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socalfem

Joined: 8/15/2006

ok......so last night i saw in my bf's phone that he wrote to his ex that he misses her and she wrote back she missed him too. i didn't get to read everything else because i was so pissed that i immediately questioned him about it!!!....he says he never wants to talk to her again and what-not but....hello.....here he is telling her he misses her!!!....i met him through this site and we've been together for almost four months......and he just gave me a promise ring because he wants to be with me forever he says......so i'm so confused...i've already been through one horrible bread-up and don't wanna go through another one again......so guys please tell me what this means?!?!?!.....also he told me that he wouldn't have given me a promise ring if i didn't mean anything to him.......so what's going on?!?!?!

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morningperson

Joined: 6/29/2004

Be careful, That is a bad sign honey. usually means he's not over her. go slow and watch out for yourself.

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69mindfreak69

Joined: 7/12/2008

Coming from me being a male.If that was me then that means I'm a player.He slipped & made a boo boo but on purpose.if he said that then he really does miss her.Of course hes gonna tell you that about that promise ring.hes back tracking to save his ass with you.I don't think you can trust him after that shit.I'm not a negative person But I'm calling it like i see it.

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love4nature84

Joined: 12/19/2008

This sounds vaugley familiar to an ex friend I used to hang with. He would gain a womans conifidence and trust, and then sneak behind their back and talk (amongst other things) to other women. If he got you a promise ring after only four months thats a red flag in my opinion. A promise ring is supposed to be a prelude to an engagement ring, and ultimately a wedding ring. Now I will ask you a question, after four months, can you knowingly say you want to be witht this guy the rest of your life?? Do you know him well enough? By accepting a promise ring you are making your own "vow" that you want to be with him the rest of your life. Now personally I find "promise" rings silly, but they can be romantic. It sounds like this guy just got you this ring to act as a security blanket as to gain your trust, and make him able to do what he wants.

Just my two cents....Good luck!! I hope it all works out for you..Love4nature84

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ptercar96

Joined: 12/12/2008

you are being played please tell us u have'nt loned money or anything sounds like " i here for the bread and butter"meet u later deal. dump his ass now!!!!

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DJTheHopefulRom...

Joined: 9/8/2007

A hate to crush your dreams on this one sweetie but best case scenario is he isn't over his girlfriend which obviously is a bad sign. If they were face to face no doubt more would have happened and it may have at some point for that matter.

Worse case scenario is he's an untrustworthy player who goes through the same cycle with women. You deserve better.......seriously people if you have a special girl who loves you in your life it should not be hard to stay faithful.

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Only4one

Joined: 12/7/2008

Dont walk away from him....RUN. Some fellas just dont like the idea of being alone, and wont be . whatever it takes. He's busted, trust your instincts not your heart. He's the kind of guy who' eyes and mind are always one step away, I'm sure you've noticed. Like he's there but not really there. If its not her , it WILL be someone else. Take my word on that...good luck!

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babygirll18

Joined: 9/27/2004

Reply to: Dont walk away from him....RUN. Some fellas just dont like the idea of being al...
LOL yah run

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Msc33

Joined: 3/14/2009

Sorry sweetie but your boy is full of shit.
A promis ring doesn't really mean much to most men.
Usually just a way to shut em up,so to speak.
My best advice to you is watch yourself.
He's got his cake and is eating it to.

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