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imkevin21

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notreally

Joined: 4/15/2005

I think your correct in some aspects. Men are more secure and settled, Women more unsettled. Our children have left, our careers are being threatened by younger competition. Our men are feeling good about themselves and their finances and looking around for someone younger and more appealing someone to make them feel like the man they were when WE first got them. BUT these are generalities women over 48 do have choices. You can choose to let things happen to you or make them happen for you. Life is all about choices. Get on the bus or get run over.

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wwcooke

Joined: 10/5/2004

I tend to agree with most of what you said but disagree with trying to find a "younger" woman. Most of my friends who are single would prefer a woman closer to our age as they would have more in common. An intelligent conversation will have more meaning and last longer than a hour of being initmate.

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ronny15

Joined: 6/11/2005

well i agree with all this to a point. but what i have seen and heard women of today who are over 40 years of age want a man that is younger like in their 20's. also women of today now look for a man with certain features like how tall they are or how much they weigh. they want someone that i handson and good looking. someone that has six packs on them. woman are not looking for what kind of heart a man has. like woman all man are also looking for someone younger because this woman around mans age has made a statement. also some woman might live to far from a man that is interested in her and it makes it more difficult to meet. so woman as well as man look for someone that has a good heart and will enjoy being with you. younger women as well as men might be with you but in the long run they will be cheating you behind your back. thank you

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*MR_DEE*

Joined: 9/27/2008

Well, I'm not sure what article/book/magazine that you read this study you speak of from, but I also agree to some of the facts. However, there are some truths and untruths....
I agree with the fact that woman nowadays are worried about the "what ifs" and "I should have" woman do think about depressing stuff and are sad and insecure, they tend to suffer more from depression than men do; why I have no clue, but here's my opinion on the issue. Woman are the way they are mainly because they've been domestic housewifes and subserviant for hundreds of years. Not to speak of the fact that woman have never truely been given equal rights and opportunities that men get, woman were usually given the backseat in success/career choices. Yes many have had terrible choices, but haven't we all? I mean look at this from their view, we as men haven't always been the greatest role models, fathers, husbands, etc... Woman have come a long way and they are still in general are a bit insecure about their image, their physical looks, and state of mind! Although their are some who have great self-esteem, and self-confidence. There still are more woman on earth than men so look athe choices that they have to make, and or given! Woman are not so worried about how much money a man has, woman tend to be more concerned with the quality of their relationships, how good their partner looks, and how good their partner is in bed. These are a few of the things that seems to float their boat. American woman are the highest percentage of what this survey was based upon.
However, on the other hand please never underestimate a woman because their minds never rest. They seem to be planner's they want things to be organized and structured. So yes, I agree to this study, but I also feel for those woman out there who are just getting a life after Death!

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bobby2259

Joined: 5/12/2006

Funny thing only one woman responded. I have to say being the youngest of 8 with 6 older sisters I have seen first hand what they go through. Most think they have get alteed by modern methods to compete with the younger ones. Me personally, I would like someone who remembers where they were when JFK or MLK were shot. Its not how you are on the outside but whats inside that counts.

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laurie16

Joined: 4/16/2005

I am single, mother of a ten year old daughter. She hasnt seen her father in over three years. We are happy. I work 40 plus hours a week, and we get by. I pay the rent,utilities, groceries, stil have enough for us to be happy. No child support from him and yet we survive without a man in our lives. Point is that women can take care of themselves. We re not weak, we are strong and can survive without the other sex being in the picture. Not saying if the right guy was to introduce himself to the both of us, I wouldnt close that door.Women are no longer cosidered the weaker sex, we get along just fine with out them. Take care of yourselves ladies, its not all that bad!

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tenx9

Joined: 2/19/2004

whoever said womnen are the weaker sex. sorry about your situ. But, usually after a divorce the guy is usually broke and getting broker. the wife keeps the home and child support is so high that a guy can't find a place to live. I can't tell you how many men have to move back in with their parents, siblings....etc. And these are established older men, not kids. Frankly, I'll take the kids, and you can pay me. So we have a situ where, where broke, and usually have no say in the upbringing of our kids. Just a paycheck my dear. Now, as far as dating, any woman our age ain't interested, because she just divorced a guy that looks like me. And those younger babes aren't interested, because we're broke. Good deal....eh??? I think I'll take yours.

