I am in a relationship but the sex is pretty bad. I am not really attracted , physically, to the lovely lady.
How does one go about finding the correct sexual partner? I know I am a little old for this question but I have only been with one woman that really did the things that got me going. She passed away many years ago and since then It's been pretty slim pickin's on the fun in the bedroom stuff.(car stuff,dining room stuff-you get the picture)
I have tried those rip off adult dating sites so that isn't an option.

I too wonder about how can I find a decent respectible gentlemen that can sexually meet my needs without having to put oneself in an awkward intimate situation. I'm in my late 40s yet my sex drive is higher now more than ever. I suspect men in the same age frame feel the same and there's only one explanation for this. We know what it takes to turn us on. We know how we want to be touch. We know what it takes to turn the other on. All of this and feeling comfortable in your own skin, strong chemistry and intimacy are all important factors that play a great role in making love flow smoothly.

It's all about communication. If you meet someone who is physically and emotionally attractive, then talk to them about sex. If you are comfortable with that kind of conversation you can learn a lot about someone from what they say, how they say it, their body language ... and all without taking off a single stitch of clothing.

i understand the problem also. and after 50 so many seem to have ED. true i can be satisfied without actual intercourse but somehow they never get around to telling you about that until you are so dang turned on the dog is even looking good to ya.

I don't think you should worry about the intimate part. I believe that communication is the key and and if you get along in every other way and can communicate what is expected otherwise and agree on it then everything will fall in place. When it comes to making love,You better make sure you attracted in all aspects before you take that mile.If you aren't attracted then that's that. Don't waste time with someone and don't lead someone on. You just have to keep looking till you find her.

yeah ... but ... but ... but ... what if you find someone and you get along really well and get to know one another, become great friends, are really really into one another ... then you have sex and it SUCKS! What then?

It is all about chemistry!!! She could be as ugly as hell but sex could be great and/or other way arround!!

it happened to me. i stayed with him for 10 months. i broke off with him for other reasons.
he was kind caring and thoughtful out of bed. but he tried very hard to please in bed. i never let him know i was not satisfied. i can be one heck of an actress.

it happened to me. i stayed with him for 10 months. i broke off with him for other reasons.he was kind caring and thoughtful out of bed. but he tried very hard to please in bed. i never let him know i was not satisfied. i can be one heck of an actress. 

So you sometimes fake your orgasms?

My apologies NightHowl... but you REALLY should be honest and tell him HOW to please you.. otherwise, he is thinking he is doing ok and he will continue to have the same problem with the next lady he is with...
I know that nobody wants to hurt peoples feelings, but "I" would want to know...
Just my 2 cents..
J

I don't know. That is a tough one to answer. I just don't understand why that s
happens. I guess it really is about looks then and how a person is in bed. But then again if it isn't about that then that shouldn't be a problem.But I see your point as sad as it is there are some very frigid people out there that don't know how to make it work.

he made me happy in other ways so i took care of my needs later. he would have been content to stay with me but he passed away last year.

Women , the secret in men makes u satisfied , its love , same make sex just for sex like animals , but if u make love belive me u will be satisfied , my ex gf was ask me to stop evry time we make love , we was do at about 7 times evry night she wont let me sleep but honestly i was like so

Women , the secret in men makes u satisfied , its love , same make sex just for sex like animals , but if u make love belive me u will be satisfied , my ex gf was ask me to stop evry time we make love , we was do at about 7 times evry night she wont let me sleep but honestly i was like so 

If you're so great at satisfying women, why is she your "ex" girlfriend? Just so you know ... quantity does not make great sex, it's all about the quality.

oh yeah..i had a marathon lover one time. took his viagra and went all night long and yet i did not cum one time. if i had been a man, i would have had blue balls though.

so instead you had blue vagina? Damn! I imagine that would be awful!

well its long story , and she still love me and want me but ..... if u can understand this .... Sparrows may love a fishs , but where can they live ?? you may understand what i mean

well its long story , and she still love me and want me but ..... if u can understand this .... Sparrows may love a fishs , but where can they live ?? you may understand what i mean

Is this like an old country proverb or something?

I agree if its there it will happen at the right time good andswer

i think u are smart to understand what i mean , not proverb but its had more than oner sens

i could barely wait for him to get out the door so i could get out the toys.

Ha, ha, are you looking for one of the ladies on here to tell you to try out several until you find the right fit. The thing with sex is you can't have it correctly without chemistry. If you don't feel anything for the gal like attraction that makes you crazy the sex won't do it either. -

It feels good-love it But it is about the connection between each other, If you both get into each other Damn can't get enough.

You have watched "Ever After" too many times...

You have watched "Ever After" too many times...

Although it is a good movie. I love that movie! But it's fantasy. It's my get away! LOL