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619ChargersFan

Joined: 7/25/2005

Im a tomboy. Thru and thru. Im the chick at the bar right next to you screamin at the tv with a beer in her hand and a jersey on supporting her team. Ive always been on of the guys. Rencently a guy I've met, actually liked that about me. The old sailor mouth I had. The quick whit. Everything. Well three weeks later after talking everday on the phone and hanging out, he just suddenly stops talking to me. So I just didnt think nothing of him anymore.

He calls the other day, and hes been drinking. He tells me he likes me. But wont tell me what he wants. His friends get on the phone and say he talks about me a lot to them and they go on. I call the next day to talk to him ( when he sobers up) and its like nothing changed. Is he being flaky? Am I thinking too much into this?

--Confused and done playing someone elses games

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dfury90

Joined: 11/11/2008

Could be that your overthinking it a bit,give it some time and get to know him better to see how he really is.

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Just being me!

Joined: 11/18/2008

My advice is a question. If communication is the key to a good, successful relationship, what kind of a relationship would you have?

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619ChargersFan

Joined: 7/25/2005

I guess not a great one. Thanks.

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Lude

Joined: 11/20/2008

Sounds like he just gets hungry for it when he's drinking. If he aint there for you when he's sober, then he isnt there for you at all.

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nice_guy_4_u

Joined: 9/11/2008

so guy's can't just come out an express there fealings so you just have to break them out of there shell by makeing the first move to let them know you feal the same basicly say what they dont sacred to say an releafe them or they probley miss out on a good relationship think about it

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ninjadan88

Joined: 11/21/2008

If he really wants to be with you, he'd probably say it when he's sober. People say alot of things when they are drunk. I have the same problem with chicks, and my attitude is if they keep giving off mixed signals or keep playing hard to get I'm not going to bother persuing them. It's a waste of time.

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sweetcarmelitta

Joined: 2/25/2005

I think that, before you fall in love with a guy, you should get to know FOR REAL who you´re falling in love with. He might be a weirdo, or someone into stuff not appealing to you, and wouldn´t even know!!

Look first, fall in love later...that keeps you from getting unpleasant surprises.

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roman043

Joined: 8/30/2007

Reply to: I guess not a great one. Thanks.
Just sit him down when ne is not drinking and asked him point blank. Do not over think it. After 5 mins then go out for a quick bite to eat with him

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Nice_Single_Whi...

Joined: 5/5/2005

Have you had sex with him yet? just a question.... He may be just looking for one thing....

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619ChargersFan

Joined: 7/25/2005

Thanks. I have since, stopped talking to him. Its just not worth my time. I have better things to do, and can find someone who does want to be with me without me wondering. Thanks for all the advice!

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roninfla

Joined: 11/20/2004

Reply to: Thanks. I have since, stopped talking to him. Its just not worth my time. I hav...
Thanks. I have since, stopped talking to him. Its just not worth my time. I have better things to do, and can find someone who does want to be with me without me wondering. Thanks for all the advice!


Good for you, your'e a beautiful woman and deserve better that that. It seems he has something in his closet or a lot of problems......

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Etritonakin

Joined: 9/11/2008

Being like one of the guys MAY affect how a guy will treat you -
I'm not saying you did anything wrong, but guys don't feel wierd when another guy doesn't call them -or wonder why -and they usually don't discuss emotions/feelings, etc...
You may have wandered back into the girl zone -which is great, but not necessarily what he wanted (which may have been the benefits of your gender, without the need to treat you like a lady).
Just a guess.

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