I've been quite thorough, but also concise, in listing my particular criteria, as far as what I am seeking in a man, with whom I wish to share a casual relationship. My specifics are Not unreasonable, to my way of looking at things and my location is so brimming with things to do, that I'm very happy here. I want to find a like-minded neighbor who is also somewhat of a homebody and doesn't need to drive all over creation to find interesting and even exciting activities to engage in.

The problem I'm encountering is that most of the men that are contacting me are from all ports-of-call, other than what I have taken the time and effort to carefully stipulate. Apparently the men who message me either don't bother to read my profile, or arrogantly decide that I'll make an exception for them. Guys from NY, Canada, Greece, Italy, France, etc., who are obviously Not who I'm looking for, keep sending me their long drawn out generic form letters intimating that they'd love to get to know me better...

This is becoming so frustrating to me, I'm finding it difficult to continue being polite to these clueless clods. Is there any way, that I haven't already tried, to get the long distance swain from constantly bothering me, other than canceling my membership? I truly would welcome a fool proof method for preventing the wrong men from sending me messages, while encouraging the right men to do so. Any constructive advice would be much appreciated. Thanks, all you men of the conscious variety! (smile)

Umm, I am a guy; I keep getting messages from men saying how hot I am and how beautiful my eyes are.

Once I even put a disclaimer on my profile telling them I am a straight male. Guess what? I still got hit on. These are not men looking for men. They never read profiles.

It does not bother me though. I just do not reply.

My suggestion: Be flattered. Does it really matter?

Just don't respond. Ignore it. Why concern yourself with people you aren't even interested in?

Delete unwanted message and move on.

That is something I've tried and it doesn't seem to even deter the guys who just repeat their onslaught... I have blocked a whole slew of them, but they just keep coming... Ugh! Too many unconscious nitwits in this world and they seem to seek me out. LOL Do women ever do this, I wonder? Or, are women more awake, do you think, in terms of -at least- bothering to read the profiles?

You are too picky

and u need to stop putting down men

90% of your posts you are talking bad about men

stop blaming men

Ok instead of complaining about the guys that talk to you

why dont you click on search and look for guys that fit what u want

end off the day you are too picky, maby thats y u are still single

o shit i thought u was a girl

uh huh

sme i gt sum guy message me for webcam sex

end of the day iv messaged women who dont want pple my age

bt im not lookin for no relationship

just casual internet flirting or just conversation with them

It seems to me that you've listed your complaint in an effort to vent. The same thing happens to me, but complaining to the world about it is not going to solve your (mild) difficulty. My suggestion is that you deal with it however you know how. You already know that complaining about it will not get you anywhere. You also know there is nothing you can do about it but to delete those responses and move on about your business.

This is why you cannot find a man. It is because you are a grumbling snob. You should be at least flattered if men want to approach you no matter where they are from.

I was married twice, once for 13 years and once for 14 years, when these men each died, the first in an auto crash, when someone else was driving and the other of cancer, I was devastated. I don't need anyone, who doesn't even know me, to tell me I'm too picky and that's why I'm single. I happen to have higher standards than some, maybe, but I am not going to settle for just any illiterate jerk who comes my way, because I have a little thing called self-esteem, which the women who date you probably do not have...

I don't want to vent I just wanted to know if there is a feature that you can turn on, or some such thing, that I'm not aware of to keep the guys who live in Timbuktu from contacting me regularly.......... To call me a snob is rude and I don't see why I should be flattered when illiterate, and clueless, clods message me because they are too stupid or lazy to READ my profile.

You do not have that much self-esteem. If you did, you wouldn't feel the need to trash others.

I'm not the one trashing anyone. I just want to keep lazy, unconscious idiots from messaging me. You shouldn't keep bashing Me, because you're just proving that you're as unconscious as the out of state men and the ones from foreign countries who I'm being bothered by. Just because I can compose a sentence and use good grammar, doesn't make me a snob, either. It simply means that I have more to offer as far as communication and conversation than many, who cannot formulate thoughts or articulate them intelligently.

LOL the women i date dont look for men online

You are very bitter

lol thats all she does

and all the women do in this website

lol then they wander why they cant get no men

Wow i duno how men put up with her

You know u r tellin him 2 not bash you

yet u talkin total shit yourself

you contradict urself

wow i really dislike u

ur not gods gift yeah

u talklin how men are this and that,, but ur only doin it because u know yourself u are a wreck

you are flawed so instead of blaming urself u are blaming then men

LOL! Why are you on here IF all you are going to do is insult people? I'm sure you would DATE anything that showed you a little bit of attention!

im not here to insult people

im just sick and tired of u women talking total shit

shit this bitch thinks she is better then everybody just because she is more educated in the english language

wow i dislike her EVEN MORE

shittttttttttt

u women think u are so perfect but

ew

LOL ew

wow u need 2 go to a website where females are goodlooking and they act the exact oporsit as u

Iv noticed a trend in ugly women

2 make themselfs feel better they will make you feel asif u are ugly or not good enough for them

I asked for -Constructive- help and all you're doing is talking total shit yourself and accusing me of bashing others, while you bash me. Why don't you go somewhere else to stir up a hornet's nest and leave people alone, who are really trying to resolve annoying problems, even if they seem "mild" to some.

Wah wah wah! What is bitching and whining going to do for you?

If we get under your skin that bad then why do you give us the pleasure of doing it? Ignore US, lol. I'm glad to know that EVERY little post I write to you BOTHERS you. I think this shit is hilarious!!! You need to put on your big boy pants and suck THIS shit up and shut the fuck up. You don't have to read what we write BUT you choose too.