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dewars420

Joined: 6/10/2007

What does a man do when he's was paralyzed in a plane crash and there are no woman left except woman who worry about there image in public when out with them ? the good women are gone.

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Posted 3 years ago
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muscle_cars_only

Joined: 8/21/2008

If the women you like worry about their image in public with you , your probably overlooking the good women. Then again ,if you view your situation as a disability you're going to be hard pressed to find anyone. If the latter is the case, how can you expect them to be comfortable with you if your not comfortable with you?

I have a friend that is paralyzed. He does not dwell on what happened, he adapted and overcame.He met his wife after the accident.I catch hell from him all the time, he teases me saying " If I can find a good woman, I know you can".

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Posted 3 years ago
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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

It's true to say that the bad thing here is "IMAGE"...People want to show off in public,and make fun of the less fortunate,no matter if it's clothes,hair,obesity,what kind of car you drive,if your handicapped,even what kind of cell phone you have. I was at the store the other day and the first thing someone looked at was my shoes.They even turned thier nose up because I have Pony's instead of Reebox or Nike's I guess(??) We have to face it,the majority of people are worried about the IMAGE they show to others.You shouldn't let what strangers think stop you from being happy or doing the things you want to do. If the women your dating now has a problem with her image when she is around you,she is never going to be able to accept you for you.It's true that it may be hard to find a woman who can accept how things are,but don't let a few bad apples spoil the whole bunch. If someone was embarrassed to be seen with me,I would rather be alone. Just try to enjoy yourself while searching for the right one.

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Harmony1

Joined: 10/13/2009

Hi Brother... Believe in youself. All this other mungo-gongo makes no sense. I have seen nice ladies here stay beside their man. Bike accidents. A true lady is very rare. The best to you New-Year.

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Posted 2 years ago
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unstresst

Joined: 1/14/2010

Are we harboring any depressed or angry thoughts or grudges?
This shows when you're dealing with people.-(even if you think you're covering it up.
Three things an accident victim should address to free up their interactions with people:

1): As much as you may feel it's justified,........
Do NOT be angry, or hold any grudges against your 'higher power'-[whichever that is]
'He' had nothing to do with the accident.

2): Women are priceless, precious wonders.
Don't blame women if you feel you're being passed over.
It's a long story, but if you blame women or if you see any type of grudges hiding within you, that will affect what women see when meeting you.

3): whenever talking with, or typing to women, check your demeanor.....are you expressing a downer type message?

4): Try a non-seeking approach
--(assuming that you're seeking women with simular interests)--
When you see an interesting woman, engage in a topic that's unrelated to dating.
keep this up for the first few conversations, then maybe your both ready for the dating 'game' stage.

5): If the lady backs out --(dumps you)-- don't wallow too long in your misfortune, get it over with as quick as you can, then refer back to # 2.

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Posted 2 years ago
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