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skybluiis

Joined: 9/14/2004

Well another curve ball has been tossed out there. So I took into consideration all of your great advice on here "THANK YOU EVERYONE" This past weekend was a HUGE eye opener. SO...to start I got invited over on Friday and we hung out as usual, saturday night we went out for a pizza and got to talkin and he told me he thought a mutual acquaintence of ours was "cute". With that being said I asked him if he'd ask her out and he said "yes" so I told him good but if he did ask her out I would expect that he could loose my number and never call me again. He was appauled by that and asked me why? I didn't respond cause my ears were on fire....he then said "What? You wouldn't want to be my friend still if I asked someone else out?" I was so UPSET he asked again " Ok so if I met a girl you wouldn't be my friend?" I abruptly said "NO" and then I looked him dead in the eyes and said "You did meet a girl, 4 months ago, what am I chopped liver?" He totally didn't know where to go or what to say and at that point I was VERY upset. We walked out of the restaurant and he put his arm around me and told me to chill out it wasn't "like that". I waited till I could feel the rush of blood leave my ears from being so upset and then I looked at him and said "I'm sorry I reacted that way however you telling me that you'd ask someone else out to my face upset me, why? Because unlike yourself I like you more than a friend" He looked me dead in the eyes again and said "I know, and you have nothing to worry about, I'm not looking" SO WTF? This is what I"m talking about when it comes to mixed singals. Is he trying to feel me out to see my jealousy streak? What it the deal? Does he like me or not?

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jem1987

Joined: 7/20/2007

Tell him to stop the bullshit and just talk it through. Simple.

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DreamLoverNYC

Joined: 10/1/2004

Okay here is your problem. He knows you like him but, he's aware but he doesnt like you like that. Because of how you most likely first came to him.

There's GOOD News and then BAD News. Okay first the good news. Yes this guy cares for you and about you, he doesnt mind hanging around you at all. The BAD?
Well he likes you but he just doesnt like you like that, he's aware of how you feel. But he looks at you more as a friend because of how you came to him.. AS A Friend! So that is why he didnt see it as a problem to ask another girl out n ask your opinion of it. Thats what friends do.

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wickedblueglow

Joined: 1/15/2008

Reply to: Okay here is your problem. He knows you like him but, he's aware but he doesnt ...
Okay here is your problem. He knows you like him but, he's aware but he doesnt like you like that. Because of how you most likely first came to him.There's GOOD News and then BAD News. Okay first the good news. Yes this guy cares for you and about you, he doesnt mind hanging around you at all. The BAD?Well he likes you but he just doesnt like you like that, he's aware of how you feel. But he looks at you more as a friend because of how you came to him.. AS A Friend! So that is why he didnt see it as a problem to ask another girl out n ask your opinion of it. Thats what friends do.

Good assessment - I agree

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mrlickonya

Joined: 1/6/2008

this is just my opinion and i hope im wrong but theres one part that kinda stands out to me more than just him saying he asked someone else out and that it is when you told him you liked him more than just a friend and he said {i know you have nothing to worry about} seems to me the correct reply back would be {i like you more than a friend too} is he playing games to see your jealousy? or is he just a player? either way it looks like hes playing one of them. im sure he likes you, what man doesnt like attention whether it be negative or possitive, but strong relationships start with honesty, trust and communication between both parties. like i say this is just my opinion but it might be a good idea to take some time for yourself and do some things that may make you happy. dont worry about what hes doing, if you cant trust him it will never work anyway and if he does have strong feelings for you then you will see. whats the old saying? "time apart makes the heart grow fonder" good luck at whatever you decide! keep us posted

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Etritonakin

Joined: 9/11/2008

Either...
1: he is not interested in you "that way", but likes your companionship and considers you a friend..
or..
2: He is not your friend, but is manipulating your feelings for him for the sqake of his own ego -

If he truly considers you a friend, he does not sound very considerate.. to say the least... a true friend would be sensitive to your feelings.

Unfortunately , some would rather 'work' your feelings toward them than have a real relationship...

either way... I would definitley advise you shop around.

He may "like" you -but he isn't respecting you.

Also.. make certain those you are with know what your ultimate goal might be -even if you aren't expecting it of them immediately.

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Etritonakin

Joined: 9/11/2008

OK -sqakes are a whole 'nother subject -meant "sake"
Also -you're way cute -if he's not twitterpated, move on -shouldn't have to work for it!

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skybluiis

Joined: 9/14/2004

You guys are great...thank you all so much for the advice. In fact yesterday I put it out there and told him again that I liked him more than a friend and I needed to ly low for a while. He acted shocked....which I suppose is his way of dealing with his feelings, by avoiding them. I made it VERY clear that I've liked him more than a FWB months ago now he's playing the "I'm taken aback" stance...and thats ok though. I will make myself scarce and not come around him and if he truly cares...I will know. You've all been great...thanks. :)

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kurasake

Joined: 4/9/2008

Reply to: You guys are great...thank you all so much for the advice. In fact yesterday I ...
Hmmm, sounds very trivial to a point, alot of confusion, but hey what kind of thing isn't, the main thing i've seen is you had all the signs to tell him, but alike a guy like me, i'm one of those ya kinda gotta spell it out, he does care for you, and he's really comfortable in telling you just about anything, and that's pretty rare when dating or being a "Pseudo" gf type, I hope it make sense, so you blowing up sounds like a jealous type, he might be into that, or like me I just don't, for me when this happens, it's usually a borderline kind of "UH OH" or "Hmmm well lets see" kinda thing, at first I thought I had this down, but reading later, I seen you had that you two were FWB's, that's usually a tricky thing, because for me, when I have that kinda a thing, emotions aren't the matter, but as it looks, he is kinda understanding, yet, he is confused, and another thing, he might as well being getting hella bad advice from his friends, i've had that "Stand back and avoid thing" going, yet still was able to meet someone at a new level, but for alot we hate that type that usually put us into the "Lets just be close friends thing..." confuses and frustrates the hell outta us, and I don't know if that has happened to him, for me i'm highly gaurded, so I hope I helped, I tell it like it is without crap....

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