First thread, I find a lot of good advice on these forums, which is why im coming here in my struggle.

Im 21 years old, and currently work as a cook in a restaurant. Ive developed quite the "crush" on one of the waitresses there Whitney . She is absolutely gorgeous and is one of the nicest persons ive ever met.

Anyways, she gave me her number a couple months ago, but i ended up breaking my phone and not getting a new one till recently. So i started texting her only to get mostly short responses. Sometimes days ill get full blown conversation, but most almost seems as if im bothering her. idk.

Anyways, the other night me and her went out for drinks with a married couple we work with. My friend asked if i wanted to come over after and stay the night.. and said that Whitney said she would come over only if you did. So naturally i decided to go over. We get to their house and started playing some drinking games. We flirted around most of the night.. whether she was leaning on my shoulder, or playing footsies with me under the table. The attraction was there. Bed time comes and we get a nice little couch to sleep on. She told me i needed to scratch her back until she fell asleep. So i cuddled up right behind her and did just that till we both fell asleep.

Now its back to texting, and again, nothing special in regards to the responses. No flirting or anything. Like the couple we go out with are really trying to set us up as they think we would be awesome. They claim that she likes me, but im having a hard time determining if she really does or not.

Like i said, all signs point to yes when we are hanging out. But conversation via text makes me feel like im just being a pest. I dont get it.

Maybe some of you ladies on here share similar experiences and can give me advice as to what to do next.

Feel free to ask me any questions as well~

thanks

haha im dude but yeah iv been in the same problem i tried to test the water with a naughty line or so while texting and it didnt go well some times these girls are to hard to understand they seem interested while with u but texting seems different some times i could have a conversation and other times this girl was very short with me i was getting confused cause nothing was moving right in the convos so when i did throw something out there it either offended her or was at a bad time for her haha guys need texts books on how to understand women but the problem would be the pocket size edition would still be over 2000 pages

Yeah man, its killing me. Like this girls a little sweetheart. and i wouldnt be comfortable throwing out a naughty line.

like at work.. i lock eyes with her constantly. The only time she doesnt show interest is in texts. and its confusing the hell out of me.

I mean she asked me to cuddle and whatnot that night. didnt do anything else, so shes clearly not just looking for a one night deal.

did you ever just think she would rather talk than text?

honestly no. I mean we are both 21. Texting is pretty much the norm. Like personally i think it would be awkward for me to just pick up the phone and call her just to talk.

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wat works for me is a text first saying hey hows it going cbf texting at the moment can i call instead and if she says no then make a joke about it

Maybe she doesn't like to text.

I think when you guys hanging out it has a chemistry between you and her. You wont have that by texting. That's why she responded differently.
To me I prefer a phone call than texting, especially for important matter.
If I were you I would just ask her in person how she really feel.

did you ever just think she would rather talk than text?

You are so funny and direct sometimes. Thank you for the reality check. He has not said why he doesn't walk right up to her and ask her out. Screw the technology! Go direct.

Thanks guys.

I found out last night from a friend at work that she still thinks im in another relationship. I was in a relationship a month or so ago, but now im not. Now how do i get her to believe that? I mean it says single on facebook!

Now how do i get her to believe that? I mean it says single on facebook!

- obviously the end of the world is near if we express ourselves by way of Facebook status.

Here's the plan Captain Crank,
Tomorrow wear the new t-shirt Mommy got yous for Christmas and said it was from Santa. The bright pink one that reads: "MY BFF IS ALSO MY RIGHT HAND!" Pair that up with your red sweatpants and bright white athletic shoes, however you don't play any sports. This will tell her you are single and ready to tingle.

~OR~

Whi sper in her ear that this Saturday night after work you would like her to spank your naked ass for having dirty thoughts about her all week. This always let's them know I'm interested.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha aha aaahhhhaaaa ha aha!!! My Gawd that's some funny stuff right thar.

Everytime i see your name pop up on a thread you have some wise comment to say...

Anyways, as much as i hate facebook, lets face it.. thats what everyone goes to now adays. I mean wasnt that the whole purpose... to be able to know what everyone around you is doing 24/7?

sorry mommy didnt get me that one.. instead i got the "YOUR BFF CAN BE MY TOUNGUE"

Thanks for sharing that terrible advice :D

WTF???

You're too young for me to believe that you have this opinion about FB..if you do and you are real, I commend you. (too many similarities between you and Roxy though, the languages the education in the legal field) eh whatever, maybe it's me.

The shirt comment, albeit hilarious, brings you back to your age group, a tad mean and although I can see him as a whinny little boy too, truth is he is young and has a crush and can be confused and simply looking for us to explain ourselves to him. Not that women understand themselves either, but shit, can you blame them?

