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Etritonakin

Joined: 9/11/2008

"Chocolate on my fingers,icing on my lips..
Sugar diabetes and bluuuuuubber on my hips.
I keep the night light burning in the kitchen,baby...So I can go downstairs and cruuuuz.
I got them Oreo creame saaaandwich,choooooocolate coveredcremefilledcooking bluuuuuuuuuuess."

That was hilarious -smurfsational, even -I was blue, but now I'm smiling.

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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

WELL>
The guy I date now kinda annoyed me.My ex invited my kids,and I AND him to come have a cookout(he mainly wanted to see the kids) I told the guy I see and he got an attitude (jealous) and this morning,he text me > Don't worry about comming here,go enjoy your day off at ___(my ex's).
I text him back that I was not going,if anything I was going to drop my kids off and go see him (which niether could go today,son had to work,daughter went to a birthday party),BUT he has not even text me back.Don't know what to think....(?)

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SteveNParkville

Joined: 1/7/2009

Reply to: Kajun we need to write songs together. We would make a killing in Nashville.
*putting on my cowboy hat and boots* I'll sing!

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The Chino

Joined: 8/26/2005

Reply to: WELL> The guy I date now kinda annoyed me.My ex invited my kids,and I AND hi...
He's overly jealous at the fact that you still talk to your ex in any form. If he's that insecure about it, maybe he needs to check himself in the mirror. I know a lot of people who are divorced and still talk to their exes in a civilized, and sometimes friendly, manner, and the people they go with now are accepting of this standard. So maybe, you need to put this guy that you're dating in his place.

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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

Reply to: He's overly jealous at the fact that you still talk to your ex in any form. If...
i just got a text and it said> You said you were going yesterday,which I did NOT..I said I was invited(and him too)

But yea,I don't need a jealous person.Thanks Chino.I kinda knew it all along,but I like having ONE friend.He is the only person that I interact with.
Plus,he IS a good person,just maybe not for me.

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.!.!.!.!.!.

Joined: 7/23/2008

Reply to: i just got a text and it said> You said you were going yesterday,which I did...
Yes Kajun. I will agree with Chino on this one.

He seems a bit insecure and as a result feels he has some control over you.

Unless this is an exclusive relationship, this could be his undoing.

BTW, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

Want me to put him in his place?


I can make him cry for ya...

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The Chino

Joined: 8/26/2005

Reply to: i just got a text and it said> You said you were going yesterday,which I did...
Anytime, Kajun, my dear. Hey, I'm no angel myself. I get jealous as well, but if you have kids with your ex, and he's invites all of you over, I'm not going to just sit there and pout. Imma be like, "Go ahead, have fun, enjoy your time over there." And if I'm invited as well, I'll be saying, "Where's the beer??" LOTI. The bottom line is to enjoy and have a good time with family and don't be jealous of that situation because at the end of the day, you're going home with him and no one else.

Well, that is unless, he truly makes an ass outta himself, then it's time to get rid of the excess baggage and move on.

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LiveToLove

Joined: 1/12/2009

I'd like to be telling all of this to the people who really need to hear it, like Kajun's jealous other. Does no good telling the people here, they just agree with you or not, and nothing ever gets to the ones who REALLY NEED TO HEAR IT!

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SteveNParkville

Joined: 1/7/2009

Reply to: Anytime, Kajun, my dear. Hey, I'm no angel myself. I get jealous as well, but...
I think we all get a little jealous at times, its a natural human emotion that is the byproduct of caring about someone. To often though I think we label what is actually obsession as jealousy. Its one thing to feel a pang of jealousy when you see the woman you love with her ex, thats a natural emotion, its there and then gone if your dealing with a full deck of cards. Its quite another thing to worry and think about it all day, that is a real bad sign to be honest, usually that kind of obsession manifests itself in numerous ways.

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lovely_lady86

Joined: 3/23/2009

Okay, this may sound stupid but here it goes. Im confused about the realtionship Im in. Im engaged to this guy that in rehab, but hes in ther because I asked him to go. We have known each other since middle school and we had a crush on each other back then then through high school.Which I never knew he had a crush on me. Because my stepdad chased him down the road with a ball bat when i was in high school, threating him. Then he desappeared for a couple of years, which I found out he was in jail. Well last may he found me again. And we started to date, then he stole my car and gun out of my home, while he was high and drunk in august. I pressed charges and told the da that he needed help. Well before he got out this january he called me and said he was sorry and he then wrote me letters begging me to forgive him and that he would clean up for me. But then when he got out my stepdad start makin up lyes to have him locked up. But the thing is i dont want to be hurt again but ilove him. Everyone keeps telling me to stay away from him. But what do I do marry him and try to make a good life with him and my son or run the other way? Idk, any advise?

