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brunettelady

Joined: 1/18/2008

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I never thought I'd turn to strangers for this but maybe someone can help......here's my story...... I met this guy seemingly great guy.... he is the single dad of two boys 12 and 5.... I knew him about 7 months before I went over to see him and one thing lead to another and we started innocently kissing and had sex..... I'm 8 months pregnant now.... he wanted an abortion saying that even though the mom showed no interst in her kids the whole time I had known him that she would take the kids.... a little background on the mom ( she threw them out when the little one was 1 year old in the middle of the night cause she had a boyfriend.... I know he struggles .... I know its hard for him ... recently he started talking to me less and less and 2 weeks ago sent me an email stating that he couldnt talk to me cause of an on going investigation at work.... I never heard from him again..... I don't know what to do Im due to deliver on april 9..... I know he can't afford to pay his bills now and I know that he surely cant afford to pay me child support and provide for his kids and everything else.... I just don't know what to do... should I even care?

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sundrop68

Joined: 7/24/2008

Sure ,you should care! You and he will be forever linked with the birth of you'r child . Maybe it's not the way you invisioned getting pregnant and starting a family but, for the childs sake i believe you owe it to the baby and yourself to make it known that you refuse to be dismissed as a one night piece of ass!It totally sounds like this guy is either scared to death or a loser. Find out which one and love him or make him pay! Life sucks sometimes and really tries us but, i believe this is a bridge you have to cross.

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

Did you not just spend the night with some guy and not get sex? Yet you're pregnant with someone else's kid.


Maybe you should stop putting out altogether and you wouldn't have unwanted babies.

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brunettelady

Joined: 1/18/2008

NO i never got laid.....just gave oral.... my friend is the one whos eggo is preggo but we discovered these forums thing last night and she asked....but she did want the baby he didnt or doesnt....

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

So now it's your "Friend's" story..



Yeah I'm not buying it.

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brunettelady

Joined: 1/18/2008

Reply to: So now it's your "Friend's" story.. Yeah I'm not buying it.
alrighty.....

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

No one else will either.

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sundrop68

Joined: 7/24/2008

I buy it! I know her and it's true.

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

Well then maybe her "Friend" needs to get a profile of her own so her "Friend" doesn't make her look stupid.

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Etritonakin

Joined: 9/11/2008

It sounds like he is overwhelmed -he's a guy -it's no easier for a single mom, but they (some) do have a certain instinct for raising children. Guys are kinda clueless about everything. If he has raised his kids for 5 and 12 years, he is a great guy -though no guy is perfect. Is he just now talking about an abortion? It's not really an option at this point -I hope -don't know what kinda freaked out laws mighta got passed recently. I'd say let things settle -do the best you can -and be glad you can know your child.
He seems like the sort of guy who will be there as much as he is able.

Also.... in the future -and for those who are not yet in a similar situation... (hetero)sex makes little PEOPLE -as it was intended.... little people who require and deserve two parents devoted to them for LIFE -even when you don't want it to. Believe me -I'm not judging -just think about it. Sex is wonderful -but it has a purpose.

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mast2008

Joined: 5/5/2008

Fucking cunts, keep your legs closed. Always the fucking "Single mom" victim whine, but then you put down single dads?? fucking feminazi double standard bullshit. Keep your FUCKING legs closed and just suck dick, that way you wont' have more fucking screaming BRAT kids to suck off of taxpayers. Goddma white trash whores.

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1) Selfish - to the point where they don't know the difference between love of self and plain downright greed--and drilled into believing that whatever happens is the fault of whatever man is in their life because of the feminist crud drilled into them by the cadre of asexual closet cases called "therapists" who appear on "Ricki", "Oprah" or other such electronic drivel
2) Deluded - into thinking they "deserve" a rich, model-handsome husband who will "take them away from all of this"--whatever the "this" might be--and leading to resentment when they discover that the universe does NOT revolve around them
3) Angry - ALL the damn time about things which are so far out of their control as to be nonsensical--and constantly wanting to "discuss" this mind numbing drivel ad nauseam
4) Psychotic - multiple personalities in the same woman - as "Nomad" put it in the "Star Trek" episode: "Woman...a mass of inconsistencies...", and also when the feminist voices in their heads start with the regrets and victim acculturation
5) Worthless - anything that does not immediately resolve itself in her favor or to her benefit is meaningless to her, especially husband and family
6) Lazy - drilled into their head that they "deserve" a maid, nanny and personal slave to take care of every detail - and that their husband/boyfriend is REQUIRED to cater to their each and every mindless whim
7) Resentful - especially of other women who have things that they do not, in material, spiritual and esoteric senses
8) Greedy - to them, "housekeeping" means getting the house in the divorce (thanks to Zsa Zsa for that immortal line) and sucking the guy for every last cent, even if they had nothing to do with the building of the nest egg
9) Mindless - constant, irritating, idle prattle about topics they read about in some women's magazine and then become instant experts--particularly pop psychology and the latest crap they see on "Oprah" or "Ricki"
10) Vain - believing that they are irresistible to everything in pants and therefore are allowed to behave sluttish and without any honor.

