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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

I have had quite a few much younger men contact me on this site. I normally say I am flattered but not interested. I have had some very strong responses and most were not pleasant.
I am looking for something long term and not just a fling. Is that so wrong?

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Tonyaka

Joined: 11/14/2008

Usually this is why young people end up going thru so many relationships because they fail to do the one proper thing and that is BE A GENTLEMAN OR A LADY AT ALL TIMES

Regardless if the individuals tells you not interested be polite and thatnk them for their time, you never know by being polite they JUST MIGHT GIVE YOU A CHANCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But most young people can't / refuse to accept the fact that the older individual DOES have more sense and experience in relationships THAT IS WHY THEY CALL IT MATURITY

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Caleb H

Joined: 7/25/2008

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It's certainly your preference but I don't know why some older women won't take a shot on a younger guy...I mean I know alot do nowadays but you could end up being surprised and have much passion in your relationships and I don't just mean sexually. Granted a massive age difference could be an issue way down the line but it's no different then any other kind of romance...you always take a risk.

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bigmike0528

Joined: 8/22/2008

i dont mind its kind of nice to no that there are some that feel they are up to the tisk good luck every body

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ronny15

Joined: 6/11/2005

well its kinda of nice to have a younger woman contace me. if younger men are contacting older women why not have younger women contact older men. i would love to be involved with someone younger. i have not found that special person yet but to me it does not matter if she is 18, 25, 35 or older as long as we are both in love and have a good heart that is all that matters besides other things. and also older man are more caring, lovable, mature and responsible as well. so i hope to hear from younger woman that are interested in meeting an older man

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

I am not saying I have not dated younger men. But there is no way I (a 58 yr woman) has anything in common with a 20 something year old.

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Yakboy2u

Joined: 11/2/2008

It's all too often a "mind set" thing. I am used to being contacted by younger women due to my activity level and not looking my age, but I HAVE to say "been there done that" and while it does depend upon the individual person, I much more enjoy women in my own age group, which I consider to be 5-7 years either side of me. I like being able to relate to another in some form or fashion. I view younger women shasing older men an insecurity issue, young guys chasing older women is most likely sexual in nature, but then to -EACH HIS\HER OWN- ya know? It's an interesting world, if we all thought the same, what a boring place we'de in. OP, your attitude towards this subject seems healthy to me :-)

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Yakboy2u

Joined: 11/2/2008

And YES.....if I would learn to watch the screen while typing, I'de have less typos! I need a proof reeeeeeeder

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

I did have one that at least was honest and cute about it at the same time...he asked if I wanted to be his Mrs. Robinson. I am surprised he even knew what that was about. It was flattering in a way. Maybe the old broad hasn't lost it all yet.

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*MR_DEE*

Joined: 9/27/2008

Hello,
Having someone younger conacting you is not a bad thing, just acknowldge them as you would someone your own age. People are people we come in all races, ethnicities, religions, etc... In fact I like to talk to younger adults they're in more touch with the real world/future and mainly because their are so many people out that don't have a positive role model in their life. Ask not what someone else can do, but ask yourself what you can do to bridge the generation gap! There are enough narrow minded people out there that can't see beyond their own eyes! So who cares if someone wants to kick-it with you. I find it flatering. And as an older woman I would think you would too. Please don't act or say you wouldn't date a younger man because you obviously don't know what your missing! The same goes for us men out here........

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smiley7804

Joined: 9/30/2004

I have dating younger men and it is all good as long as you have something in common. They can teach you a think or two and the reverse is also true. Like another person said, "give a younger person a chance as you would someone your own age." You never know what could happen. Who knows that younger guy might just be the right one for you and you will never know it if you don't give it a try. Look at Demmi Moore she found a way to make things work with a guy 20 years younger than her. I know a lot of people said, what was she thinking marrying a guy? It's working for her so why couldn't work for you? I still haven't found that special person, but I am not closing the door on someone younger. But I will delete a profile if that younger guy just wants to talk dirty and he is all about sex. Those guys aren't looking for a relationship. A Like you I am looking for a long term relationship and not just sex. good luck

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diehardtraveller

Joined: 9/7/2008

When a younger man-over 10 yrs- shows interest, I keep what I want from life in mind. I'm at an age where I want to travel, go out once in a while with friends, and think about an early retirement. Assuming the man hasn't mentioned sex-which alot of them do- how much will we have in common. Will he be thinking of having children, still raising young ones- point is-where are we both at in our lives. My husband was 10 yrs older than me- and although I loved him dearly, as we got older I found that we weren't on the same page as much as when we were younger. Now I'd like someone closer to my age, so our interests are similar.

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scratchie

Joined: 8/29/2004

I don't really have a problem with dating younger men. I do have a problem when they tend to be that of my children ages and stating what they think they can do for me sexually. But then again that happens with all the ages.
It's all about mentality and how you approach someone. Show me some respect and some sense and I will do the same.
It is true that the young and old can learn from each other...it's the way that it should be. It took my son whom was 19yrs old and a senior in high school to teach me to forgive and to appreciate the simple pleasures of life...he passed away on June 1, 2008 of cancer.
The young can teach us how to be free and we can teach them how to be stable a matter to be able to mesh all the good together.
Whether they are young or old, in the end I believe there is someone out there for all of us...just a matter of time and swifting through the hay for that needle.

