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Klee88

Joined: 6/21/2013

I love being in a polyamorous relationship with my boyfriend. We are looking for a girlfriend for a long term commitment. Anyone else interested in Polyamory/Polygamy/Polygyny/Po lyandry?

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*ultimate*

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I'm confused ! if you are with each other ,,then who would be with the other girl ?

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jem1987

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I've done the open thing before. I was actually a 2nd girlfriend. It was fun for the time, but it was never meant to last long term. I love open relationships, I think I'd prefer to be in one, although for me, it doesn't work well being open emotionally, only physically. I hope you find the right girl though! :)

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Klee88

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thank you

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jem1987

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Polyamorous relationships can be quite successful. Long term ones are often happier than long term monogamous ones.

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*ultimate*

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Yeah but how does it work..?
Does they guy sleep with Gf one night and then the other gf on another night ?
Do all three have sex together ..will the 2 girls sleep together ?

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jem1987

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Every relationship is different. The one I was in, I was sort if a 2nd girlfriend. I only met the other girl a couple times, otherwise it was just he and I. It was very much the same as any relationship when we were together. Except that I could do whatever I wanted when I wasn't with him. It was wonderful. But there are a million variations when it comes to open relationships. It can range from a monogamous couple that has a threesome once every few years to people that are completely open and have no commitment whatsoever. And everything in between. It just depends on the people involved.

I can tell you one major difference I see between many monogamous relationships, including the two I was in, and open relationships. Generally, communication and trust are much stronger in open relationships. It takes people who are confident and comfortable with themselves to be able to do it. With the wrong people, it's disastrous. But with the right people, it's wonderful. Then again, that's true of any kind of relationship.

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*ultimate*

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It sounds like no true love in the relationship...just selfish kinky behavior

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jem1987

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Polyamory is multiple loves. It's all about love. Just loving more than one person. That's a lot more love than in a monogamous relationship. Polyandry is when you're open purely physically, I believe. But polyamory is all about the love.

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*ultimate*

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I wouldn't want my wife sharing her love and I'm sure you wouldn't want to have your husband sharing his love..its disrectful towards the relationship ..

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jem1987

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It's not disrespectful if you both want it.

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nighthowl50

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heck I couldn't even date more than one guy at a time. my hubby keeps me busy now. :)

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Nitzynelle

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Reply to: I wouldn't want my wife sharing her love and I'm sure you wouldn't want to have...
Let me get in...I would like to start with the 3 types of love the a man have..
1st. the Eros love- known as erotic love..based on strong feelings but more on physical traits..And Polygamy/polyamory relationships falls on this type of love..gives ME happiness..but lesser percent of true love to the fact that without more acquaintances..just to have pleasure..SEX. "Just emotion without the balance of logic... is a good recipe for failure".
**So it doesn't mean disrespectful..if there's an agreement for both party. Just love of multiple partners."

2nd. Philos love- love based on friendship bet.two people..more on give and take...

3rd is the Agape love the highest among the three love...more on selfless love.

In essence Eros love is Physical..... Philos love is Mental... And Agape love is Spiritual.. Thus it made up of the three fundamental elements of human.

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jem1987

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Reply to: Let me get in...I would like to start with the 3 types of love the a man have.....
Polyamory is NOT about sex. It literally means multiple loves. It's about multiple relationships. So unless you mean all loving relationships are based on sex, then this is a false connection. Polygamy also does not fall under this because it involves multiple relationships. Unless of course it's just some King in the past with a harem, but that is not the same as a man with 2 or 3 wives, like we know polygamists today. These relationships take a lot of work and a lot of love, more work than any monogamous relationship. Polyandry is the one that refers to having multiple partners purely for sex.

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*ultimate*

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I don't think these people existed in my neighborhood growing up...
Women and men stayed together with very few break ups..and no one shared their love..that would be considered disrespectful..see the world changing ..

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jem1987

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Monogamy is actually new in human history. All cultures, pre-agriculture, were multi - gender, multi-sexual. Meaning they all shared each other. They shared food, they shared resources and they shared sex. Very much like our bonobo and chimpanzee cousins do.

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Nitzynelle

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Reply to: Polyamory is NOT about sex. It literally means multiple loves. It's about mult...
Thank you for the explanation.

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jem1987

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Well that's not fair if you can play and your girl can't.

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jem1987

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Doesn't have to be kinky sex.

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*ultimate*

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Ha ! Whatever u call it ...she would never !

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Nitzynelle

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Is it not a kind of desrespectful things to ur real girl... if keeping untruely love ready for playing such kinky doings together with???

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Nitzynelle

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If your mate wants you only....It is also pretty sure that she/he wants her/him alone in you...where there is always fairness for both.

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