Okay so here is the thing......I have what some may consider unique interests.....I'm a big horror and sci-fi fan and well that is putting it mildly. I have thousands of dvds', collect rare memorabilia, have met many celebrities through conventions and events....

Now I know full well some girls have read my profile and said "yeah no thanks dude not my type" for those reasons but my feeling is by having that on my profile I'm showing my unique side....I mean Horror Movies and Texas Holdem....it's not something so crazy and a turn off for you is it ladies LOL?


I don't go into nearly as much detail as I use to but I think it's important to let people know who you are in your profile and not just try to be smooth and tell a potential love interest what you think they want to hear. So what do you say ladies? Do you appreciate a guy who's open about who he is and what he enjoys or do you prefer the fakers who are just trying to get laid? Even if your not into those things I'm a romantic guy who will always treat you special and hold you dear to my heart.....if the outer package doesn't match what you've been fed my the media to be ideal...can you still love the person? Does true blind love even exist anymore? Comments, advice, hate mail, pats on the back etc. always appreciated.

I am sure you've heard the old saying, "Be yourself". I am a strong believer that there is someone out there for everyone and that people should be upfront about what they are into. I am one of those women who dislikes the "player" type with the smooth profile and the cheesy shirtless pics.

I get made fun of ( not in a mean way ) by my friends because I dig short, stocky dudes and in my little world Michael Chiklis is hot and never was able to see why other women drool over Brad Pitt.. Everyone has a 'type' that they are attracted to.. One of my friends is attracted to lean lanky men and another loves big black men who look like they should be on an NFL offensive line.

I know a lot of people look at the online profiles and if they are attracted to the photos then they click on it to learn more. After that what a person chose to say about themselves draws them in or repels them.

Don't get me wrong, there are female players out there who are looking for the stereotypical male model types to have fun with. It's all good. Just keep your head up and don't be ashamed of who you are. I am sure you'll find your lady someday.

Sorry my post was all over the place... Just trying to help ya:)

Just contuine to be WHO YOU ARE, and BE TRUTHFUL about it.!!!!The truth will come out sooner or later..

Thanks ladies......I don't know maybe I've just had bad luck on here but I've ran across quite a few profiles that say there webdate must be buff and in short "perfect" from the media standard anyways. I'm certainly not that but I'm more or less happy with the way I look.....I've got the long hair which alot of girls like among other physical attributes. However my down side as far as many of the women on here are concerned is that even though I'm not massive in any way I do have a gut and am not the type of guy that hits the beaches.

Like I said I am an extremely romantic and loyal guy......maybe a bit strange in some ways LOL but if there is one thing I can guarantee is that when I'm with a girl she will feel loved and be treated like a princess to the absolute best of my abilities. I got a slightly snooty response to my inbox recently over another post and to her credit at least she was honest when I asked her if she had to choose between her ideal guy physically which was the typical stereotype mentioned but was emotionally distant and never did anything romantic for her or an average joe that isn't winning any Mr. Universe competitions but truly loved her and showed it.....she answered straight up that even though she wouldn't like it if a guy was emotionally distant she'd still pick him because she just couldn't fall in love with the nice average looking guy. In my circle of friends I know in person there is also a woman who totally falls into this category and has pretty much gone from one bad relationship to another.

I know not all women are like that but I have to say I send out ninety five percent of the messages and rarely actually receive anything first....granted I have talked with some genuinely nice people here but since distance always seems to be an issue obviously nothing is happening beyond chat buddies.


I don't know if sex is the biggest issue here for these women but I know if I love someone truly that sex is going to be very passionate and satisfying both physically and emotionally.....granted I have a broad view on what I find attractive (petite/heavier, tall/short, race, etc. doesn't matter to me) but I wonder if that's the big hangup?

I think it's great that you're being honest about who you are. I definitely prefer a somewhat descriptive profile to nothing.

I think the fact of the matter is that maybe the type of women who you might click with for more than friendly online chat just isn't on this site. I've been on this sight for a while and haven't met anyone through it for more than just online friendship (even though I wasn't really on here for a year or so while I was dating my now ex-bf). At this point, I'd be shocked if something more happened through this site.

In response to women choosing looks over personality: In reality, we women want BOTH!! There HAS to be some physical attraction between two people. Online, it's NOT an option because all you have a pictures to go off of initially. Reading about someone's personality isn't the same as knowing or seeing the person first hand. The advantage of, say, getting to know someone you go to school with or work with, who you might not have otherwise gotten to know, is that even if they're average in looks their personality can totally make up for it. That luxury just isn't there in online dating/networking sites.

On the same note, what you think is attractive and what the next guy thinks is attractive can vary to great extremes. I have been attracted to
(1)good looking guys
(2)average looking guys
(3)guys where I wonder why I'm attracted to him (not because he's ugly, but just because I can't figure out why I'm attracted to him.

Like someone else said, online people typically just look for a picture they're attracted to and then if they like what's on the profile, THEN they might try to get to know the person better... not the other way around.

Best thoughts to you in finding someone who clicks with you, whether on here or elsewhere! :)