I was wondering {if your a parent} How does everyone feel about corecting your kids? What kinds of discipline do you use? What has worked and hasnt worked?

When my daughter was very young, up to age two, when she did something that would cause her injury (such as reaching for the stove, running into the street) I would smack her on the butt once, tell her "NO" very sternly and then in a calmer voice, tell her why she is not to do that.

From about three on, the life endangering activity would get a stern "NO" along with another explanation. After that we would simply talk about her behavior and I would try to put the behavior I desired into a context that she could relate to.

As a result, my daughter is able to approach me with ANY problem she is having and we talk about it.

Spanking/corporal punishment is linked to increased agressiveness and anxiety among those spanked -though such effects are somewhat decreased when the community/society surrounding the child views such as acceptable (I just read that). Also, "spanking" can range from something to gain attention in an emergency situation (which does not actually cause pain -such as the above example), to an outright ***whoopin'. The reason for -and severity of -the spank are also factors.
Some say you shouldn't spank in anger, but if people were honest with themselves, they probably wouldn't be thinking of spanking unless they were angry.
My dad had a booming voice which would scare the whoosiwhatsits out of me and stop me in my tracks in case of emergencies -or profoundly stupid behaviors (I wasn't the brightest kid -a definite paste-eater).
Later in life, he would just raise an eyebrow, look at me with a disgust-distorted face and say.. "What'na hell were you thinking?" This was simple, yet very effective.. and he also explained the error of my ways.
I got a good 'pankin if I was mean to someone, or if the consequences of the action were dire (but my mom would often intervene, take me out of sight and only pretend to spank me). Maybe it wasn't perfect, but it was effective enough to prevent extreme stupidity.
I don't believe spanking/corporal punishment is necessary -discipline and instruction are necessary, but need not include physical contact.

Many take some bible verses to support corporal punishment, but this is not the actual case. The "rod" spoken of in the bible -as it relates to children -is not a whoopin' stick -it is reproof/instruction.
Pro 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Pro 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
The above is translated in such a manner as to seemingly condone bludgeoning your child, but "striking" (not beating) with the "rod" is analogous to a shepherd using a stick to turn sheep with a light tap -not to hit them.

Col 3:21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

I talk to my child first and foremost. I explain why what they did was wrong and if need be take away one or more of his priviliges for a set period of time. I allow him the opportunity to tell me why he did what he did and what he was thinking while he did it and address those issues. I always make sure my son understands that while I do not appreciate the particular behavior we are discussing, I do love him and trust he will make better choices in the future. It may sound like a mushy way to do it but it works for my child. Corporal punishment is somewere I will not go and do not feel the need to go to ever. Every child is different and responds differently so I understand that others may choose other methods.

Talk talk talk. i will ground them from sports parctices and cell phones and things like that . Talking it out usually solves the problem or at least gets us to a root cause that we can work with. Idk whats the right thing but , i do know i want my kids to want me around when i'm old and to call frequently.

Discussing issues works for older children, BUT there is no reasoning with a toddler. When they were little, a single smack on the heiney and a sharp no, followed WHY I said no. As they got older time outs and denied privilidges worked .... as far as anything works. Sometimes kids just dont wanna listen. My kids are 27 25 1/2 and 21 and I have a great relationship with all 3 so I must not have been a complete failure.

I had to smack hands alot when mine were toddlers,and my kids were actually pretty good when they were bigger,but taking privaliges away worked when I had to resort to punishment.I have a good relationship with mine too,and alot of people have made positive comments about how well mannered my 2 are.(boy 19,girl 22)
Now my grandkids are another story.The first is 2 and OMG terrible at learning what NO means.I told my daughter she needed to spank his little hands,and she said she does,but it doesn't work.She said if I had to,spank him.Well,he was into something one day and I spanked his hand and OMG I felt horrible and will never do it again! I couldnt stand seeing the red mark on his hand! I will just have to get me a padded paddle,I guess....lol

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