I can only assume that there are alot of hook ups on webdate, so i decided to share my input on long distance relationships.

There is a good percentage of you that are dating but are in different towns, different states, some even in different countrys.

Men and women have an equally hard time dealing with the separation that’s involved in a long-distance relationship. The reality of only seeing your cross-country love once every few months can take its toll on anyone. But you can make it work. These are five steps you can take to help out your long distance relationship.

1. Be clear about expectations up front.

Don't wing it; plan ahead. Usually, couples who didn't anticipate changes or talk through their game plan for dealing with them broke up within six months. The most important point, of course, is, are we monogamous?

Here is the deal, point blank, DO NOT RUSH ANYTHING. Talking on the phone for hours and hours is important, and phone sex is even key, but do not propose to a girl on the first week guys. Ladies, do not start making weeding plans the first week. But, still let your other know your expectations up front.



2. Express yourself

Even couples sharing the same zip code frequently have trouble telling each other how they feel. So imagine how much harder it is for lovers who can't use the power of touch to stay connected. It's important to figure out how to make your long-distance partner feel cherished. This can be done with words. For example, 'If I were with you, I'd give you a big kiss. Share the day-to-day events going on in each other's lives. This is all geared to staying so close that when you do get together you won't have that awkward transition period where you feel like strangers.

Send e-mails. Send physical letters and/or gifts. Either way, let the person know how you feel as much as you can without smothering them(smothering happends to be a whole other topic i will address later on.)

3. Enjoy your independence

Being apart is hard, but it enables you to continue growing as individuals while still remaining a couple. It was almost an empowering feeling to go out with friends and still feel committed in a relationship.

Don't offer to drop your entire life and move to his city right away, especially if this is a new and budding relationship . Not only does this make you look like a psycho and a stalker, relocation is a huge life-changing decision and is not to be taken lightly.

Eventually, of course, one or both of you hopefully will be able to move, but the aim is compromise, not sacrifice. Whether you live apart or together, it's important not to make your partner your whole life.

4. Spice up the long-distance lovin'

Sure, sex is best when you're in the same room, and the happiest Long Distance Relationship couples strive to be together as often as possible. However, there are ways to keep the fires flaming from a distance. Creativity is key.

It's true that mischievous messages may make you wish your lover were there to do all the things he wrote about. But his lack of physical presence doesn't mean you have to be left hot and bothered. Having a hands-free headset for the phone helps a lot. Once you're comfortable saying the words into a receiver, add some visuals. Using digital cameras to send photos to each other. Sparks are guaranteed. Phone Sex is VERY important.

5. Keep the faith

Yes, it's rough being apart, but harping on the negative can take a toll on the relationship. Instead of moaning that you never see each other, talk about the interesting things you've been doing and ask what he's up to. This will help in two ways: He/She won't think you're obsessed with the relationship, and you won't be obsessed. The happier you act with your life, the happier you'll actually feel.

And here's a cheery thought to get you started. The failure of Long Distance Relationship couples is a misconception. Couples break up for many reasons, but the distance doesn't seem to always be one of them. Indeed, couples in Long Distance Relationships have the same levels of intimacy , trust, commitment, and satisfaction as geographically close couples. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

So it's all you. Just because she lives in another city, or he lives in another states, dosen't mean you even have a disadvantage.

And if all else fails, remember the age old expression, "If it's ment to be, it's ment to be."

I'd be glad to help out anyone involved in a long distance relationship.

If you wanna contact me, my name is Court and my number is 903-574-8622

Or just PM me.

Thanks for listening.

I have dated men that lived distances away. I have been dating off the computer for some time but, it can be difficult. Those who find real relationships and love are very lucky. There have been many who have entered my life and are gone the next day. They tell you they are single, wanting a committed relationship and they aren't. I have learned to be very careful. Many men are married and say they are not. The computer is a way for a man to find someone in one state and the next day be with another in the next. I meet many men on line who do not enter my personal life. Two years ago I thought I had met the ieal man who was my soulmate. I traveled to NC, met his family. He traveled here to meet mine. We dated for a year. Everyday I looked forward to his phone calls and his messages of attraction over the computer. But, it was all a mistake. I fell in love with him, believed everything. I even started thinking what a future would be like with him. One day he called and told me to go on with my life. He wasn't ready for what I was. It took me a long time to accept and it was so painful. I think the computer can encompass time in a lonely person's life. That is good. You can make friendships but, you have to be really careful. Heartache can occur and it can be extremely painful. Now, when I meet somebody I try not to let my emotions get ahead of me. Building walls of distrust are not good but, sometimes you have to. When you are older like me emotions and heartache can have adverse effects on the entire body. Depression can occur in loneliness. I try to keep a positive outlook and I know in my heart I'm not meant to be alone. That special person is out there somewhere. So, I keep looking. I honestly believe if he is halfway across the world and he wants you it will happen.

methinks court is an online therapist wannabe.

Well, i thought i had actually met the man of my dreams, needless to say the long distance thing about drove me crazy and drove us apart. I don't know i am kinda in limbo right now. It's like it never happened at all. Guess u really don't know anyone, huh?

long distance relationships... wow.. just ended a 7 year relationship with a guy in California.. After a while the distance becomes a big factor.. You don`t think about all it implicates when you start a relationship but reality gets you after a while.. I have to say we were from different countries.. I am Canadian... It could have worked .. if i left everything here , my job, family, friends.. but it is a really big step.. I think it is better to find someone closer that you can at least touch.. on the weekends..

I have found too that it depends upon where you are in your life. Right now I have been teaching for over 30 years in WV. I must work until I'm 60 to pull full medical benefits. But, I voted for Obama and he is going to fix all of that I hope. Anyway, my children are nearly all raised. I think I could really make a go of it with any distance. Three of my children are fully raised and married. They live away. I raised them much too independent. I'm finding much time alone at this age. I'm not real happy. But, it seems like everytime I meet someone they can't seem to make up their mind what they really want. Even if you tell them from day # 1 you want something long term it doesn't sink in. What is it?

I agree alot of people are not honest..Long term is ultimately what i want and i think it will happen one day..