Maybe someone can shed a little light on this situation for me.
I met this guy on another dating site. He lives about 25 miles away from me. Not far.
When we first started chatting on line, I was about 2 months out of my marriage and hadn't had sex in nearly 10 years. So needless to say was pretty horny! lol anyway, we eventually went the sexting route. Not cool I know, but its a release.
We talked about meeting on several occasions. I was never able to pin him down on a specific date and time. He'd always say next week or soon.
I cannot verify that he isnt married, but I dont think he is. He has his kids every other weekend and every Tuesday and Thursday, and very involved in their sports.
On the 3rd time that he said we would meet, I finally got him to say a day and time ish. Well of course he didnt show up. I didnt expect it, but was disappointed anyway. I sent him a txt that basically said that I was better than phone sex and if he didn't want more than that, that was fine, I did and that maybe I'd see him around. I deleted him from my phone and everywhere else.
I didn't hear from him again. Until a week ago. He started pursuing me again. I wasn't very nice to him and even said a couple of off color things to him. Rude I know. But he kept coming back. We ended up starting over. He knows that I am wanting more than the phone sex. Tonight he started up with the old tricks. Said his neighbor was over and wearing a skirt and heels and no panties. We've been here before. Not sure of his motivation. I dont like the "game" and he knows it. And he has said he will be over this week. Doesn't look like it will happen, even though he has said he is looking forward to meeting and that he has accepted my invitation to a mariners game in august. I really want this guy and i cannot figure out for the life of me why! It irritates the crap out of me. I have pics of him, so I do know what he looks like. He appears to be a prick. But I don't know what is going on, at the other end of the messages and phone. I cannot see facial expressions. Oh and I can txt him any time, so there is a reason i don't think he's married. I would really like some insight. please. On what he is playing at and Why I want someone who treats me like that! UGH!

Obviously he is hiding something. Are you sure the pics are really of him? Maybe he is married after all.

I'm pretty sure he isn't. I txt him regularly. A guy would have to be pretty stupid to txt another woman and have her pics on his phone if he were married. he also txt me when he says he is with his kids. its something more. is it all a big fantasy for him? why tell me about the neighbor? Is she really there? I have had more than one pic of him and yes it's him.

Also he tells me I'm hot, beautiful, and that he wants me, blah blah blah. He wants me for his girlfriend.

then sounds like he like the fantasy sex more than the real sex. I also think he has a fantasy about the sexy neighbor,,lol.

Let him go. If he stood you up once then he will time after time. Not just in dating but in every other aspect of life. You, me, he, she, us collectively should be number one in our romance interest's eyes. Now if you just want to enjoy yourself sexually then go for it but in the meantime, until it happens with him, find yourself another man that will treat you with more respect.

On the Mariner's note. I lived in the Tri-Cities for over 20 years... more or less from the time Jr. came up all the way through his Cincy days and up to retirement. What glory days those were with the original Papi, Buhner whom I named my lab after, Randy the stork Johnson, and Louie Pinella as manager and of course Wilson as catcher... I also enjoy the league tying 116 games winning streak and the Ichiro mania. So if no one goes with you, though I live in Montana, I'll go with.

i think you have not seen true pics of him and he is very insecure about his looks. i think he is afraid to meet you because of this.
telling you about "his neighbor" is just a ruse to try to get you aroused so you will start sexting again.
if you truly want to meet him, set up a time and place one more time. if he doesn't show, just move on.

and koki, she knows even less about you. she would be nuts to accept your proposal of going to game with her.

bottom line, if he won't meet you, then all is not what it seems.

I bet he is nothing what he seems.

lol, I'll keep you in mind.

Thank you for the replies. Yes I agree he is either hiding something or at the very least is not what he seems.. I really would like to know what it is. Maybe that's where my obsession lies.
As far as the sexy neighbor, I don't know if she really exists. It felt more like he was trying to make me jealous or hurt me, by the things he was saying. IDK. I need to just let it go and therein lies the problem! lol

If you've never met the guy, he should not have the ability to make you jealous or hurt you.



Right now he's just a figment of your imagination.

and not a very good figment,,lol

Cut bait and scram.....the guy's playing you for a good time on the phone..if yuo're good with that then I suppose thats all you'll get. If you're looking for more......stop wasting your time and move on to someone who can give you what you want and need.

The sexy neighbor thing is probably his way of pretending he is attractive to sexy women. Why would someone say that they are with someone sexy - isnt it you that you want them to find sexy?? He is gaming you.

It is some kind of game he is playing - maybe you dont want to know what he is hiding.

Everyone I have met face to face that I caught hiding something, it was a serious issue they were hiding.

It may be just as simple as getting you to send pics to them (him or her) so they can post on a site to pretend to be someone using your pictures - fake profile. Many of the pictures are recycled by many scammers, and I have caught some using the same picture sets, and literally, one set is of the girl showing her breasts on an ad on this site. LOL !!!

Ok... say I were to go with her... We can safely assume that we will be driving our own transportation being don't know each other, probly about give or take 5,000 I'd say 35,000 people in the stadium, she's a youngster and I'm an old fart of 52..., oh yeah... she's in trouble now. Woman, please! I'm sorry that
's how you feel about me but that's not who I am. Relax, pass some gas, pick your teeth with a fiver, puff on your More cigar/cigarette, and take a sip from the $3.99 and tax wine in the box!
I don't swing like that. I have a 28 year old daughter and if some weezer my age would even think... whatever guirrrrlllll!

listen, you shit. just because i politely said i was not interested in you when i mistakenly thought you were coming on to me and hurt your feelings, does not mean you have to make such crude remarks to me.
after all, who is the married one here and who is still looking???

he's at it, you should forget about him,... but... if he's ok with you texting naughty stuff at all hours of the day, have you actually CALLED him, spoke to him?

does he immediately reply to every text, he could have a spare phone hidden at work somewhere or something

Uh oh!!! Get em' Nighty!!! lol

Everything is in jest. Please don't take it personal. Otherwise you'll end up a cranky elderly individual in a nursing home wheeling yourself around in a wheelchair as you bang into walls and other residents while simultaneously drooling as your left eye twitches involuntarily.
Go Sistah Go Sistah Go Sistah
Ms. Patty LaBelle

your "jest" was directed at me so how can i not take it personal?
i am not much older than you so perhaps some of your remarks are from personal experience?

Yes you're right. I'll be back later. Gotta go change my Depends and put my teeth in.

and next time try engaging brain before attacking someone.

Does he think he's funny?

Leave nighty alone you old fucking hag!!!!!!