So I spend six months over sea's. I talk to other guys about marriage and the military. They seem so unhappy most of the time. Then I came to this site and you see every woman talk about love. I'm twenty four and unfortunately the only person I ever truly loved hung herself when I was away. So yeah I have a hard time getting close to a partner. Guess I have a phobia of getting close and my partner leaving me. My question is what is Love to a woman? Is it sex? Finical security? or is it just knowing someone is there?

Man thats a darn good question, and one which I have myself spent many hours in meditation. Good Luck!

One day sir we shall have our question answered.

i think love is many different things to different women. some is that warm fuzzy feeling when you see your guy. others it financial security. some it is the sex. personally, love is the look in my hubby's eyes, his thoughtfulness, his kindness, and his integrity. he remembers when i say i like something and acts upon it. he won't go to bed unless i do as he likes our pillow talk and "cuddling" before we go to sleep. ( am i getting too mushy here?)

I agree with Nighty,what some women think love is,other women wouldn't..

To me love is so many things..It is wanting to be with the person and enjoying being together NO MATTER WHAT the day brings. There is a commitment to each other and a connection. Both are on the same page,they have dreams that they both are striving for. They have a life plan. They make things happen and aren't scared to say they were wrong about something. They forgive when they are let down by the other person. They take time to make the other feel like there is no one else in the world that they would rather be with. It's the little things that really make a difference. Something you take the time to do,to the best of your ability. It's knowing that the other person will be there for you when you really need them. It's knowing WHEN they really need you.
Alot of times,love is played off to be some really complicated thing. It's really us who makes it complicated. Love is really a simple thing.
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yes

I dont think so. I have been where you are, and at your age you are more of an idealist probably. Not to count you among the nieve. Thats not the point because I am also in your shoes still.

It is true that alot of seemingly well intension women will one day profess much love, and the next she is sponsoring another kind of fling. I have come to the conclusion there is no win, but only chance.

So! The world is the place to make friends, be happy, and live as well as you can.

Awww, One day I'll want to feel something like that.

Interesting replay I like it. I'm like that everyday I don't look for anything. I just enjoy meeting people and laughing. Yet thrity is slowly creeping up. I swore to myself I would marry my so called love before thirty. I have some time b4 desperation. Yet youth is a curse. Personally I think love is something that is more meaningful when your older like nighty says. Right now the world is peachy to me.

i wish everyone could experience what i have finally found in my life.

I couldn't imagine a more wonderful lady. Not finding her other half Congrats madam.

thank you sweety. and have patience, you seem like such a nice young man that god is taking his time to find just the right one for you.

nice one indeed,, it really reminds me about my girl i lots her for years and probably havent been able to find a sweet match like her...
IS much complicatiing tho!

I guess love is feeling that you've got somebody's back... That you're covered. It's a strange feeling that, when you're in that guy's company, nothing can go wrong and everything is ok...
You're younger than me, and maybe given to that bad experience, you could feel that anybody you love will leave you, but you need to be confident and give a vote of trust to a person you love... Otherwise, you'll be stucked into that feeling of loss forever.

The best definition I have heard is...
Love is not only something you feel... Love is something you do.

You FEEL love because you perceive that the person you love should remain forever -because their qualities are excellent.
You DO love to make this happen.

I agree!

Brother I really don't know. What amazes me is how quick some women are quick to vomit the phrase "I love you" I am guessing it means something different at every minute.

Damn! That was good...very good!

I think what others have said applies - love is dependent on the person who is feeling it.

To me, it's not only seeing it in a person's eyes, it's the feeling of being stable and safe..security. Now, for me -that's not about the financial, money aspect - it's knowing that even if for some reason the two of us were living in a box behind Wal-mart, in his arms is where I would be secure and looking into his eyes, I would feel that and know I was protected.

It's also the kindness in someone, the willingness to be there and be a true partner...and stick it out when things get rough, to work together through it.

I see that every day with my parents...they have been married for almost 60 years and my Mom jumps when the phone rings and runs to it when my Dad is gone answering it with "Hey Baby"...They randomly dance when songs come on the radio and the look on my Mom's face with my Dad's arms around her...that's what it means to me.

I also agree with whomever said that women (although I think it's people, not just women) who vomit out "I love you" so easily these days. It should be more revered.

I'm sorry for your loss of your loved one...that's a tragedy no-one should have to go through.