I just found a woman online I am really into. She moved today 3 hours away. We have not met face to face, only communication is texting. I do not want to smother her. I asked her to let me know when she got settled in. I expected a message by 8 pm because she should have arrived by 4 pm. I text her at 10 pm and said. "U doin good?" Would this be smothering her? We have only text for 4 days now. She is a real Gem and I do not want to push her away. And I will take any other advice as well. We have exchanged photos and gone through some of our past. We are in our 30s. Thank you :)

just text her that one time, if she don't text back then let it go cause it normally means she's giving you a hint to back off

Although you cannot read her mind and do not know her well enough to know what SHE thinks is smothering, it's apparent that you are concerned about that - and righfully so. A way around pining away, filled with anxiety, is to set specific times together, in advance, and then you have nothing to fret about.

Her idea of getting "settled in" might be in another day or two.

Take a deep breath and believe that what is to be, will be. You will know soon enough.

Very true and also it could also mean she mite be having problems with her phone. Give another day or two and if you still don't hear from her, just send her a sweet message saying you hope she had a good Christmas and let it go at that till you hear back from her . Good Luck !!!

Excellent advice, Captain. You did well. I have been like this fellow before and feel for him.

Although you cannot read her mind and do not know her well enough to know what SHE thinks is smothering, it's apparent that you are concerned about that - and righfully so.  A way around pining away, filled with anxiety, is to set specific times together, in advance, and then you have nothing to fret about.  

Her idea of getting "settled in" might be in another day or two.
Take a deep breath and believe that what is to be, will be.  You will know soon enough.

Great advice. Moving is totally nuts and just so crazy busy anyway. Some people would find it hard to feel social or feel up to much of anything till they got at least some of their life out the boxes lol. If she is into you as much as you are her, then you will hear from her soon. If do feel compelled to send another txt the next day if you still have not heard from her, just send something that acknowledges you know she is ultra busy, you were thinking of her and if she needs anything just holler otherwise I will talk to you later :-).... She will appreciate u were thinking of her, will appreciate that u understand how crazy things are for her.

It's been a week since this guy told us his story and I have no idea what happened. Is this the way it usually is here? Guys ask and then disappear? This is puzzling, unless it ended with him being ignored and he didn't want to come back and tell us we were right. What do you all think?

i figure most that post a big dilemna the first day they join is not true. most likely a regular with a "new name" wanting to get a reaction.

UPDATE: the woman he spoke of was in the Witness Protection Program. The "poster" was shot and silenced by US Marshals as he was spotted going thru her trash and collecting feminine hygiene products for his scratch and sniff Winter 2011-2012 collection.

His 1983 Chevy Citation was recovered at the scene with 6 rolls of duck tape, a half eaten PB&J sandwich, one slightly used condom and 47 Victoria Secret catalogs he obviously stole from a Cardboard & Newspaper Recycle collection center.

Do not push her too much.Just let her be herself give her sometime to get in to the right mood.

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Do not push her too much.Just let her be herself give her sometime to get in to the right mood.<

Here is another viewpoint to consider -- God helps those who help themselves.

If Staci or LittleRoxy answers your issue with advice, I recommend that you listen to them closely.

Sorry, from what I have seen Staci and Little Roxy (if real) STRONG emphasis on that part, are little girls looking for attention. Their opinions are far from well cooked so they need to simmer for a few more years before a strong suggestion to listen to them is offered.

As far as the OP. I have found that when a man is this concerned (actually man or woman) with "smothering" "stalking" etc. that usually means they have been told this before. My answer to your question OP is YES, my dear you are smothering her. I was gasping for air just reading your question.

Let's look at the facts:
You've been texting for 4 days! In today's age, that means less than nothing. You have never met her and she is a "GEM", how naive are you? She is moving from god knows where and you ask her to text you when she settles in and you have a specific time expectation? Really? If all this is real, that's a MAJOR red flag. I would run! Here's a clue that something is really wrong: You are sitting around watching the clock: 4pm, 8pm...10pm....would it be too cruel for me to tell you to get a life? My apologies if it is.