Thank you, I have asked him about maybe seeing someone and he cused me out. I am really not sure if he has cheated I keep telling myself he would not the collage job is out of state so he stays the week and comes home on weekends and the last week he was there he came home with a sore penus he said it was because he had jacked off several times which is something he does alot here at home and I have never seen him get sore before:( I am really leaning towards moving on I am old fashion as well and this is a first for me I feel like I have waisted 4 years of my life and at my age that is alot!

Kyssi, you are not at all stupid and you realize this.  You have the ability to figure things out by yourself - and it appears to me that all your thinking is correct.  You were wise to move out.  You are smart to see through his BS stories.  4 years is 4 years too long, but look at it as training so that you will appreciate the next man more than ever.  No past experience is ever a loss, but when you finally get the lesson, it is time to move on.  I suggest that it is time for you to move on.  He is not your responsibility.  YOU are your responsibility.

sweet-n-simple, I have been everything you could imagine but lived long enough to awaken and change.  I can blame the culture.  I can blame my family upbringing.  I can blame everything else, other than myself, but I know NOW that the "cure" has always been within ME. Factors were just factors and the best helping hand in life was always at the end of my arm.  Today, I wonder how I could have tolerated my past behavior.  I also notice that my friends and acquaintences today are not at all like those of older days.  So, evolution of an entire life begins within. Both you and Kyssi are due for major change - just please don't stand in front of the truck carrying goodness for you both.  :-)

Once a cheater always cheated.
The issue here in both situations is compatibility.
Men wander when there is a thirst that is not satisfied.
Sad but true.
When more women realize the power they poses the stronger they empower themselves.
Crude Rude whatever - the vagina is more powerful then a huge scrapyard magnet. 
Now I'm not pointing fingers but a little bit of female toughness ends uncertainty.
I give lectures for women who need to take charge of their inner self to portray a more confident outer self.

To your comment most men are pigs... I don't want to open that can, however I will add... Pigs are fine being DIRTY...are all WOMEN?  Whole pigs are served with an Apple wedged in their mouths... (How is your pig served...how many times have you greeted him at the front door on your knees in a Frenchmaid's outfit without panties, unzipped his pants and performed oral sex on him with the front door still open?) Think he would stray, if he looked forward to that to end his day?

"I have a headache."
"My monthly visitor is still here."
"I look fat today."
"I have to get up early."
"I have to feed the baby."
"American Idol is on!"
"The kids will hear..."
"Your mom is in the next room."
"I have a scrap booking party at Peggy Sue's cousins hair dressers house."

Then KICK him to the curb.  Men & Women are like city buses, in about 15 minutes another will pull up, still stink and require a nominal investment to start the ride.  The longer you hold on, the more costly the fare gets.

No one needs to be a martyr.  Don't assume u are stuck.  Don't let anyone off the hook easy - man or woman... A relationship is like the mortgage crisis.  Many couples are upside down in their relationship too.  Don't wait on the bail out.  Freddie & Fannie 

are as Dead as Bernie.

Life is too short t
o live in fear, doubts or this much stress.  

Some can't or refuse to change... Don't try.  It's ok to look in the mirror and say, oh well, I f'd up.  But I'm going to learn, move forward and try again.

Don't settle.

Don't believe its more comfortable then the unknown.

Can I get an AMEN?

Then KICK him to the curb.  Men & Women are like city buses, in about 15 minutes another will pull up, still stink and require a nominal investment to start the ride.  The longer you hold on, the more costly the fare gets.

No one needs to be a martyr.  Don't assume u are stuck.  Don't let anyone off the hook easy - man or woman... A relationship is like the mortgage crisis.  Many couples are upside down in their relationship too.  Don't wait on the bail out.  Freddie & Fannie 

are as Dead as Bernie.
AMEN!!!!!

Li fe is too short t
o live in fear, doubts or this much stress.  

Some can't or refuse to change... Don't try.  It's ok to look in the mirror and say, oh well, I f'd up.  But I'm going to learn, move forward and try again.

Don't settle.

Don't believe its more comfortable then the unknown.

Can I get an AMEN?