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notreally

Joined: 4/15/2005

Maybe im wrong here But I will just give an honest answer. #1 if one more under 30 "man" tells me he just loves older women Im going to become homicidal. #2 I want a man who has the maps and doesnt need me to teach him anything. Also if a man is that much younger, no matter how mature or what ever there just isnt going to be anything in common. Men closer to my age knows what gravity does to your body too. #3 I dont talk to my own kids why would I wanna talk to someone elses.

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A little less t...

Joined: 8/25/2008

I don't make it an issue or a disruption within myself, When they do,I thank them for there interest and inform them their a bit to young for me,n wish them good luck. I feel If they have taken the time out to contact me, I O them the respect of a reply.

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

I agree and I have done the same but that is when the immaturity really has come out at times. Had a few call me some very nasty names. I just figure...oh well...that is my point, youngster.

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blondemimi

Joined: 10/17/2007

My only problem with the younger guys is me. I can't get past the fact I have children older than most of them. Hard to feel romantic about someone who was watching cartoons when I was in labor with a child......LMAO

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lynncat

Joined: 8/14/2007

Reply to: My only problem with the younger guys is me. I can't get past the fact I have...
I am deleting my posts!

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typicallyunique

Joined: 6/8/2005

It is both flattering and intimidating.Ihave concerners about being taken seriously by my professional peers and my family if introducing a man who is in the range to date my daughters,or perhaps hang out with my sons....I have chatted with a few, however I have not been able to make that move. Older men or men my age I feel would appericate my maturity.

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44mag

Joined: 8/21/2005

I really don't mind dating younger people.That is if we have something in common also the must not be in their 20's or early 30's.They should be older the my kids..If things did work out no one wants to call someone younger then them "MOM". I have dated younger ladies...I have found they are more active then those closer to my age...

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gentleforce

Joined: 8/5/2004

I have seen relationships with a many years difference (a woman friend of mine in her mid fifties dating a younger man in his early thirties) and seems to work. But for me, I find that dating a younger woman is difficult. Being raised in different time frames affects your world view and its difficult, if not impossible, to communicate comfortably. Of course there are other factors, for instance, sub culture influence can have a impact on your world view. I think there are many factors that go into compatibility; (introvert, extrovert - orientation), cultural and subcultural influences, personal philosophy and values, economic class, taste, and romantic interest. I think that age is just one factor and not that important when compared to the others.

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DJTheHopefulRom...

Joined: 9/8/2007

You know really I think It can work and even be a good thing. I'm attracted to older women (not exclusively) and for my age I'm quite mature in my attitude and way I carry myself...perhaps not in my interests as much. The big hang up seems to be when the older women has children that might be close to your age....I never be pushy because no means no but my thoughts are usually "well I'm not your son" It's such a small thing and your right it's how others would perceive you but look at all the guys running around with far far younger girls.....that more or less goes un judged.

I think younger/older relationships can be quite special maybe give the older partner some adventure (not just saying sexually) in life and maybe the younger one benefits from the others maturity.....one plus for me is I'm not looking to have kids right now and may never....an older woman who's done having kids can actually be ideal. I'm also a romantic guy and often older women tend to have a more romantic side to them and appreciate gestures of affection.

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HEART QUEEN

Joined: 12/9/2008

I am very flattered when young men flirt with me. But in a nice caring way , I put them in there place. Often they have respected me and keep in touch. I don't mind as long as it's on the level and they continue to respect me. I am just Friendly that way. No sex talk allowed. I let them know upfront that I am old enough to be there mom so therefor they better treat me as if I am.My oldest son is 21 and there is no way I will ever date someone who is not at least 10 years older than him.But even that may be too young. I know age is but a number but within reason there is more to it than the number.

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ianna

Joined: 9/13/2003

I agree -- it is always flattering when you get message from man younger. And you can even try to have relations with him. and it could even work -- for short term while he feel pasion. But it will, most probably, become worse and worse as time goes. Take a look to one of reply here :
"My husband was 10 yrs older than me- and although I loved him dearly, as we got older I found that we weren't on the same page as much as when we were younger. Now I'd like someone closer to my age, so our interests are similar."

If you look for someone special to be with to the rest of the life -- it is very risky to accept person with very big age difference.
Doesnt matter how you and he love each other, you will have fear all the time that he find someone younger and fall in love...
One of my friend married to man who is 11 years younger. They have ideal relations during 10 years of marriage. and then he found a woman 10 years younger and left..

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mdgines

Joined: 7/21/2008

I have had contact with younger women whom seem intrigued by my profile but intimidated by my age. Most conversations are pretty lame, I guess it's out of fear or shyness. If you are able to communicate effectively and can express yourself without being rude or crast, and are honest with the individual(s) you wish to talk to, in time a good relationship will develop. A slightly warpped sense of humor helps also! I also learned some younger women possess wisdom far beyond their age, either from personal life experience or second-hand, most know B.S. when they see it. I have no problem responding to replies from younger women, I just make sure they are not below/under a certain age (25). If there is some sort of connection there...I pursue it! .

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