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girlmea

Joined: 10/11/2008

I have been dating this man for about a month. We get a long great. We have enough in commmon to get along but enough differences to keep it interesting. Well, I lied by ommission. I did not divulge the total truth about a friend. I did not tell him we had dated in the past. The other night I was texting this guy telling him that I think he has treated me wrong as a friend and I was pretty much done. The new guy came up behind me and read my text messages. He did not let me know he was there so he was spying on me. I wasn't doing anything wrong. But he did discover this guy wasn't just a friend but someone I had dated. Now he won't talk to me. He thinks I am a liar and can't be trusted. He thinks I have unfinished business with this man and he is second choice. I have apologized and explained to him there is nothing there.

Should I just give up on him and start looking again?

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Posted 9 years ago
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troy412

Joined: 10/10/2008

if hes that stubborn to think that ur cheating with that other guy even though u told him that u were telling that friend u thought he treated u rong then yes u should move on

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lionsroar

Joined: 10/21/2004

Give up and move on. Life is too short.

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B RIZZLE

Joined: 8/23/2008

well you have to look at this. he said you were being dishonest right. well he was also when he was reading your texts without u knowin it. that like him going thru ur purse. or u going thru hes wallet. things that ppl just shouldnt do. and dating is suppos to b fun not a pain in the ass. just move on and save the tears

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mrlickonya

Joined: 1/6/2008

if he cant except your apology and doest trust what your telling him is true then i would say yes move on. relationships are based on trust and without it they will never work.

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roninfla

Joined: 11/20/2004

Maybe this guy does'nt want to get into a full-blown relationship with you only to have you go back to that ex. 100% honesty and truthfulness is an absolute must for a truly committed relationship. If you can't base your relationships on truth and honesy, then don't even try.

Secondly, it's now obvious to him that you still care about your ex, otherwise you would'nt be texting and talking to him as much.

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Etritonakin

Joined: 9/11/2008

Do what YOU want to do -if you want to wait to see if he stops freaking out, do so -if you want to move on, do that. If you are sure he has given up on the relationship there is probably no point waiting around. You might ask him whether or not there is any chance of continuing the relationship -if he won't talk to you, it might be a sign that there is not.

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Etritonakin

Joined: 9/11/2008

Also... not rushing into relationships helps avoid having emotional baggage, loose ends, and a history which continually complicates the present.
This is a good argument for celibacy followed by monogamy, but it applies regardless of one's views on the subject.

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