being friends with women. She was horribly jealous and controlling and did everything to ruin our friendship.


She's gone now and paying the price for messing with his life and with mine.

You should do a TV show like people's court, but for relationships.

Why would I do that?

OK -you shouldn't. I'm too old and wise to risk starting an argument with you.
:op (not to mention out of my league)

is that all u could come upo with omg..

Well at least he realized he's way out of his league!

try changing the conversation to something else, and move on.

That was random.

Nah ... no one ever thought I was important enough to "be all up in my bidness" guess I'm lucky!

You're really lucky. I've had so many people obsessed with my life it's disgusting.

Here's the secret Mama Bear, act like you don't give a shit, they will lose interest and go push some else's buttons.

Look at it this way:
If what they say about you is true you got no beef coming
If what they say about you is a lie, YOU know it's a lie, you got no beef coming

Either way you got no beef coming. Look at it that way an no one will ever be able to push your buttons.

Well I never said it bothers me. It actually amuses me. If your life sucks so much that you have to get into MINE, you have issues.

True that!

I have had people sabotage relationships.

I would really love to know what makes them tick. What does go on in their sad warped minds? Of course they have issues on top of issues on top of other issues.

Pushing one's buttons is a part of it -but it can be much worse and not always something that can simply be ignored.

....and I could come up with lots of things, but it's pointless -you don't mess with DB -she'll wear you down -best rec'nize. Speaking of which.... we haven't heard from a certain mindfreak lately... I hope she knows I'm teasing (gulp)

"I would really love to know what makes them tick. What does go on in their sad warped minds? Of course they have issues on top of issues on top of other issues."

I think it all boils down to that green eyed monster jealousy. The forms of jealousy are almost endless but, stated simply, they want what you have and it drives them crazy that you have it and they don't.

True -the difference between wanting and appreciating -between covetousness and absolute positive regard. Love is wanting what is best FOR someone -not what is best OF someone.

yeah I have had that done....it actually was what happened in my last relationship. It was a kid I was friends with for ten years, he liked my gf and wanted her so he told her a bunch of lies and then he got her sleep with him...and because of everything he said and did he wasnt the only "friend" she turned to, she the sucked off another one...yeah it was a rough break up...that type of shit is hard to get over and let go...but I have.....

Ugh sounds to me like she was just a whore.

My first marriage split up over a lot of people interfering. We were high school sweethearts and everyone was against us being together. His father did not want him to marry me, my parents did not want us together and our best friends were against it also. DANG I just read what I wrote and no wonder we did not work out lol. After we split up his best friend told me that he was in love with me and that he had been for awhile. My ex then proceeded to tell me that his "best" friend lead him to believe that there was something going on bewteen us. It was all so sad, he was my first love, and I will always love him. But things happen for a reason, I have three beautiful children from my second marriage who I love beyond belief. I do still kinda wonder what would have happened if people had just left us alone though........anyways all water under the bridge :)

My whole thought on this subject (for what it's worth) is if someone is able to sabotage and wreak havoc on whatever relationship you are in or were in.. that relationship probably wasn't too strong to begin with.

I actually agree with that.

I have never allowed that to happen!

I'd rather be known as a fool in love, than foolish.

that is true. my ex brother-in-law tried to talk my ex out of marrying me. i held a grudge against him for a long time. he tried about 7 yrs later into the marriage. ex had an affair and he let them come to his place. but thru all of that we were still together for 32 yrs so i guess i really can't say that he succeeded in his efforts.