My recent ex had 400 porn pics and 8 sex web cam sites saved to his phone. I gave him sex all the time but it wasnt enough. He thinks he doesnt have a problem and its no big deal. Why do guys think its no big deal, when they committed themselves in a relationship?

Porn pics shouldn't usually pose much of a problem since it's a fantasy thing anyway. Viewing sex cam sites while in a committed relationship poses a bigger dilemma if you yourself are not into that sorta thing. Unless he specifically participated in such a conversation through one of those sites, then I don't see how big of a deal it is to begin with. Do you suspect that he was cheating on you?? If not, then you would not benefit from taking up an argument over this. Since you had been giving it up to him, I hope that insecurity wasn't a deciding factor as to why you're split up from him.

cuz they're pigs. It's never enough for them.

Since when is watching porn pics a bad thing, Clara?? It's harmless unless he was actually in those pics.

Isn't the woman he's with enough? He needs to watch porn to get it up?

Well, she should be enough for him, but that doesn't mean that it's wrong to view them neither. There are plenty of people who are in committed relationships who view these pics either by themselves or together. You gain absolutely nothing by this unless the guy is willing to drop them so he can focus more of his attention, if not all, to the one he's in the relationship with. Personally, I don't go viewing porn when I can make some with my significant other, but that's a personal choice not a moral choice.

yes you're right. Sounds like this guy is never satisfied. I don't think he wouldn't like it if she had all that stuff on her phone.

Maybe he would not have been the more recent ex had he been able to handle his personal life and keep his woman by any means necessary, but then again, it's his loss and someone else's eventual gain.

and I think hes addicted. 8 web porn sites when you have a beautifull girl? thats sick. if he told her about it and she was ok with it. then not a big deal. but when you give yourself up to a person and then find out youre not enough this is just wrong. 1 video porn id maybe survive but 8 is just sick. they couldve watch porn movies together and then play. to me thats cheating and sick. but thats only my opinion. :)

It's a self esteem issue with lots of women. If you feel threatened by porn you need to do some soul searching as to why.


There's nothing wrong with porn whatsoever.

i know theres nothing wrong with watching porn every now and then to make our sexual life more exciting but spending most of the day doing it and choosing that over your own partner is not healthy. i dont have to do any soul searching cause i know im good and no porn is better than a real person ( for a mentally healthy person). the problem starts when you act with it like with cigaretts, alc, drugs. its an addiction like every other.

If she's not comfortable then its good he's gone. She should be the focus not others. He sounds obsessed. Needs counseling. She sounds normal and should not have to accept what he does if it makes her feel less of a woman.
I think clared also nailed it.

Porn should never make anyone feel "Less of a woman"

sharky, but noone was talking abot feeling like that. the girl saw that something is wrong with her bf and she left him. having so many video porn websites is clearly not healthy especially when you got a beautiful woman to take care of all your needs. am i the only one seeing a problem with that guy? id never feel less of a woman because of porn. i am a 100% real woman that can actually take care of my mans needs. no porn is better than that. only if ure a sick weirdo whos having more fun watching porn and jerking off to some sick fantasy

Actually yes, anhonestsearch mentioned "Feeling less than a woman"



I didn't just pull that out of my ass.

He does sound like he's a little obsessed, because that is a LOT of porn to have on your phone. But, most women don't like porn because of insecurities, that is exactly right. Porn is just porn, it's no big deal. I watch porn, I'd even watch it with a guy, because I'm secure enough with myself to know that if he's with me, he's with me for a reason. And if he's not right for me, it would have nothing to do with the porn. Most people enjoy porn, sex scenes in movies, checking out the hotties in the mall, etc. It's natural, and doesn't mean a thing.

This specific guy does sound like me might have a problem, but in most cases, women just need to relax and love themselves a little more.

also think everyone has a different upbringing religious based or otherwise. If a woman doesn't like it should mean she is necessarily in secure or not normal. It's the same as liking or disliking anything else. I think the guy had a lot of porn and believe maybe he is obcessed with it. A lot of women dont like it because they may think its demeaning, it's silly or rediculous to be watching something that ya could be doing instead of watching someone else. Its really individual choice. I don't see an over all single answer here for everyone.

She didnt like the porn, he did, their relationship ended. Its over. Going forward she should make her feelings known at the appropriate time if it becames an issue again and not compromise her feelings about it. She needs to make her own happiness.

I think your correct. But my statement pertained to her not liking it, being uncomfortable with it. And the implication was no matter what she did, it was not sufficent because of all the porn stes on his phone, and now she's questioning it.

Ur right no woman should feel less because of porn, and they should not be felling they are insecure because they dont like it. Its individual choice.

Women shouldnt feel they are less than anything for any reason.

It is compleatly normal for a man to watch porn. even if he is getting all the sex he can handle. men do not expect woman to look or act like the women we see there. that is part of the fantacy. if a man did ask his girl to do that sort of thing, then he is crossing the boundrys. Ladys, chances are if your man is watching porn, he is being fathful, and you have nothing to worrie about.

THE WAY I SEE IT IF A MAN HAS A WOMAN THEN HE SHOULDNT NEED THINGS LIKE THAT CONSIDERING THE FACT THAT YOU GIVE HIM WHAT HE NEEDS AND WANTS

So give him porn then.

We want porn, we want porn, we want porn... LOL

Thats funny! Wonen want sex more than men, and also its never enough for men?! Heay not al men r the same as not al women as the same. Thats it

Thats right jem, u really understands things simply!

People often make things way more complicated than they really are.