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babygirll18

Joined: 9/27/2004

If a guy puts a girl down with everything she does, example like a new hair cut, new clothes etc... and all he has to say is that he dosent like it, and trying to change the girl, what does that mean?

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Etritonakin

Joined: 9/11/2008

It means you need to date someone who is not a dork.
You're way hot, so he may feel insecure, but why not be with someone who is not abusive?

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BROOKLYN G.M.B BOI

Joined: 8/2/2008

U NEED UR BOI DOMO

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mrlickonya

Joined: 1/6/2008

it usually means that he is a manipulative, disrespectful, self-centered controling bastard that puts himself above the woman hes with. he will never treat her with equal respect. my opinion ..... stay with this type only if you like mental abuse

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True Dad

Joined: 11/21/2008

what ive found to be the best method is. Dont get to emotionally attached. You will see things in a different view. Write down times and dates where he has hurt your feelings. In 2 months show him the number of times he has done these things and see if thats the way he really wants to be. Most guys are they way there parents have raised them. If the dad was controlling they will be the same way. Most guys dont want to be like that and dont realize they are. Give him a few hints before you leave but let him know your not putting up with it anymore. I made the same mistake once and will never do it again.

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lionsroar

Joined: 10/21/2004

It means he's not that into you, but he rather have something than nothing.

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DreamLoverNYC

Joined: 10/1/2004

he wants to see if you are going to take the bait, which is Letting him control you. He might be bored with his life so he is looking for someone to pick on. Sounds like dude had a fucked up life so he wants somebody to pay, perferably by tormenting them. He doesnt like u as much as u think if he does that, thats fucked up yo.

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dfury90

Joined: 11/11/2008

Sounds like he is just insecure and unhappy with himself so he puts you down to feel better.

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B RIZZLE

Joined: 8/23/2008

sounds to like the guy is an asshole. he knos that u r gougous and doesnt want u to get fixd up and go out lookin hot so u will be with his sry ass. as always follow your heart, given that my opinion is kick his ass to the road and find a real man. just follow your heat.

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JC_Mykals

Joined: 8/21/2008

Its all about control. Men tend to be that way because they do have insecurities and by knocking his woman around mentally, it boosts his ego. If he truly loves and cares for her, he'd accept her.

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roninfla

Joined: 11/20/2004

Reply to: it usually means that he is a manipulative, disrespectful, self-centered contro...
it usually means that he is a manipulative, disrespectful, self-centered controling bastard that puts himself above the woman hes with. he will never treat her with equal respect. my opinion ..... stay with this type only if you like mental abuse


Absolutely

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jafritz

Joined: 10/31/2007

I think he is really unhappy with himself and just cant admit it. So it is much easier for him to find fault in you than himself.

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antipickle

Joined: 12/7/2008

I think he is really unhappy with himself and just cant admit it. So it is much easier for him to find fault in you than himself.

I agree with that . . he probably likes you but is still unhappy and insecure (that you'll leave him) you need to talk with him about it

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TimNP61278

Joined: 10/12/2004

Well all I can say is, that if he isn't happy with anything you do, and always trying to change you so he can feel better being with you, I think he's just trying to manipulate you and control what you do.

I mean, if he's getting his jollies off being very domineering, and your unhappy with it, you should lose the guy, because no one should be told what to do, unless they enjoy being submissive and controlled, like a slave.

So like I said, if the girl being put down is unhappy, then I suggest that the girl take some appropriate action, tell the guy to lay off with the demands or its adios amigos!

~TiM~

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kelly244

Joined: 8/7/2010

You never put your woman down

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orallyfixated

Joined: 9/2/2010

Pretty much all of the advice above is good. All I can add is this:
Sometimes you have train people how they're allowed to treat you.

I'm not saying that it's your fault, but he'll keep doing it until you train him that it won't be tolerated. If he's not trainable, flee. That behavior tends to escalate over time. Good luck to you!

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CTbeauty

Joined: 7/16/2009

what does it matter what it means?! I think the real question is why do you allow yourself to be treated like that!

