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wolf513600

Joined: 11/23/2008

Reply to: The hardest part is finding someone who will accept you and your child. I have ...
It is tricky being a single parent and approaching the dating scene once again. A lot of men al ready raised their kids and don't want to go back to that. Or, some of the men who are early and middle thirties, want to date someone who doesn't have a kid, or like you said, doesn't want to wait around until you find a babysitter. I have yet to meet a man who is campatible with me and my child, and until then, I will be single. I am ok with that. I don't feel alone, though sometimes a bit lonely. But yes, I do agree, being on my own is MUCH better than being in an unhealthy relationship.

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SteveNParkville

Joined: 1/7/2009

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Just out of curiousity, do you think that men who have children already are a little more understanding of the challenges that dating and being a single parent presents. I know that while my son lives with his mom full time and me every other weekend and two weeknights, being a parent gives me a perspective that perhaps someone who is not might not understand. The idea of dating a woman with children is not a "negative" in my view but maybe that is more a result of the enjoyment that my role as a parent brings to my life than anything else.

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wolf513600

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Oh yes, men who have kids who visit on weekends or single dads do seem to have a different perspective than men who do not. And some, are very understanding no matter what their background. Everyone is different, depending on who they are, where they come from, what they expect, I guess. Dating is just complicated, I guess.

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SteveNParkville

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Reply to: Oh yes, men who have kids who visit on weekends or single dads do seem to have ...
Yup complicated is an understatement. Having children can add to the complicated nature of dating but it brings a balance and value to our lives (at least I hope this is the case for most) that no one or nothing can ever replace.

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wolf513600

Joined: 11/23/2008

Reply to: Yup complicated is an understatement. Having children can add to the complicate...
LOL, don't know if having my 4 year old brings me balance, but definitely value in my life- she makes my life more full, fun, and a super reason for me to be the best person and mom I can be.

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SteveNParkville

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Reply to: LOL, don't know if having my 4 year old brings me balance, but definitely value...
Yea I didnt quite word that the way I wanted to but you clarified it exactly the way I meant. I guess we are all wired differently at 39 I am not so sure I want to start with diapers again and all but I do love the role of parent and mentor to my child more than I ever have. I figure that is why being with a woman who has a child and playing a positive an healthy role in that childs life is not something I view as a burden or a negative.

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wolf513600

Joined: 11/23/2008

Reply to: Yea I didnt quite word that the way I wanted to but you clarified it exactly th...
Steve, you worded it fine, I just paraphrased it in my own words, lol. Not sure I would like to go back to changing diapers. I guess it depends on several factors. Never really thought I would only have one child, but that's life for ya, things happen in unexpected ways sometimes. I think positive and do my best. It's nice that you realize some of these kids could really use a positive male role model in their lives. You have a great perspective.

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brunettelady

Joined: 1/18/2008

I never thought I'd turn to strangers for this but maybe someone can help......here's my story...... I met this guy seemingly great guy.... he is the single dad of two boys 12 and 5.... I knew him about 7 months before I went over to see him and one thing lead to another and we started innocently kissing and had sex..... I'm 8 months pregnant now.... he wanted an abortion saying that even though the mom showed no interst in her kids the whole time I had known him that she would take the kids.... a little background on the mom ( she threw them out when the little one was 1 year old in the middle of the night cause she had a boyfriend.... I know he struggles .... I know its hard for him ... recently he started talking to me less and less and 2 weeks ago sent me an email stating that he couldnt talk to me cause of an on going investigation at work.... I never heard from him again..... I don't know what to do Im due to deliver on april 9..... I know he can't afford to pay his bills now and I know that he surely cant afford to pay me child support and provide for his kids and everything else.... I just don't know what to do... should I even care?

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bob_the_bear

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Has anything changed since then? Has he contacted you?

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peggyp

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I thought i was never going to be able to find a man who would understand and respect that I am a Mom first, over everyhting else in my life. I am a single Mom of 3 very active teenage daughters, and when I divorced and started dating again, I refused to compromise my time with them for anyone. It took a few years, but I have finally met a man who not only respects that about me but also loves that about me. It is possible and they are out there. Just be patient.

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peggyp

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And how does that relate to my post?

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shesm0deliciou

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Dating can be nerve-wracking, difficult, and confusing. It can also be a lot of fun. As long as you have respect for yourself and are careful around your children, dating as a single parent can be a good experience and just might bring a wonderful new partner into your life and your children life. Try to avoid making your new partner too much a part of your kids lives. If things don’t work out, you will have to work at mending their hearts along with your own. You can still create some casual times to all get together; just don’t encourage your new partner to become their soccer coach!It's not just about you anymore; you have to consider whether your children will like this person as much as you do and whether he or she will make a good potential step-parent. Plus, you have to find someone who not only likes kids but is interested in yours as well. Don't introduce your kids to your date right away. Young children, especially, may not understand the idea of dating. They may wonder why mom or dad has so many new "friends," and why those friends don't always stick around make the first introduction casual. If you're getting serious about someone, plan a group activity or a fun but brief outing. Let your date and your kids get acquainted without any pressure.Watch for resentment or jealousy are you spending too much time with your dates, and not enough with your kids are they worried about being replaced, or about the family changing are they hoping you'll reunite with their mother or father You don't need to stop dating you do need to reassure them and be sensitive to their needs. Be a good role model!

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mast2008

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You obviously googled that, copied it, and then pasted it into this forum. I've read your rants, and observed the sentence structure, paragraph indenting, or lack of, spelling, grammatical errors and the train wrecks they are. Get real you blithering idgit.

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peggyp

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He is the only man that I have dated that my kids have met.

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shesm0deliciou

Joined: 4/8/2009

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Wrong once again.Hunny I can spell when I take the time out just not for you,you'r not worth it I could care less what you have to say and I think half of this people think the same as I do.;o)!

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Nunnyah

Joined: 3/16/2009

Reply to: Hey there, I'm a single father of an 8yr old girl. I have full custody, and i'v...
Wow,
I couldn't say it any better. I too am a father and a single parent and by choice I raise my seeds acordingly to Gods law and know that when they are adults they too will appreciate the fact that they were raised by me regardless to gender! How can anyone place themselfs above what God has created to be the perfect gift "LIFE"........
Yes things can be dificult, yes I struggle, yes I'm not perfect, but I do not complain about my obligation as a man to be what and whom I am suppossed to be!I give praise when I'm down, I give praise when I'm up... With perseverance comes suffering, through suffering comes perseverance...
How can anyone second think a question of authority, mentoring, and parenting
when it was Gods prothetic word that gave man the authority to be the leader and foundation of a home. I'm no theologist or genius but doesn't this make any sense to you woman? A parent places no mortal being above their child. Does that answer your answer/reply
"TOPIC" Dating a single parent!
Date whom ever you want too but make sure that your yolk blends and is a healthy choice for you and your seeds!

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princess777

Joined: 6/9/2011

the hardest part is finding a guy who is strong enough to be patient for a good thing, alot of men i have met cant stand to be alone, where as i love solitude i find comfort in my children, i love them, i just have kind of quit looking all together it makes me sick, i feel u girl i do it too!

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priorty4u2c

Joined: 12/28/2004

I am a single Dad of two great kids, My son Austin is 14 and my daughter Alexis is 16 months. Its hard to find dating time in between their busy schedual but I love spending time with them, their my life. They show me what Love really means.

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badr-4si

Joined: 9/22/2011

How old are your child?

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kissy23

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amen to tht

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ashleyj cuty

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personally i really do think that it is very difficult for single parents to find a person i general who not only accepts you but your child too. it does tend to get alittle lonely at times.

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