I'm just curious as to how long the members have has a relationship going with someone.I myself have been married for 21 years.She hardly puts out & theirs hardly any communications with us.its truly harder the longer your with someone.I know for i have been living it for 21 years.

2 Years straight. none of that on again off again shit.

18 months.

20 wonderful year's.

10 years for the first, throw in a bunch of counseling and it still didn't last. She was 16 when we started dating and she wanted a chance to go out on dates and have the fun in life that she missed. She eventually remarried and is doing fantastic, matter of fact I called her last week and said happy 25th! I felt kind of stupid and so did she.
The second was for 2.5 years. I had no debt when we got hitched, on our 2nd anniversary I had paid her car off, her school loans off, and her credit card off. Six months later she maxed 5 credit cards out while i was at work for 2 days. 40,000 total on a minivan and and Christmas for her family (Inlaws) I left first of February, broke and in debt the 40k

u got one life if its just the $ thing at this point then u should at least find someone better first and never cheat never, cheat brake it off first

10 years for the first, throw in a bunch of counseling and it still didn't last.  She was 16 when we started dating and she wanted a chance to go out on dates and have the fun in life that she missed. She eventually remarried and is doing fantastic, matter of fact I called her last week and said happy 25th! I felt kind of stupid and so did she.
   The second was for 2.5 years. I had no debt when we got hitched, on our 2nd anniversary I had paid her car off, her school loans off, and her credit card off. Six months later she maxed 5 credit cards out while i was at work for 2 days. 40,000 total on a minivan and and Christmas for her family (Inlaws) I left first of February, broke and in debt the 40k

Seems to me that you cut it off a day late & a doller short.this is why women get a bad name for money grubbers.

2yrs and half.


xxxx

i was married for 31 yrs 364 days lol...yes got divorced one day before 32nd anniversary.
everyone asks...what happened. same old story..we just grew apart. had too many different interests. we are great friends now and i can enjoy the part of him that i used to like. he has married and has found someone to share those interests with him and that is a great thing.

i was married for 31 yrs 364 days lol...yes got divorced one day before 32nd anniversary. everyone asks...what happened. same old story..we just grew apart. had too many different interests. we are great friends now and i can enjoy the part of him that i used to like. he has married and has found someone to share those interests with him and that is a great thing.

Great response, mature, I like that. I was married for thirty years. divorced one month after our thirtieth wedding anniversary. Yes, people ask me the same question, what happened how could you divorce after all those years. Tough question, as you said people change, my ex-wife and I are not quite friends, but get along fairly well. I don't regret, a thing. We raised two wonderful children together and had many years of happiness. It is a unreasonable expectation that life will be perfect or that all couples will find happiness together forever. It doesn't happen, not for the majority of us. I have met several couples happy after a long marriage, one couple I met had been married for sixty nine years and their eyes still shone with love when they looked at each other, so it is possible. They are the fortunate ones and I envy them. But single life isn't bad and who knows maybe someday I will find a love and have another thirty years of marriage. Good luck to all of you.

Unlike some of you who have enjoyed multi-year relationships of more than 3 years, none of mine have ever gone further than 2.5 years. That's primarily because of who I am and what I expect out of a woman. My ex-fiancee lost her engagement ring on two separate occasions in a 6-month span, so irresponsibility on her part is a no-no. She cheated on me so that also contributed to my last relationship going by the wayside and sinking like the Titanic. But it's okay I learned to deal with it. Next time, I will ask to see a complete medical report and proof that you got an IQ of more than 80. *shifty look*

16 years and no regrets. Still good friends. People trully can heal and grow if your are willing to forgive. Doesn't matter if they forgive you for to expect that is to further empower the other person and inhibit your own growth.

Great response, mature, I like that.  I was married for thirty years. divorced one month after our thirtieth wedding anniversary.  Yes, people ask me the same question, what happened how could you divorce after all those years.  Tough question, as you said people change, my ex-wife and I are not quite friends, but get along fairly well.  I don't regret, a thing.  We raised two wonderful children together and had many years of happiness.  It is a unreasonable expectation that life will be perfect or that all couples will find happiness together forever.  It doesn't happen, not for the majority of us.  I have met several couples happy after a long marriage, one couple I met had been married for sixty nine years and their eyes still shone with love when they looked at each other, so it is possible.  They are the fortunate ones and I envy them.  But single life isn't bad and who knows maybe someday I will find a love and have another thirty years of marriage.  Good luck to all of you. 

Well with your age right now are least if you fine another 30 year relationship it will take you to the end of your life about.

my longest relationship was 4 and a half years. we were high school sweet hearts. i was 14 when this jock asked me out i didnt believe it al first cuz i was a nobody back then and one day he came up to me and asked me out and i was like wow. am i dreaming. but we were togther for 4 and a half years and broke it off right after my 18th b day. it was the best 4 years of my life though dont regret it one bit.