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LiveToLove

Joined: 1/12/2009

Reply to: Fucking cunts, keep your legs closed. Always the fucking "Single mom" victim wh...
I really think you got it all wrong Mast ... this is how it REALLY is!

1) Selfish - to the point where they don't know the difference between love of self and plain downright greed--and drilled into believing that whatever happens is the fault of whatever woman is in their life because of the masculine crud drilled into them by their beer guzzling buddies who steer them on to woman hating websites.

2) Deluded - into thinking they "deserve" a “trophy wife” who will always kiss their ass and agree with every idiotic thing they mutter. One who will put up with his cheating, slovenliness and crudeness. Only to discover the woman has a brain and will not subject herself to such an asshole for very long.

3) Angry - ALL the damn time about things which are so far out of their control as to be nonsensical. Then stomping out of the house drunk and roaring off in the car to the neighborhood bar where other men congregate because they have no concept of communication with the opposite sex.

4) Psychotic - multiple personalities in the same man - as the wife beater who lashes out in rage one moment, then apologizes and begs the woman to stay the next moment.

5) Worthless - anything that does not immediately resolve itself in his favor or to his benefit is meaningless to him, and he emits a glib “whatever” and stomps out of the house muttering to himself.

6) Lazy – absolutely believes that a woman should wait on him hand and foot. Pick up the dirty clothes he throws all over the house, bring him beer while he sits on his fat ass watching the latest game. Expects her to do his laundry, clean his house and take care of his kids.

7) Resentful - especially of other men who have better jobs, a prettier wife, a better lawnmower, a better car, a weed free lawn. This makes him want to become a women beater because, after all, it’s all her fault he’s a failure.

8) Greedy – to men it means getting every “toy” on the market just to try to prove his masculinity. It means cheating on his wife because the more conquests he has, the more of a “man” his is in his convoluted thinking

9) Mindless - constant, irritating, idle prattle about the assholes he works with, the jerks on the road. Cursing at stop lights because he has to wait for them. Complaining constantly about gas prices, politics, and women drivers.

10) Vain - believing that they are God’s gift to women if any woman resists them they must surely be a lesbian. They believe themselves to be the “cock of the walk” and therefore are allowed to act like assholes in bars while trying to pick women up, and then brag to their buddies about how much of a stud they are.

You see punk, there are two sides to every coin, yours has just been flipped!

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bob_the_bear

Joined: 1/21/2009

Reply to: alrighty.....
Joined: 1/18/2008I never thought I'd turn to strangers for this but maybe someone can help......here's my story...... I met this guy seemingly great guy.... he is the single dad of two boys 12 and 5.... I knew him about 7 months ........


Hang in there -just take it one day at a time -it may take more work, but life can still be excellent -and it does not mean you have to be alone

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1 John 3:1 Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not. 2 Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 3 And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.
4 Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law. 5 And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin. 6 Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him. 7 Little children, let no man deceive you: he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous. 8 He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil. 9 Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God. 10 In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother.

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redneckinokla

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Well i can tell you this much, I am a single dad. I have been raising my Daughter by myself since she was 18 months old and now shes 11. After My divorce, which took three and a half years, i tryed dating again but failed. After three years of trying to find one good woman nothing! i have now been divorced 8 years and i know women and guys who dont understand why i havent remarried or at least have a steady girlfriend. And i will tell you my reason why, I took two years off after my divorce to get my life in order then when i felt i was ready to do this again i started looking and in the three years i dated 4 women, good women with kids thier own,All of them at one point asked me to give my kid back to her mom who is a meth addict! WTF? they want me but not my kid? the last one said she didnt want to be a full time babysitter!!! WTF?
I dont need a full time babysitter! i have raised her this long by my self she a straight A student in school, well mannered and i have never had any trouble out of her. so i just assume they wanted me to be the dad i am to my kid to thiers without my kid being in the way or they themselves are jealous of my daughter they come up with this lame ass excuse they think im looking for a full time babysitter. I dont want a babysitter i dont go anywhere unless my kid can go with me unless its a date short of that i go to work and come home i dont drink or do drugs. i want one woman a good woman who wants to share my life with her and hers with me.

