thanks AdamF1978
we rarely hear that ppl could be sincerley nice anymore ... more often ppl assume the worst of someone... I'm like you... I think most ppl have a good heart...and that we miss a lot of the good times in life if we are constantly guarding ourselves against the heartbreak that may or may not happen.
However I have recently realised that this guy is a heavy drinker and he's framed a picture of his last girlfriend which he has placed on his kitchen table...he tells me she has a new "boyfriend" but it is obvious that he hasn't accepted that. it prob wouldn't be a good idea to get involved with him for that reason... I'm thinking there is not much I can do.
RE
You know it's pretty common for a guy after a couple years to dump his girl because he feels he will NEVER be that adequate of a provider, half the time they get back together and get engaged right away. Sounds like this guy might not have had the confidence, then had a girlfriend/possible fiance and it just didn't work out, now he realizes life is too short and living is about taking chances. Maybe he likes you, maybe he's just too hurt to plunge in, but finally had the confidence... and obviously enjoys your company. You can be your own worst enemy pushing on that topic, and that could drive him away. It's important to drop hints of what you want out of life, and I think half the guys aren't afraid to get a kick to the arse in a good way to get them rolling towards a better life. Be confident and expressive, but body language can let you know that boundaries on touchy topics.(even pupil dilates for example) Challenge his mind to more then just company. Bring up odd questions as ice breakers if he's having an off day... example: "If you had to choose would you: Ride a bicycle 100kilometers or walk backwards for 15 minutes." There are no rules, everyone's different and you gotta go off their personality and reaction to your portrayal of ideas. Best of luck.
