I've noticed on a lot of date sites and even in real life dating that status of a guy is usually the decision maker for many women.I mean come on ! Don't people wanna meet and get to know someone first!Its always ( what do you do for a living ) I hate that question cause a doctor or a lawyer is automatically accepted and a guy working at Burger king is looked down at ! In reality the guy at BK could be the one to make you happy! I have conducted many studies and played the doctor and got many women falling at my feet lol and and then when I tell them that I work at BK they disappear! So many relationships are broken and very few work out to be very strong Hmmm ?

I hope this thread goes far because I too find this very interesting... There are a lot of Gold Diggers out there we already know this but what is this crap with the status is what I ponder upon too! Very Good Thread.... Thanks

Well, you are right Shott, there are plenty of women out there who are raised to be gold diggers. But there are also plenty who aren't, including myself. But I still always want to know what a guy does for a living or if he goes to school. It's not about being rich or having the best status. It's about finding someone who is dependable and stable enough to raise a family with. Someone who works at BK more than likely has a history of changing jobs often. Not always true, of course, but it's more common than someone who is a doctor. Doctors are more likely to have the same job for years to come. I don't care much about money, as long as I have enough to survive. But if I meet a guy who is close to 30, I do expect him to at least have a plan, if not be working towards his career already.

Now, would I like to marry someone rich? Of course. Wouldn't we all? I don't need it, but I wouldn't turn it down if it came along. Then I know I would be able to stay home and raise my kids, and not have to work, leaving them at home. That would be ideal. I'll leave you with a quote from the movie Gentlemen Prefer Blondes;

"Don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness, doesn't it help?

Thanks for the Great Insight Jem... That makes a lot of sense except for the part where you state that "Someone who works at burger king more than likely has a history of changing jobs often". With all Respect to you Jem but isn't thata kinda' biased? I'm already half way through life and I'm set for life as far as money goes but if I did work at burger king just because I wanted to, does that mean a woman wouldn't really look at me for who I am without knowing that I have plenty of money? That just isn't fair...

Hey, I said most likely because it's true. I wouldn't immediately brush someone off because they worked at BK, but it's just statistics. Food service, especially fast food, and clothing stores have the highest turnover of any job markets. Retail in general.

Besides, would you want to find a girl who wants you for your money, or one who loves you even though you work at BK?

pretty sure shott isn't gonna find either!! lmfao!!! ewwww!!!!!

I like this girl ! It is very hard to hate you and I hate most !..but a few things here that don't sit right with me ..first is when you say I do expect him to at least have a plan, if not be working towards his career already.Why is a plan so important ? Or a career? What does all of that have to do with being with someone that makes you happy!!.Then you say.. I wouldn't turn it down if it came along..Ok so does that mean if it comes along you are all in ?..Do you love this guy ?

Like I said, it's about stability and dependability. If a guy nearing his 30s has absolutely no plan for his life, then how can you depend on him for anything else?

I wouldn't turn it down if it came along, meaning I wouldn't turn down a guy I love just because he is rich. I don't need to be rich in life, but if I fall in love with a guy who just happens to be rich, then so be it.

You say you don't need to be rich in life ! So why is stability important? As long as your love is stable that should be all that matters!..Why can't two depend on each other ? Why MUST you say (. If a guy nearing his 30s has absolutely no plan for his life, then how can you depend on him for anything else?)
..Together as one ! Where is it written that HE MUST take care of you..LOVE is based on what we do for each other..Man works at BK and Girl works at Sears..they rent an apartment with running car ! What is wrong with that ?

If the guy doesn't have a plan for himself then she obviously can't depending on him as he obviously cannot depend on himself.


You need to have yourself figured out before you can give yourself to anyone else.

What ????????????????????? lol..What are u trying to say ? Why does a guy need a plan ? Does the woman need a plan too ? Do we need a resume in dating ? LOL

You seriously need more of an explanation?



Wh y should anyone want to be with someone they have to support?

WHAT ?????????????????????????????? ?
You are misunderstanding the question !Read again!

No I'm not. I understand it perfectly. I'm enjoying how this is my fault though.


You want to know why status is important to women, why most will go for the doctor instead of the guy who works at Burger King.



The answer is easy. She prefers the stability in knowing she probably won't have to financially carry the doctor.


I don't care what a guy does for a job personally as long as he can support himself.

Ok ..but the question also means: women will AUTOMATICALLY accept a doctor ! He could in fact be the sicko that axes women but he will be quickly accepted!
The BK guy won't even get a chance.
Second where is it written that a man has to support the woman?
Why can't they be a team and live happily ever after?
and last ! THE FIRST THING THAT A WOMAN SHOULD LOOK FOR IN A MAN IS WHO HE IS and not WHAT HE IS !..

You're generalizing.



I 'm also answering the question in the way you worded it. You made it about women going after men.



I responded about women going after men. You want different answers, word your questions differently.

You just love to manipulate !Nevermind ! Though I find it very interesting to dress in yuppie clothes and tell women I am a doctor at the clubs !I'm sure you know the result ! Yes they jump right in that bed but in the morning I tell them I really work as a janitor their faces drop !.hahaha!Oh and they never call me .

Why should they call someone pretending to be someone they're not?



That's your issue, not theirs.

Interesting you say that ! cause I've also tested and said : ( Honey I lied ! i am not a doctor :( I am really a lawyer ) Hmmm they called me ! Guess they didn't care about the pretending part then huh ?

This whole thread is about your issues that you're just trying to blame on women.

No honey ! All women are different ! Most are gold diggers and few are not ! My original question is STATUS !...Why that is the first interest in a woman's eyes..When I feel it should be who is he ? Is he a nice man !..Does he make me smile ?

Right, you want everyone to agree with you because you feel that's how it should be.



You're still generalizing on women and making the question about women. Why isn't it a people thing?

Part of being a man is being dependable. The same as being a woman. It's maturity.

I give up ! You just love to disagree with everyone and everything !

Way to prove yourself to be undependable.


It's not my fault you worded your question wrong or that you're generalizing. This goes back to you blaming others for your own downfalls.