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KittyBoo

Joined: 11/2/2008

I mostly get the younger guys but I prefer an older gentleman. But you no it really doesnt matter cause its what comes from the heart that count, not too young thou. lol lol The looks on the outside will change but whats in the heart will not.

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msw3

Joined: 5/25/2005

I wish I knew. Sometimes women in their 40's and 50's want men in their 20's and 30's; and the same for men. Also...the unreasonably high expections and the rejections that untimately follow make both men and women unhappy and less willing to accept each other.

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notreally

Joined: 4/15/2005

Alot of men keep saying , women want guys in their 20 and 30s. NO !!! GIRLS want men in their 20s and 30s. Women want men whom they can relate to. There has to be more to a relationship than sex. I want someone who can talk about something other than how their work out went and what team is playing . I want a man with at least a few of the same interests. Spend your TIME on Me NOT your MONEY!

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A little less t...

Joined: 8/25/2008

Well I can't and won't answer on a males part, However being a young 49.I am not sure where you got your " study" from.>>>>>>& gt;Women over 48 or 49 start getting sadder and sadder, and unhappy with their choice in life for male companionship....

I AM FAR FROM AN UNHAPPY WOMEN!!......HOW EVER I HAVE MADE 2 BAD CHOICE'S WHEN IT CAME TO DATING...N EVEN THOUGHT I DID 2 TIME'S. DOESN'T MEAN IT HAS MADE ME UNHAPPY OR TO SEEK ANYTHING LESS THEN WHAT I SEEK IN A MALE.
Life is a learning lesson. It's what you do with those lessons once you encounter them!

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drgent

Joined: 6/12/2007

Interesting forum and interesting comments! This is usually where I end up getting into an argument and verbally abused! I can see many of the points brought up here which is why I am commenting.

As a Gent turning 58 in January, it is not easy to meet people. Women always and I am sure while they read these articles. first thought about men dating younger women. I won't argue with that, but I have some views as to why. Fair or not fair, men ar eout in the workplace and women are home with the children. They come in contact with young attractive women while the wife stays home and takes care of the home and kids. They don't take care of themselves like they used to before the children. No its not fair. Hubby has the funds and the time to go work out at the gym and play golf. so here the wife finds herself in her forties, out of shape, and all of a sudden single, and not as worldly as the younger women that her husband may meet.

So now you are going to argue that, that is not true of all these women? I agree with you 100%! But review the profiles here on Webdate and see how many of the attractive, worldly, business women that are in good shape, out in the world, business people, looking for men my age. They are looking for men in their 30's, 40's, even if they are in their 60's!

I get plenty of emails from women in their 20's and early 30's. But at that age it's hard to talk to them about the Beatles, Grateful Dead, or even JFK's asassination. I'm not looking to adopt more children as my kids are grown. That's one of the reasons I am down here in the DR, for me to enjoy life. I would love to find someone in their mid 40's to 50's, but it isn't easy. Dating isn't easy at any age!

O.K., was this venting or just frustration?

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marigold

Joined: 10/25/2008

Well, I'm 49 and I have been making friends on here from guys all ages, younger to older, the majority younger, actually. I'm having a blast. I've never been married, have no children, take care of myself just fine, pretty much do what I want.

This is actually the best time of my life and it only gets better!

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lynncat

Joined: 8/14/2007

I'm 57 and I'm talking to alot of men on here. I've been single for 15 years. I live in a small town. I do see the men my age looking at younger women. I have kept myself in shape, even after babies I went to the gym and killed to get back in shape. I have worked hard, been to college. I see men my age who have been to college going after younger women (many of them on drugs or working in bars). But, it is because they make them feel young. Sometimes I look at men my age and think they will make me feel old. I don't want to spend the whole night trying to make something happen. Hey, I'm being honest. Just as a man doesn't want a woman out of shape, women don't want men that way either. You are correct about what is on the inside of people. People need to be able to connect in more ways than one. Who knows it takes all kinds to make the world go round? I have seen men leave beautiful women for women who aren't as pretty as their wives. I think the main thing is be "happy" with your life so, if someone does come along you are ready to share that happiness. I would like to find a mate but, I won't just settle. After all these years of searching and waiting it either happens or I live without. Oh, I know exactly where I was when JFK was shot. Martin Luther King is never forgotten in my classroom. I remember the "Beatles". How far back do we have to go here? Ha, ha, I didn't go out with my friends this past Summer who found a new place to go out and dance. Well, they also found mates this past Summer. Here I am still single. So, I could kick myself. Never be negative. Great things happen everyday. Don't give up gals!

