Is porn adultery or cheating if you are in a relationship? Is sharing intimate thoughts with someone other than your partner cheating?

No and no. Though depending on how serious you are with the person, you may want to bring up that you enjoy porn. That way if they ever catch you watching it, they know your not doing it because you are unhappy with them but because it's something that you enjoy. As for talking to others about intimate thoughts, it all depends on the thoughts. Are you confessing your interests in other people, or your sexual issues or desires... There is usually a gray area to most things, it's all about communication with your partner though.

yeah....what she said

I don't feel like it's cheating, but it seems like you're betraying a trust. I do expect things that are whispered during intimacy to be private. Something special between me and her.

Porn is a movie. You can't get pissed at someone for watching a movie. They're not cheating, it's not adultery it's a movie with people getting naked and having sex.

Some people get off on that. I get off on watching Daughtry videos. It's no different.

My girlfriend and I both watch porn--solo and together :^D Porn is whatever you make it out to be in your mind and I think anyone that thinks it's cheating must be quite insecure about themselves.

It can be considered cheating if the person is so obsessed that it interferes with the real sexual aspect of a relationship.

It is adultery if the other person doesn't want it to be a part of the relationship/marriage and their feelings are not being considered.

It is corruption!Some people are so obsessed with porn that it's an obsession like gambling or drugs. For some people they can't turn away from it with out professional help and repentance. It's like Crack!

I'd rather have the real thing without the influence of porn.

While those are rather excellent points, one would think this would come out before the relationship escalates.


If this is a new obsession about so many years or marriage then the significant other might want to think about what they could be doing to fix the relationship since porn seems to be doing what they are not.

Yeas I agree although some people think that porn will give them new insights about how they can enhance their sex life.

But I believe that porn is not a necessary evil and life on earth would be better without it.

It can be considered cheating if the person is so obsessed that it interferes with the real sexual aspect of a relationship.

It is adultery if the other person doesn't want it to be a part of the relationship/marriage and their feelings are not being considered.

It is corruption!Some people are so obsessed with porn that it's an obsession like gambling or drugs. For some people they can't turn away from it with out professional help and repentance. It's like Crack!

I'd rather have the real thing without the influence of porn.

I think if a person is obsessed enough with porn for it to interfere with the relationship, someone must not be doing their part in the relationship.

Maybe you should open up your mind a little Heart :o)

Porn is a movie. You can't get pissed at someone for watching a movie. They're not cheating, it's not adultery it's a movie with people getting naked and having sex.Some people get off on that. I get off on watching Daughtry videos. It's no different.

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Exactly, some people turn to it because there is a lack of love and intimacy in the relationship. I rather turn to porn then to cheat, if the situation ever went that way. Though i agree, there are some people out there who are addicted to porn.

Like me. But i'm single, so i'm allowed.

Totally depends on the situation - every situation is different and requires to be evaluated and then judged accordingly.......watching porn together with your partner is one thing......watching porn is fine, it just depends on the degree and frequency that complicates things - if it is at the expense of a partner and the relationship, then it's not cool! If it is used to enhance a relationship or a couple's sex life, or simply for a laugh........blow your hair back! What's the issue then? As long as it is not at the expense of your partner or their feelings......enjoy and don't forget your tube of lube :) LOL!

I think if a person is obsessed enough with porn for it to interfere with the relationship, someone must not be doing their part in the relationship.

Maybe you should open up your mind a little Heart :o) 

Leave it to Bill Nye the Science Guy x-D


If someones having a problem Porn may not be the answer. Sex doesn't make everything right if there are unresolved problems not pertaining to sex and in a lot of cases the sex will never get right until the other problems are resolved.

Open up your mind and broaden your perspective.

Hmm, honestly I had no clue that the porn could be addicting.

You learn something new every day.

I'm excited about spending a couple days at my parents next week.



Free porn on the movie channels!

Porn is just another form of visual entertainment to me. That being said, porn can be good if you're in a relationship and you're not willful enough to resist the temptation of cheating as it were.

 Leave it to Bill Nye the Science Guy x-D 


If someones having a problem Porn may not be the answer. Sex doesn't make everything right if there are unresolved problems not pertaining to sex and in a lot of cases the sex will never get right until the other problems are resolved.

Open up your mind and broaden your perspective.

What? Bill Nye? Where? lol!

My mind is wide open my deary! I'm not saying sex nor porn solves problems at all, but whether or not your realize it, if your partner is into porn and you open yourself to it and experience it with them, it can make for a less bumpy ride--call it a form of bonding.

I know Sweetie. I've been there but if I meet the right guy we aren't going to need porn to make mad passionate love. I know all about the enhancements and the desires and all that other obscene stuff.
I guess what I'm saying is that Porn is lustful and we all have these temptations unless someone is sexually malnourished.
But I like making Love better!

So what is your opinion about it SweetManilaRose?

anybody else tired of beating this same subject over and over?

If a couple wants to share it, that's one thing.

But, I think if someone is obsessed enough with porn to let it interfere with a real relationship, they have intimacy issues.

They are not likely to be capable of doing their part in a relationship, if they are willing satisfy themselves in front of their partner, without regard for their partners thoughts, feelings, needs, or desires.

Who wants to be in a sexual relationship, with somebody that would rather get off without them?

So what is your opinion about it SweetManilaRose?

I was inclined to reply I am catholic, but that would be dodging the bullet. Since I put it out there I have to reply.

Like everything else in a relationship, it should be open and within the bounderies of trust. It should not alienate affection nor aliviate what is lacking in the relationship.

Yes excessive porn for me is adultery or cheating, If I cannot push his botton in the bedroom without him having to press "play or rewind". I will feel cheated. Afterall sex is the final act of intimacy with a LIVE person. When couple have to sex up in order to do sexual act, then spontaneity is lost in the relationship and no amount of porn can recompense the fact that somehow the couple is no longer INTO each other and needs a third party to be ONTO each other.

Even the most prudish and inhibited woman will find it hard to say no to a man who still touches her from time to time like it was the first time he ever done so. Unfortunetely, you can't see that by watching porn.

Well horribly prudish women will lose their husband's to mistresses.

So if your husband's mistress is porn, count yourself lucky.

That makes sense to me. It's the way I would feel too! If making love isn't special enough in itself and porn has to be a part of every day,week and treated like some necessity that can't be some spontaneous thing ( I would of course consider his feelings sense I really don't want porn in my life but he might feel differently ) then to me that does mean that what we have together is lacking in itself that it needs a substitute to take the place of what two people together can explore without any outside stimuli.It's not natural to me.

I totally agree that it takes away from intimacy.