I can only assume that there are alot of hook ups on webdate, so i decided to share my input on long distance relationships.
There is a good percentage of you that are dating but are in different towns, different states, some even in different countrys.
Men and women have an equally hard time dealing with the separation that’s involved in a long-distance relationship. The reality of only seeing your cross-country love once every few months can take its toll on anyone. But you can make it work. These are five steps you can take to help out your long distance relationship.
1. Be clear about expectations up front.
Don't wing it; plan ahead. Usually, couples who didn't anticipate changes or talk through their game plan for dealing with them broke up within six months. The most important point, of course, is, are we monogamous?
Here is the deal, point blank, DO NOT RUSH ANYTHING. Talking on the phone for hours and hours is important, and phone sex is even key, but do not propose to a girl on the first week guys. Ladies, do not start making weeding plans the first week. But, still let your other know your expectations up front.
2. Express yourself
Even couples sharing the same zip code frequently have trouble telling each other how they feel. So imagine how much harder it is for lovers who can't use the power of touch to stay connected. It's important to figure out how to make your long-distance partner feel cherished. This can be done with words. For example, 'If I were with you, I'd give you a big kiss. Share the day-to-day events going on in each other's lives. This is all geared to staying so close that when you do get together you won't have that awkward transition period where you feel like strangers.
Send e-mails. Send physical letters and/or gifts. Either way, let the person know how you feel as much as you can without smothering them(smothering happends to be a whole other topic i will address later on.)
3. Enjoy your independence
Being apart is hard, but it enables you to continue growing as individuals while still remaining a couple. It was almost an empowering feeling to go out with friends and still feel committed in a relationship.
Don't offer to drop your entire life and move to his city right away, especially if this is a new and budding relationship . Not only does this make you look like a psycho and a stalker, relocation is a huge life-changing decision and is not to be taken lightly.
Eventually, of course, one or both of you hopefully will be able to move, but the aim is compromise, not sacrifice. Whether you live apart or together, it's important not to make your partner your whole life.
4. Spice up the long-distance lovin'
Sure, sex is best when you're in the same room, and the happiest Long Distance Relationship couples strive to be together as often as possible. However, there are ways to keep the fires flaming from a distance. Creativity is key.
It's true that mischievous messages may make you wish your lover were there to do all the things he wrote about. But his lack of physical presence doesn't mean you have to be left hot and bothered. Having a hands-free headset for the phone helps a lot. Once you're comfortable saying the words into a receiver, add some visuals. Using digital cameras to send photos to each other. Sparks are guaranteed. Phone Sex is VERY important.
5. Keep the faith
Yes, it's rough being apart, but harping on the negative can take a toll on the relationship. Instead of moaning that you never see each other, talk about the interesting things you've been doing and ask what he's up to. This will help in two ways: He/She won't think you're obsessed with the relationship, and you won't be obsessed. The happier you act with your life, the happier you'll actually feel.
And here's a cheery thought to get you started. The failure of Long Distance Relationship couples is a misconception. Couples break up for many reasons, but the distance doesn't seem to always be one of them. Indeed, couples in Long Distance Relationships have the same levels of intimacy , trust, commitment, and satisfaction as geographically close couples. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
So it's all you. Just because she lives in another city, or he lives in another states, dosen't mean you even have a disadvantage.
And if all else fails, remember the age old expression, "If it's ment to be, it's ment to be."
I'd be glad to help out anyone involved in a long distance relationship.
If you wanna contact me, my name is Court and my number is 903-574-8622
Or just PM me.
Thanks for listening.
