What age do you just give up on finding someone to be with? Is there a point in life where we should just accept that we are going to stay alone? I am tired of looking and when I find someone I could be interested in,nothing happens.Even when I get forward,they don't get the hint.Other times,I get stuck with someone that "I" don't want to be with.
I was just thinking,maybe it isn't meant for some people to be with someone else.(?)
I am not really THAT unhappy,but I think about a time when my kids have thier own lives and my dad is gone,and I know it WOULD be nice to share the rest of my life with someone.

There is someone for you Kajun ... you just need to stop trying so hard and let your spirit be free. The path that is meant to cross yours will. No doubt the Universe is unfolding as it should, you just need to let it.

I understand what you are saying, kajun. I am quit a bit older than you and I have met several nice men and dated them. But I didn't feel that butterfly feeling so I would go on my way. Should I settle for just a nice guy? Is that fair to them? How do you know they are not doing the same thing?
I feel like I still have plenty to offer to the right one.

I wouldn't call it giving up, but I believe it's best to relax and not seek another person. Go out and do what you want to do. By doing that, you will eventually meet somebody that becomes the love of your life. People of today are into playing stupid games. Why do they have to lie about what they are doing? or not answer their messages for days. Lose the players and you will find the right person.

Well,maybe I AM trying to hard.I will let it unfold,but will it be like a map L2L? Will it ever fold back the right way?? I was so used to having someone there for 18 freekin years...I feel like my life IS over and I should just accept that it is going to be this way.
I appreciate the feedback,and was just wanting some opinions.
Nighty,I know for a fact that you would be someone's everything.Your posts tell me that.
Seems like IF something is MEANT TO BE,it will be EASY.Guess we will have to be patient.
It still makes me SIGH because it seems like time is wasting away. I am a pretty patient person though.Thanks for your advise.

What would suck is if I end up with someone that has lived next door to me for the past 20 years,LMFAO

you know i worry about that. i had a really nice guy that lived across the street from me. he came and mowed my yard one time when he saw that my mower had broken down in the middle of my yard. never asked...just did it. i gave him a beer and chatted with him for awhile to "repay" him.
now he has moved away and i wonder if i missed a good chance for a nice guy.

There is a guy that lives across the road from me and he is single.I met him at the mailbox one day and spoke to him.Then he turned around and left,like he was scared of me.Well,one day I saw that some people had moved out of his rent house and I went to ask if it was for rent and he talked like a robot.It really freeked me out.

*thinking>I don't know why I wrote that*

I think like L2L. I've stopped LOOKING and now just waiting to see if LOVE will find me... LOL... When the time is right, it will happen. But you have to put yourself out there... Some guy isn't just going to walk up to your door and say I love you... LOL. I love to work out... so I joined a local gym. Well... first off.. if I do meet that person... we already know we have one thing in common.. working out... if it's meant to be, it will fall into place naturally.. if not.. I have another friend. LOL. It's a no lose situation to me. So figure out something that you really love to do and find a group that's doing that. My advice... is let love find you, not go looking for it. Wish you well KQ. Ohhh... the guy across the street, he's just stupid. ROFL

Increase the odds -circulate more -if it's something you want, don't give up on it -you can get a date every week with no problem -doesn't have to be too serious -just a night or day out. Social events aren't the norm anymore, but you can still find places where interesting non-scary people meet.

You are quite cute and seem to have a great personality -just have fun, but remember that if you're on a date and it doesn't work out, you may have caught the eye of another who is genuinely interested and more compatible -never know. Do concentrate on your date, but don't diminish your odds -just in case.

...and don't even tell me you're over 45

LOL..Thanks....IF ONLY YOU KNEW..*wink*

I'm getting there,Nik...lmao.

i have a date tomorrow night, kajun....notice they didn't say i didn't look over 45. sighhhhhhhhhh

LOL,Nighty,you could look a hundred and someone would be lucky to have you.
Your cool. :)

awwwwww thanks...i think that is one of the sweetest things anyone has ever said to me that wasn't trying to get into my panties. lol

LMAO,Nighty...
Well,it's true!

That would suck. LOL

I'm sure you can find the right man for you without looking too far, or waiting too long; just be patient.

There is someone for you Kajun ... you just need to stop trying so hard and let your spirit be free. The path that is meant to cross yours will. No doubt the Universe is unfolding as it should, you just need to let it.

I've realised that I can do two equally wonderful things; I can love but cannot stay for reasons other than my own. Or I can stay but not necessarily love, by my own choice. To mix up "Liveforlove" words. I look forward to the day when The path that is meant to cross for me is to love and stay, as the universe unfolds as it should for me.

Cheers and good luck to all

Kajun,
I'm feel that if someone is to be in my life then. I'm just going to live my life and go out and be where people are when ever I can and not for the purpose of finding a man but to socialize. I'm not going to try to impress anyone. I'm just going to be me. If there is a guy out there for me then it will happen when it's time.
Other wise I would be continuing to make myself crazy trying to find a man.All the while forgetting to just live my life. there is more to life then finding a man.
So,I know exactly what you mean and I hope the right guy comes your way while you enjoy life.

You never give up but rather leave it up to God. There is never a time to "give up" in fact you should never give up and never stop living life. (-:

You've got it, Avgjoe0266! That is how I found my man. Love DID grow, and now, I wouldn't want to have life any other way than what it is for me, now.

Trying too hard throws people off course, I think. When I decided to stop looking for someone and just give myself some time to heal....I ran right into the right guy.

I wish you all the best.

I dont get it Queeny. Your nice, easy to talk with, and pretty. You must be too pretty or something. Guess your done-for!

Now that you and A1 are together ... do you still feel this way?

Just having someone in my life has made me happy. Even though he isn't here physically,I would rather talk to him a million miles away than anyone in person,lol. In our situation,neither can just up and move,but we are working on being together soon. I feel like things haven't really been easier,but better...
Are you still envolved with the lady you mentioned before? If so,you know that just talking can bring two people together almost better than actually being there. Don't get me wrong,things aren't always perfect,but so far,we have worked out disagreements and our line of communication is "up there",and that's a good thing to me.

:)

The willingness to work things thru is what sustains a long distance relationship. You and A! seem to truly WANT to make it work and thats half the battle. Best of luck to you both, I hope you get the fairy tale ending you both deserve.