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The Chino

Joined: 8/26/2005

I think what you need to do is find out just how much this guy really loves you and how much he's acting it. Unless he shows that he's truly in love with you just as much as you are with him, then you need to tell him to go his separate way. Most of the time, your family is looking out in your best interests because they have a knack about certain guys, but sometimes you need to look at what you want and where you're headed and they will have to understand and accept that this is what you want. If he is who you truly want, than I must suggest that you have a keen eye and not let him try to dominate you in all facets of your life. Once he starts to cut off family from you, it's usually a sign of trouble ahead and you need them in order for you to maintain your well-being.

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lovely_lady86

Joined: 3/23/2009

Reply to: I think what you need to do is find out just how much this guy really loves you...
yeah but hte thing is he says he really loves me. and he is trying to clean up, but the thing is my stepdad is doing everything to keep us apart. Even lying to my mom to get her on his side. My stepdad has even threaten to have my son tooken away from me if i marry this guy. so I feel as if my stepdad is doing the seperating not the other guy. IDK!

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The Chino

Joined: 8/26/2005

Reply to: yeah but hte thing is he says he really loves me. and he is trying to clean up,...
Well, listen, saying that he loves you and showing that he loves you are two different things. As far as your stepdad is concerned, he does not have a right to tell a 22-year-old woman who she can and who she can't fall in love with. He has no authority whatsoever to take away your son, unless he can prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that you're a very unfit mother to your son, which I hope is not the case. Who you choose to fall in love with is entirely up to you and no one else. What you need to do is talk to your mother, in private, and tell her what YOU want. She's supposed to be your best friend for these sorts of things.

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LiveToLove

Joined: 1/12/2009

I'm the first person to give someone the benefit of the doubt. But there are two things about this that should make you run for the hills and take your son with you.

1. You said he told you he would clean up for you. If he's gonna' "clean up" he has to do it for himself and no one else or it's no good.

2. There is a child involved. You can't seriously believe if you marry this guy you and your son will live "happily ever after". Your step dad is against it, your friends are telling you to beware.

You don't really "love" him. You're in love with the thought of him and probably because of your memories of earlier years when you were in school.

My advice to you, for what it's worth: Tell him to hit the road, or hit the road yourself. You have a child to think about first and yourself second.

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

Leave, give him 3 years to stay clean, if he does that THEN think about taking him back.

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

i am curious. is the child his?

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Jax_i_am

Joined: 12/16/2008

I'd certainly be avoiding this guy. As much as you may think you love him he is an addict and convict. I'm willing to forgive and forget but he needs to prove he has changed. That takes time. I think your focus right now should be on your child and not yourself or this guy.

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*Sliver!*

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You can forgive, but you'll NEVER forget.

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Jax_i_am

Joined: 12/16/2008

Reply to: You can forgive, but you'll NEVER forget.
touche!

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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

Update>
I emailed the guy I date and told him I would rather not be in a relationship,and I could not beleive he actually accetped it and said we would always be friends...SOOOO> I am glad it went smooth.Of course he is gone to work for 14 days,we'll see how it goes when he comes back.Also,the guy in Mo. has emailed me a couple of times and when he comes down here in May,we have a date.It's still a long way til May and anything could happen,but it gives me SOMETHING to look forward to.I also have a date with a guy in April.I met him at a rock and gem show this past Nov.He seemed really nice,so I got two dates to look forward to,just have to wait it out...

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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

Reply to: yeah but hte thing is he says he really loves me. and he is trying to clean up,...
I would have to agree with> Move on...My daughter,who is 22,went thru the same crap.(check out the Parents forum,'Howcan you get rid of a bum")She waited months for her guy to get out of jail and he will NEVER change,and he treats her like S**T...I say love is not the only thing that you need in a relationship,you need TRUST and HONESTY and he has already let you down,plus he is a thief.

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lovely_lady86

Joined: 3/23/2009

Reply to: i am curious. is the child his?
the child is not his

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SteveNParkville

Joined: 1/7/2009

Reply to: Okay, this may sound stupid but here it goes. Im confused about the realtionshi...
Guess the one point I would make is that no matter how much you may care for or love this guy, alway remember that your son is the one who deserves your love the most. I am sure you already know that but I am just pointing out that when you make this decision you cant just think about the way you feel, you have to consider how this will impact your sons future. Is this man the role model you want for him?
People can change, I know that and have seen it first hand but if this guy is really changed then he should have no prob showing you this sustained change and proving he wants to be a productive part of both yours and your sons life. I would definately want to see this change over an extended period of time before you commit BOTH you and your son to a life with him in it. If he is not willing to do this or feels he should not have to, based on his previous track record it would be time to run like hell.

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