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blondebbwnatx

Joined: 9/10/2005

Hi,
I am new to this section of Webdate discussion forum and did not even know it existed. I too have been contacted by younger men and I find that age does not really determine the maturity level. Some of the younger men I have been with and chatted with seem to be very aware of the age difference and some of the problems associated with that. They also seem to be interested in what I am interested in and knowledgeable about it. I like all ages of men but sometimes I find the younger men are more interested in older bbws like myself.Not anything against men close to my age or older but it always seem like they went for the younger girls. Just this ladies opinion...lol

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bobby2259

Joined: 5/12/2006

This is how a comitted relationship starts. Communication. Ive popped in on the younger forums and talk about tit-4-tat. These kids don't have a clue. i think if you are happy with yourself nothing else matters.

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maggiesworld

Joined: 11/16/2008

well well I,m 49 and never been happier life is GREAT kids grown hubbie
gone(left with a toothless crack whore) life could,nt be better got the house all to myself cook when i want to and well I love it now I travel ride my motorcycle and well I really like my life now less stress

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ianna

Joined: 9/13/2003

Hi all :)
Everyone has his/her own life.
Impossible to say men or women getting sad over 48. Could be both and as well both could have very happy life.

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friendofyours

Joined: 2/15/2005

Well, I am very sad at the situation. Living in England, most guys seem to only be interested in sleeping around and aren't at all interested in a partner.

I see many lucky polish girls, young and beautiful who find it easy to meet someone, in our country. But rarely see any nice single Polish guys. They seem to enjoy being married and having kids. I wish I could find one, after 10 years on my own. I don't like people who sleep around so I feel I am doomed in England.

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browneyes39208

Joined: 10/10/2008

well like friendofyours said, its like that everywhere, not just in England!
Too many people only care about themself. And when you find someone and give them a chance, they usually end up being not being the person you thought they were. Its a pretty messed up world. Just can't trust anyone.

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QQ4U4

Joined: 1/10/2009

Reply to: well like friendofyours said, its like that everywhere, not just in England! To...
As a 65 year old male I much prefer a lady closer to my age with interests that are close to mine. For me there is no lady younger than 55 that would draw my attention.

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wiedfer

Joined: 9/6/2004

"Well, not trying to start a fight, but found this interesting. Was reading about a study that kind of makes some sense. Women over 48 or 49 start getting sadder and sadder, and unhappy with their choice in life for male companionship. While men over 48 or 49 seem to be happier and happier."

I can see that happening. As demands on the woman's time decrease she has time to look at the reality of what she has.

For me all I can say is that I am not getting sadder every year. I see new possibilities. I was widowed at 48 and each year I am happier and happier.

I would go plus or minus 10 years comfortably in a relationship. Much older or younger than that 10 year range would be a cultural shock. In order to be comfortable I would have to be able to share a life time of similar experience.

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stillherelooking

Joined: 9/24/2004

Well, I am meeting a lot of wonderful ladies my age BUT there is a big problem.......they all remind me of my MOM!!!!!
I don't know what it is about my personality but I tend to always meet the "nurturing type". I don't need a mom,,,,,Had one(still do-she's 85!!!!) , I need someone "exciting". Someone who will stimulate my intellect and my genitals!!!! Maybe I put too much in looks but I can't get into a relationship with someone who doesn't physically do it for me.
So, I am a man who is disappointed with the people I meet and life isn;t what I would like it to be.

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chickenfarmer

Joined: 6/8/2008

I am 53 and in a new area..so I basically don't know a soul. I left friends and family behind to pursue a dream of living on a small farm in Kentucky. I also left behind an abusive man, who has done his best to find me no matter where I moved to..I am hoping I am far enough away now.
Am I happy?? I am thrilled to be living my dream! The only thing that would make it better is to find someone to share it with. I have always been self sufficient, and I will try my hand at just about anything that needs to be done.
The healing process was long, and difficult, but now I am ready to try again. I have learned to live without a man in my life, but there is still a void that prevents me from being completely fulfilled. I love the company, the help with projects, and the closeness that a relationship provides. Honestly..I am a bit worn down having to do everything myself..lol. I would love to be able to write up a "honey-do" list for someone. (and I would help, of course")LOL!!

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