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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

...should you expect your kid(s) to move out? I have heard of men still living with their parents at age 30,and I know that is a bit old to be living with your parents,but I guess all situations are different.

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anonymous1

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I threatened to get my dad evicted from any place he moved, and get him fired from every job he found...

Until he agreed to let me move out at 16.

I moved out of my mom's at 13.




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jem1987

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I would say most people move out in their mid 20s. A lot try to move out earlier, but end up coming back because of money.

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*Sliver!*

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I moved out when I was 25. I'll never go back.

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Kajunqueen

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Well,he is 19,has a job,but has not even thought about his future...I feel like maybe he is not ever going to get to the point where he realizes that I wont be here forever. I don't want him to feel like I don't want him here,I just want him to start thinking about it...

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*Sliver!*

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If he has a good paying job he can move out and think about his future somewhere else.


I understand your point but I also know what it's like to have your parents nagging and bitching at you constantly asking what you're going to do with your life.

The last 2 years I was at home I was so depressed I could barely function. So I got out.




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anonymous1

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Reply to: Well,he is 19,has a job,but has not even thought about his future...I feel like...



Your son is smart, hardworking, and good looking (He gets it from you.).

Plus, he's just starting to date...

One day soon, a woman will give him the...

You still live with your mother? look; and, he'll start looking for a new place to live.




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jem1987

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Just because he doesn't seem like he's thinking about it, doesn't mean he's not. He's probably just not the type to try out every quick scheme that pops into his head. Give him some time, 19 is still young to be moving out.

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MetsandJets

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Honestly, It depends on the parents. Some parents are way over protective of their kids, hence they'll always stay with them and be considered a "momma's" or "pappa's" (I've heard the phrase before) be used. Or, in my case, parents let you leave out early, feeling that you are independent and can take care of yourself. A big factor in determining to part with your child is the maturity and responsibility of a child, which can range to be a lot of ages from typically 18 and up.

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lilgreywolf

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Reply to: Just because he doesn't seem like he's thinking about it, doesn't mean he's not...
well i have an 18 yr old daughter who isnt mature for her age and now shes talkin goin to a group home, it hurts and im really not sure how it might turn out, i guess id say be glad to have ur kids around as long as u can because sooner or later they wil leave and u wont have that time in there lives when theyre still around and want to share their lives with u

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*Sliver!*

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She's 18, you still control her life. She can talk about leaving all she wants. It's up to you whether she goes or not.

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jem1987

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Legally, no, she can leave whenever she wants at 18.

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*Sliver!*

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They need to change that. No 18 yr old is mature enough to be on their own.

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jem1987

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I don't know, I think some are. I mean, they're practically living on their own if they go away for school. Some people are better off moving out as soon as they can, others aren't. It really depends on the situation.

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gamaforce

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I would hope parents wouldnt kick their kids out too early. The world is a very hard, and complicated place. Its only getting harder too make it out there. Each child developes at a different rate, so each childs leaving home at a different age. Honestly, I incurraged mine to stay home until they were properly set-up. Thats properly set-up, cuz if you dont...thell just be back.

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Kajunqueen

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Whoa-hoe everyone! :)
My son and I get along great and I don't want him out,I was just getting a few opinions on what age is average for kids to move out these days. I have not asked him about it,although he has told me twice he was moving in with a friend. Next month he will be 20,he has a job,but he doesn't save any money.I do not demand him to pay anything,although when I ask him,he will help out.He doesn't pay any bills at all and yet he can't seem to save a dime. The first small step for him would be to get a vehicle.He uses mine.I really don't mind it,but seems like he would be able to make a few efforts towards his future.But,looking at the posts here,I guess it will be a few years before he gets "set up".

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jem1987

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Having bills will help him learn how to better save. That's something best learned by experience.

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Kajunqueen

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Reply to: Your son is smart, hardworking, and good looking (He gets it from you.). Plu...
LOL...One bad thing is: I can't give him the

"I aint yo Mama" look.

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gamaforce

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Reply to: Whoa-hoe everyone! :) My son and I get along great and I don't want him out,I w...
Yeh, You should have been demanding better behaivioral habbits from him. I am not busting on you, but starting now is starting very late. I would get him on the responcibilty progran at once.

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Kajunqueen

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Reply to: If he has a good paying job he can move out and think about his future somewher...
Wow,I'm sorry you got nagged and bitched at Sharky.
I moved out at 16,but lived with my grandmother a few more years,but the reason I left,my step mom was phycho. I would have never went back there,either.

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Kajunqueen

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Reply to: Just because he doesn't seem like he's thinking about it, doesn't mean he's not...
True. He learned a few lessons on his own,and I think he does a LOT more thinking now.

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Kajunqueen

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I have an Uncle and Aunt who have 2 kids,a girl 43,and a boy 38. The both still live at home. Neither have been married. Is this kinda strange,or is it just me? The parents don't want them to leave,and I don't think THEY want to leave..lol

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Kajunqueen

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Reply to: well i have an 18 yr old daughter who isnt mature for her age and now shes tal...
I know I will miss him when he does move,but if it doesn't work out,I am sure he knows he will always have a place to come back to. Tell that to your daughter and if it doesn't work out with her in the group home,she will feel like you supported her and wont hesitate to come back home.

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Kajunqueen

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Reply to: Having bills will help him learn how to better save. That's something best lea...
OK...I might just do that. I felt kinda strange to charge him a fee,because I figured it would be harder for him to save money. TY

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jem1987

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Well, the best bet is probably getting a car. Not only will he have a bill to worry about, he will be able to build his credit. Win-win. As long as it's something he can afford, of course.

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