Hi. I started dating this guy about 9 months ago. We had been friends for about a year and a half before we went on our first date. He had asked me out a few times before, but I had been fairly unresponsive (not returning calls or accepting dates, but remaining friendly). Then, after he kissed me and told me that I was going to answer the next time he called, I accepted a date. It turns out that he is this amazing guy that I feel a strong connection with. As someone who tends to be fairly emotionally distant, this was a real change for me. However, before our first date, I accepted a job that is two hours away. He knew this.

So... the relationship seemed to be going very well. Then he told me that he didn't want to do long distance. I immediately dumped him, explaining that I wanted to spend the rest of the time that I had with my friends. Our relationship lasted approximately three months (kind of short- I know).

About two months ago he started calling again, first to tell me happy birthday, then to invite me to his birthday party. I couldn't make it out that night, so I invited him out with me and my friends at another time instead. While out, he informed me that he still has feelings for me. It truly surprised me when I realized that I still had feelings for him as well.

We have spent some time together since then. It is clear that there are still some feelings on both of our parts. He still, however, has this completely negative attitude about long distance. I'm just not sure how to navigate the situation. I do care about him, but I don't want to be taken advantage of. Any advice?

Two hours isn't long distance for a guy that's into you. Sounds like he just wants convenience. He will be with you if he wants to be with you, whether it's a few hours away or across the country. Have to give these guys a chance to fall in love with you before you bed them. If not, they will never get to know the wonderful you that is you and all they will ever be interested in is the freebies they can get with no effort involved. And I'm not a guy, of course, but I know how the world works.

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That's bullshit. I slept with my wife after a few dates and we stayed married for ten years.

It all depends on you, thread poster. What do you want? If the dude is "using" you, what are you getting out of it? You never even said you made dirty with him. If you are a enabler then you will lose out. If the feelings are real go for it--and to be honest I don't know this dude--he may be insecure. If he is the jealous type--RUN.

i think your a smart person think about it wiegh your issues and do whats best for your hart,, let something go if it returns it was ment to be.. take your time..don't be in a hurry not when it comes to changing yourself and or your life..guys, men can be real ummm whats that word shit come on guys help me out here liars and will do or say what ever they can to get into wooohhoos and if its good woohoo then there very good at it:}just saying