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JoyceIsIn

Joined: 9/10/2003

Ok.. I have been around the block a few times.. but I STILL don't understand WHY a guy wants to call you a slut or a whore when having sex.. I am sure it is a turn on for them.. but WHY????

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Steven123

Joined: 7/19/2008

I talk dirty but I have never called a girl a slut or whore...I mean I would if she wanted me to but it wouldnt turn me on...

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JoyceIsIn

Joined: 9/10/2003

Talking dirty is fine... get loud.. tell them how you like it. how big they are.. how much pleasure you are getting.. etc.. but more than one guy likes calling names and I just don't get it... course they had a lot of alchohol.. maybe THAT is it.. lol
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B RIZZLE

Joined: 8/23/2008

well everyone knos that when you are drunk you will speak your mind. givin that maybe the guys u r messin with think that you are a slut or a whore therefore you should stop, push em off( after you get yours) and kick them the the hell out. lol

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avgjoe0266

Joined: 7/16/2008

Maybe you need to let them know that saying that is unacceptable. Some guys just say things in bed because that is what they see on TV or porn. Maybe they feel certain acts are not ladylike and this compels them to use those words. If it is used outside the bedroom you need to just leave,.... like run.

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kurasake

Joined: 4/9/2008

hell, sometime's it's one of thost fickle things in life, maybe porn, or tv, or just drunkin madness, lmao, who really know's for me it's very derogative, but i've run into so many women that like that? so it's hard to really tell, and well when i'm having fun, usually it's just like they say "Talkin Dirty" really doesn't mean anything half the time....but hell it's usually always hard to tell who was right and who is wrong......

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roninfla

Joined: 11/20/2004

Maybe you should stop calling them "dirty bastrds" ;0) ....Just kidding.....

Some guys are just out of touch with reality. There's a huge difference between dirty talk (and screaming) and deroggative insults. You find a guy that calls you such things, time to either set him straight or send him packing.

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JoyceIsIn

Joined: 9/10/2003

Thanks to everyone for their comments.. I think someone was on the right track with the "porn" comment... alchohol and porn equals namecalling somehow.. he is absolutely a sweetheart all the rest of the time... I guess I can accept the other times..
J

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

my problem is that the men in my life want me to be more vocal and i just can't seem to do it. if i try, i just seem to focus on that and lose track of the pleasure for me. i usually say the guy's name in passion but can't seem to do what all else they want said. any good suggestions?

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*Sliver!*

Joined: 4/25/2005

I actually don't mind being called a dirty slut in bed. It just makes it hotter for me.



This it's just a preference thing and you can't allow it to weigh on your self esteem or take any of it personally.

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DJTheHopefulRom...

Joined: 9/8/2007

Personally I don't get any thrill out of using the term whore but if the girl were into it I suppose I'd try to oblige....I like dirty and nasty talk but not insults or derogatory terms...that doesn't do it for me personally but if it excited my partner then sure why not? I'm more a romantic type in the bedroom but keeping things new and spicing it up is good.......but if it makes you feel bad I'd tell the guy...if he cares about you he'll stop......if I know a girl doesn't like something then I can never be happy pushing her to do it.

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beautifulblues

Joined: 1/21/2009

I personally like being called a slut sometimes... I don't claim to understand it, but there are moments when its hot and rough and it just works for me!

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latinlover11510

Joined: 4/7/2005

Reply to: my problem is that the men in my life want me to be more vocal and i just can't...
Hello ladies, you really dont have to say much, the only thing men need to know is that we are doing some you like, so just say "yes" or "yes baby I love when you do that to me" or "dont stop" or "harder" these simple words can keeps us very excited. I personally love to communicate during sex, there's nothing more exciting and erotic than hearing you woman tell you how good it feels and how much she is enjoying what you are doing to her.

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babygirll18

Joined: 9/27/2004

Reply to: I personally like being called a slut sometimes... I don't claim to understand ...
i agree lol

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latinlover11510

Joined: 4/7/2005

Reply to: i agree lol
There is nothing wrong with that many times that add excitement to the relationship and as long as both parties are on the same page. Communication is very important in a healthy sex life. But in many cases it's up to the man to take charge and initiate dialog...

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LiveToLove

Joined: 1/12/2009

I think guys who call their lovers sluts or whores while having sex are vocalizing their frustrations about not understanding women. I mean if a guy has been verbally neutered by a woman, or feels inferior to women, for whatever reason, he may lash out during sex by calling them slut or whore.

Personally, I can't think of any other reason for it because it certainly isn't a turn on for me ... maybe I'm just abnormal. lol

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kjhsjfhasldkj

Joined: 12/27/2008

Knowing that some women like being called a slut in bed is a turn-on! But I don't feel right doing it or being overly vocal in bed. But if it turns her on then by all means I'ma going to do it! If u don't like it just discreetly tell him at another time n place. Right? Up front n honesty is the best way to go =)

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Etritonakin

Joined: 9/11/2008

Then it's easier to disrespect you when he's finished.

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Kajunqueen

Joined: 11/29/2008

Talking dirty is OK,but leave out the name calling!

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AustinCowbelle

Joined: 3/22/2009

I've dated 2 guys who were sweethearts, but during our first time together, they used words like slut, whore...(this should be discussed beforehand!). Why not reciprocate? "Oh yeah baby, f*ck me in the a**, you f*cking homo." Too harsh? So is calling your gal a slut, UNLESS you know she's into it.

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paper magnet

Joined: 3/29/2009

It depends on the way the relationship is. And its also an age thing, not to be discriminatory, but younger women don't mind being called a bitch, whore or slut and actually refer to themselves proudly with these names, whereas more mature folks are not into that. Its a cultural thing, the generation in their 20s is a different one from those in their 50s, and the derogatory sting in those words and the social stigma just isn't their anymore.

I like talking dirty to a woman, but because I'm mindful of these differences in social background I know when I could get away with slut and whore and when not to.

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LiveToLove

Joined: 1/12/2009

Reply to: It depends on the way the relationship is. And its also an age thing, not to be...
Age difference, cultural differences .... makes no difference, the terms and their meanings are still derogatory. If a woman refers to herself as a bitch or a slut I think she has no self respect. If a man calls a woman a bitch or a slut then he has no respect for her either. How would you like it if a woman called you a prick, an asshole or a cocksucker?

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paper magnet

Joined: 3/29/2009

Reply to: Age difference, cultural differences .... makes no difference, the terms and th...
Live2love I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you already understand why your argument is flawed. Communication is nothing more than what is conveyed between 2 people. Letter comnbinations and sounds only mean what the people communicating with them agree on. Plus 90% of communication is nonverbal anyway.

That's also why I said it depends on how the relationship is. If there's little trust and respect in a relationship then even if the woman says she loves me I will look at her and suspect an ulterior motive. On the other hand if my girl who I trust and respect says to me that I'm her real mother fucking nigga, and there is that expression of admiration, I take it as a very sincere compliment. The message is communicated.

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sundrop68

Joined: 7/24/2008

Idk, i think if she is into it then it's totally ok. Some women really get off on it and i don't believe that a woman who likes the" dirty talk" has less respect for me or herself. I don't believe it's a cultural or age thing either, it's simply a matter of what different peoples preferences are. I personally don't get anything out of yelling out these thing while having sex with a woman , but i allways try to break her down and please her as best as i can and if SHE wants me to call or say things to her then i most definately will . I do however feel a little uncomfortable saying some things.

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g88220

Joined: 7/9/2008

just coz you fuck em in the ass doesnt make ya a
homo....just tighter

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