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mast2008

Joined: 5/5/2008

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It's that fucking cunt feminist attitude that "moms" are the better parent singlparent. It's sickening how the fucking femints have infected every facet of society. ANY fucking female that tells you to "give" your daugher back to the meth addicted bitch you were married to, i'd toss the skank to the curb and tell her to FUCK off. FUCKING cunts think they're the better parent 'cause they popped the kid out of their fucking cunts. Fucking bitches these days are stoned on antidepressants, and emotional fucking trainwrecksa. I would have punched that cunt in the fucking face if I had a daughter and she told me to "give the kid back" fuck her, you don't need that shit bud, take your time. Sadly there are NO good females out there, they're all life sucking money grubbing materialistic fucking whores and do NOT deserve to have a man rule over them. Fuck the cunts, that's all they're good for. Keep the faith brother !

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Nunnyah

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OK,
I am a father of four. I have 1 child living with me (boy/8). Another child who has grown and left the home (he wishes to return)he's 23. I have another child who lives with her mother who lives close enough but not to close for me to maintain a realistic relationship with her/11 years old. I was married to the mother of my two middle children, but have been divorced since 2003. I have another child in Dallas, TX from an asian girl who I got involved with that felt that when we laid together and had un-protected sex and she ended up pregnant and gave birth to a boy/2 years old now; that I was to get married to her for so she could become an American citizen.
AS we have heard before sometimes relationships can be complicated!
However; both of you made conscious decisions to have un-protected sex. Why should there be any second thought of the position you are in! I'm a single parent and father who cares about his seeds. However it sounds like to me that this guy you met is a coward and a fraud get rid of him. Tell him to be gone and move on. There are some good men out here....... Look at me I've made 4 mistakes, but I have swallowed my pride sucked up my dignity and have turned a cheek. I do what I do which is what I have to do! So dating a single dad isn't all bad you just have to be selective with making your choices before you drop your panties.........
Life is life and love is love!

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Nunnyah

Joined: 3/16/2009

OK,
I'm back, but only after I read your personal profile. How shallow can you be when you purposely profile men into a particular catagory then turn around and put your own foot in your mouth! I was willing to support your confusion, but now I'm sure that misery loves company and what you want and what your perception as being realistic are two diferent things all together! People are people and there are good and bad everywhere in this world. It sounds like you found what you were looking for....... "A one night stand" not a real man"
Birds of a feather flock together!
Peace be onto you and may God find mercy on me for saying what I have......

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crystal20

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Reply to: OK, I'm back, but only after I read your personal profile. How shallow can you...
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Nunnyah

Joined: 3/16/2009

Reply to: LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why would you critique my reply with only an acronym? Is it because you really don't have anything else to say but "LMAO? Aren't you a little troubled in your own life? Wondering about bringing forth a child in this world when you yourself have said that you don't have a solid foundation to stand on yourself! I had my first child at 25 and I am so glad I waited. It wasn't becaue I felt as though I needed to soil my oats it was because I wasn'y mature enough to understand what it really takes to become a father, dad, mentor, positive role-model, etc...
Perhaps you may want to consider taken a good long look at yourself before you make a decision to raise a child on your own in a world like this!!!

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*Sliver!*

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Dude wrong thread.

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crystal20

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All I said was LMAO! Calm down. I did not mean to reply to you. People get so damn defensive on here.

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Nunnyah

Joined: 3/16/2009

Hello "McFly"...
Of course you should care! However; it sounds like the guy is just a coward and can't stand-upright! Leave him alone, file for support, and ask the man if will be a positive role model for his own seed! Just move-on.....

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Ready for Jesus

Joined: 7/8/2009

“Thank you, Father, for Your wisdom, revelation, and understanding upon us as parents to lead and direct our kids into your paths of righteousness that they might dwell in the secret place of the Most High. Because my children has made You their refuge and their dwelling place, there shall no evil befall them, for You give Your angels charge over my kids to accompany and defend in all their ways. (Ps. 91:1,9-11)
Thank you, Father, that my children do not love or cherish the world or the things that are in the world, but that they will be eager to do Your will and carry out Your purpose in their life. My children will keep in their heart what they have heard from the first, and that my children will dwell in the Son and in You, Father. (I Jn. 2:15, 17, 24) Thank you, Father, that my children abides in You, rooted in You, knit to You, and that my children abide in Christ so that when He is made visible, will not shrink from Him at His coming. (I Jn 2:28) Then God’s peace will be theirs, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, so will fear nothing from God, and be content with their earthly lot, that peace which transcends all understanding, shall garrison and mount guard over their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. (Phil 4:7) In Jesus Name, Amen”

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