Well girls, what signals you best that the guy you are hitting on/trying to get close to doesn't like you or plan to be with you?
Since afew years im in a relationship but before, this had happened to me in two cases which i had to make up weird excuses to hit the run. I had to be in same environment with those girls for a time period and everytime, people were trying to leave us alone probably thinking i like her and i am super shy somehow. Well 27 now and still finding it hard to say "no" to a female and best way of breaking up with a girl for me is making her dump me. So kinda sad case, but i hope i hear some advice about how i should man up or how megalomaniac my behaviour is thinking a girl might be devastated as a result of my rejection. Just, i aint brave enough i guess and well i dont really know the words either.

Honesty.....it's brutal, most say it's rude but if you really want to be happy with someone or about any situation.....be honest.....as simple as this, name some good qualities then say but I'm just not feeling it! Lol or I like you, but it seems more friendly....lol need I say more? I always do the dumping and by then it doesn't hurt me one bit, cos the fantasy mushy love does not exist, it's merely 2 lonely people having the need to share intimacy and having the ability to coincide with one another! Haha

I am with Bunnie on this one...Brutal Honesty. I will add this, reading your post, I can both relate to making someone dump you (I hate rejecting people, so like you I do something to make them toss me)....but what I have noticed through the years is the confusing behavior.

If you are shy and people don't know how you feel and they are trying to leave you alone "thinking you like her"....then she thinks that too. Men have always had a problem communicating, so they try to be nice (some women do too), but don't realize that by being nice it sends the wrong message to the person whose affections you do not want to solicit.

My number one advice here is DON'T TAKE TOO LONG to let your lack of interest be known, or you will risk hurting/confusing/pissing off someone who thinks: "... but he bought me a drink...."or "he smiled at me..."or "hey, everyone is leaving us alone, they must know something I don't...". Mixed messages are worse to overcome than coming right out and being honest.

To echo Bunnie....tell her she is a nice girl but that you are not feeling romantic chemistry and then do your best not to be overly nice because you rejected her, because you will confuse her. Don't be a jerk, but don't feel guilty and try to smooth things over by being too nice to her.

As Always, Excellent Post.....

Excellant post Bunnie

I agree with you Darkphoenix13. I notice again that Bunnie is always sensible, not aggressive and mean and nasty toward anyone. It is always a pleasure to read her posts.

Thanks just being honest and non judgemental....people who are aggressive and mean are only fighting their own demons and lashing out at others. I treat everyone with respect until they lose it. I fought my demons a very long time ago and realized life is only what we make of it. I hope all of you are happy and living it and not letting it live you!

Honesty is always the best policy.

Whats wrong with it just comeing out and saying to her, hey! I like you just find, but I dont want to date you. Or why do people always seem to leave us alone together, I mean I like you, but I have someone in my life. Or if I wanted to ask you out! I would have done it by now! besides we're friends! why ruin a good thing. I know you dont want to crush her! but your not doing anyone any good by avoiding it either. Keep it moving!

This topic is getting weird....

hoo da fuck gave me -3 already? With all due respect, how do you let a girl down? Shieet....just say it like it is and quit chewing this subject out.

I would like to get +'s now :) ...so, i will be checking in to collect my admirations :)

I think the best way to reject a girl is to say that you are gay...hahah...easy, simple and no hard feelings.... :)