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TooOldSchool

Joined: 2/13/2011

The bottom line is that there is error on both sides. Games are always played when sexuality is involved. Woman are manipulative, and men tolerate it to get off. Woman then disrespect men, wither consciously or unconsciously, and start their subtle nagging routine. Men respond usually in one of two ways. They cower, and become weak, to continue to get what they want, and the woman wears the pants in the relationship. How may old couples do you see around with a wimpy guy saying "yes dear" all the time? The man is broken. The other way men respond is with control and violence, because they are out of place in nature being controlled by an emotional, irrational, illogical woman. The woman picks and nags and tortures the poor bastard for years, until he finally snaps. Then the man gets made out to be a psychopath because he snapped when the woman told him to pick up his socks or something. It wasn't the sock incident, it was years of mental abuse. The man is not innocent either. Men need to stand up and be men, and run the show, and quit thinking with their Johnson. Sex and love are almost always misunderstood and confused. You know you have a good woman if you would still love her if she couldn't have sex. Sex should not be a factor in a mate, and should be refrained from until marriage. Corney? It's worked for centuries. Old school people understood that it clouds the judgment and causes almost certain errors in judgment. They understood that marriage was for life, and wanted to be sure they were thinking clearly and soundly before deciding who they would be with forever and parent their children. How many movies have you seen where two people meet, click, fall in lust, go to a room, have torrid sex, then immediately think: "This is the one." The sex will wear off as you get old, and the persons flaws will magnify. The relationship was built on a false premise, on physical attraction. If this was the criteria for satisfaction as a human being, I would search for a fit, athletic, mute nymphomaniac with a rich daddy on the respirator. It won't satisfy. Do your own research and follow your own standards, not the shit you see in the tabloids and the commercials. Try fhu.com. Did you know that a recent study conducted by the insurance company's says it all? They wanted to know why the human body matures at 18, which is the standard for adulthood, but highway deaths continue to rise by drivers until 25. Using the latest tech stuff, they found that a part of the brain in the front, called the prefrontal cortex, doesn't fully develop until age 25. Further research found that the prefrontal cortex id the part of the brain that controls reasoning, planning for the future, false sense of security, and resolve. That's why young people do dangerous things without fear, and make retarded decisions. They are not mature yet, have poor reasoning skills, and revolve around sex. Never use your femininity to attract a man. You will only attract a man look for that type of refreshment. Real men wouldn't touch you with a 10 foot pole, because you are not what they want. This is why many men are attracted to sweet woman, because their instincts tell them it is a more sound decision. They usually ignore their instincts to service the Johnson, and the woman has now set the hook, thinking she caught what she is after, but really only got a punk who doesn't know any better. Never date or marry a man you can control. A real man will gently correct your female thinking issues, and you will respect him for his strength. There is no shame is being June Cleaver.

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shadyslim

Joined: 2/28/2011

It sounds like he doesn't want you to think you are attractive when you go out because hes insecure about himself and thinks if you think your hot that you will find someone better. If he can brake you down enough then you will not feel worthy of anyone else or capable of getting better. Your beautiful and a woman should never put up with that manipulative shit.

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kompleatkaos

Joined: 1/17/2011

Solid reasoning and excellent commentary, TooOldSchool!

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l3rittany0414

Joined: 12/17/2007

Reply to: The bottom line is that there is error on both sides. Games are always played ...
Gave me a lot to think about

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securitygirl

Joined: 3/26/2010

not to be mean but this chick is stuppied..talk about atention seeking hello my name is so and so help me please... bitch shut up and just get laid..you stay cuz he probly has a big dick stuppied thread..boo wooo..get some self respect..

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jem1987

Joined: 7/20/2007

Wow.

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securitygirl

Joined: 3/26/2010

Reply to: Wow.
what alot of wamen ask stuppied ? when they know the answer...lol..it was a wast of reading time..sorry..but not

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kompleatkaos

Joined: 1/17/2011

Reply to: what alot of wamen ask stuppied ? when they know the answer...lol..it was a was...
Be nice, Security... :-)

Just because she is a "fashion trainwreck" doesn't mean she has no redeeming qualities...

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