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bluesprings99

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Understanding - no one likes every president, but in this day and age where we have an african american president. Is race still a consideration when making a choice to whom one will date? Why?

This is really for the people under 40! I understand and respect the up bring of plus 40 poeple in this country - right or wrong.

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wetnwild600

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I don't see how one's choices about who to date have anything to do with the race of our president or the problems between racial groups in this country.

Personally race isn't a factor for me when dating. But attitudes about life definitely are. I can't tell by looking at someone's physical appearance who they are inside, in this day and age people of all races can come from all over the world. In college I decided I'd go out with anyone once, and while I quickly modified that approach, I still enjoy getting to know different people even if I don't want romantic relationships with them all.

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jem1987

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I see what he means about having a black president. In this day, we have come far enough from our race problems in the past that we were able to elect a black president. So have we also come far enough that we can date interacially as well? This is going to be different from person to person. It is definitely not as much of an issue as it used to be, and it seems to be less and less of an issue, the same with acceptance of different sexual orientations. But there are always going to be people who don't agree with it.

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wetnwild600

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Well, I guess what I meant was that a person can be accepting of other races and still not want to date them, so while someone might have voted for Obama, that doesn't necessarily mean anything about attitudes toward interracial dating.

I actually tend to shy away from dating black men, not because I don't find them attractive or wouldn't want to be with one, but because my black girlfriends see black men dating white women as some kind of betrayal. I don't really agree, but I don't categorically disagree either because I see their point of view. It's a sensitive subject to them. I know they'd be understanding of any choice I made, but my ambivalence is still there.

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jem1987

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Oh god yes, black women hate it when a black guy is dating a white girl. Anytime I hang out with my black guy friends, we get the dirtiest looks from black girls. I'm not sure if why it's like that, but it is.

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Omg, is Ultimate black?

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HA!

Yeah... Angry white guys bring it up waaaayyyy more than anyone else. And this forum is a perfect example of that.

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wetnwild600

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Dude, lighten up. I'm pretty sure that if you look through all the threads on here, the ones about race are almost exclusively Ultimate's creation. And I don't think that this is a stupid thread at all, it pertains to dating and is posing an intelligent question. Like Jem said, everyone has different preferences about who they want to date and color is one of them. Why don't you think it's stupid every time someone asks about weight or age preferences?

Also, not talking about the elephant in the room doesn't mean the elephant isn't there.

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I'm only half white. And I'm not dating a black guy. So I'm not really sure what you are trying to reference here, but whatever it is, you're failing miserably.

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I think Leo has been and is still being hurt by people he thought he loved, and that he's racist and defensive about being so. Plus he'd go crazy for a bit of arm candy himself, so I don't know where he gets off making a negative generalization like that.

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What is your point? It's immature to have black friends? Black men are friends with a half Puerto Rican, half white woman because they see her as a trophy? Please explain.

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wetnwild600

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Great to see your true colors shining through.

Tell me, how many black men do you know there in Midlothian, IL that you can sit there in judgement? How often have you expressed your lust for younger women with nice little bodies? How many thoughts do you have in a day that aren't about sex? I really don't think much blood is getting to your brain.

I don't know much about black sports figures, but I kind of doubt that even if ALL of them have white wives and ALL of those women are trophies, that they are a fair representation of black men. Not to mention the fact that there are plenty of men of all races who choose trophy wives. Women enter those relationships for a lot of reasons, and those relationships are weird to me, but they've little to do with race. And it's men who have perpetuated the myth of black male penis size, not women. Women know better than that.

I'm attracted to men for a lot more than their physicality. And skin color has nothing to do with it. What makes you think that all women are as shallow as you are? Or that there has to be something wrong with them to be attracted to a black man? I had a crush on a black boy from 8th-11th grade, I flirted shamelessly and was sad that he never asked me out. He was smart, funny, sweet and hot as hell. I'd take Denzel Washington or Will Smith into my bed in a heartbeat. I lived in Namibia for 18 months and met a lot of beautiful black men, beautiful inside and out. I don't like all black men. I don't like all men. But the black men I like are a lot more attractive as people than you are, imo.

People of different races do fall in love with each other despite what the world has to say about their relationships, for the same reasons people of the same race do. The way you interpret interracial relationships only reveals how small minded you are and how ugly your attitude is toward people of color and women. No, I don't know everything. But your repeated assertion that my mind has been twisted by liberal college professors is totally ridiculous and is all about your inferiority complex for having had such a deficient education as well as crippled critical thinking skills. So you can take that assumption and choke on it for all I care.

OJ is a despicable person who is not a perfect example of any but a group of murderous assholes who regard women as property.

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You lost me at OJ.

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