The last part of your advice much more mature, and I would back it 100% (providing it won't put him in a sexual harrassment situation at work). Maybe he can apply that piece of advice next time they are sharing a bed...yet another brilliantly questionable morsel of truthful information.

Still think the purpose of FB was to help people keep in touch...family spread out all over the country or the world...yet it does seem we are informed everytime someone changes their baby's diaper...but yeah, a FB status means nothing. I could be a 90 yr old man with a big ass beer belly sitting here in my dirty wife beater scratching my butt crack for all anyone knows!

Ah yes, 20yr olds fighting back! Staci, you've been served. Even you have to appreciate his comeback...maybe he is not a whinny little boy after all!

Thanks for the chuckle you two! You make me glad I am past those confusing years!

Hey Suzey Chapstick -
I'm never "served!"
This little boy couldn't lick the sweat off my ankle restraints used on him to hang him upside down on a crucifix in church Saturday night to entertain the early Sunday morning faithful.

Thanks for "analizing" me. No typo. But cum give the kitty attention while your blowing all that smoke up my ass.

"Suzey Chapstick"?! How old are you again?

Yes, love, you HAVE been served and you know it. You want to act like it didn't happen be my quest but it's all there in black and white. Just learn to admit it when someone has the balls to stand up to you. He deserves credit for that and you know it.

Seriously, WTF is all this ankle restraints and blasphemy reference ..I was hoping you would go BDSM but you went to church? Why? it's odd...nice attempt though...there is the smoke you think I am blowing up your ass.

And I wasn't analyzing you really, I am just saying...your profile and your posts don't really jive. You want to be a 25yr old that's fine but I see holes in your story. Seriously, what 25yr old calls anyone Suzey Chapstick?

Honestly I don't care. Your posts have run the gammit, funny, mean, entertaining, I just don't understand why people can't be who they are.

We live close enough..I will meet you for coffee...and I will eat crow (not your carpet) if I am wrong.

Suzey Chapstick was in reverence to your tenure... But let me digress Lindsay on Crack, I have no intentions of wasting the one resource I can not renew... TIME. So the coffee will be getting as frigid as your V-jay. For someone that has returned to the forums from an extended sabbatical, you obviously missed the fact you won't find any "carpet" on me...

I am delighted to stimulate you more then your Black & Decker style "personal massager!" with your feeble attempt to link my age to my comments.

As far as giving credit to anyone for getting the upper hand on me, you must have suffered a
concussion from repeated boobie flops to the face, while running after the girl scouts that limited you to 12 cases this year.

U really think Chef Boy MRDD is capable of hurting the feelings of my heartless soul? With what comment.... His tongue BFF crap? I never gave that a second thought... Kind of like you asking your mailman for help retrieving your 2nd set of anal beads you've lost in your ass while watching the Golden Girls on VHS.

As far as me taking my BDSM to church... Again you missed some key info in my post as to why the church is fair game to me.

I am Who am.
(You cry like Rodney King.... Can't we all just be who we are?)
This is me...

Oh, love, I am so sorry I did not take the time to take notes on all the details of your genitals...it was actually more in response to you asking for attention to the kitty and it was simply an expression, but you're reaching for whatever you can grab.

I call bull shit on your profile and total chicken shit on your rejection of my offer to meet face to face. Coffee can always be heated so my "V-jay" will be the only frigid thing as I am sure it would be in direct reaction to your presence. I am an old timer sweetheart, you just signed up...don't address me like you've got the upper hand on me..you have no clue who you are dealing with, trust me, I don't have the time to put you in your place, I have already engaged your silly little brain much more than you should have been engaged.

Don't offer to stimulate me more than my Black and Decker personal massager if you're not willing to prove you are real behind your profile, and if my attempt to link your age with your comments was feeble, you would not be so quick to reply with your sad attempt to insult me.

He got the upper hand on you and please don't be jealous of my "boobies" it takes a lot of girl scouts cookies to keep them nice and fat, you should try some!

I am calling bullshit on the prof too. This person is just some bitter person that has nothing better to do than TRY to cut on other people. Really is kinda sad. Not a very clever person at all.

Finally a perfect couple... Just need Katy Perry's missile silo bra and Tuxedo Junction hold on. Don't lose her phone number.

I shall address your cobweb infused pussy self any way I wish. I could careless if you created the internet with your brother Al Gore while Mikie Moore sucked you both off.

...and another thing, in your most vivid wet dreams I'll still have two upper hands up you. They are called fist. I believe I'm almost touching your lower intestine right now...

Your posts make little to no sense. You are hardly clever when it comes to talking smack. Once in a while you come up with a gem, but then again the sun shines on a dog's ass every once in a while and a broken clock is right twice a day.

If only you were as pretty on the inside as your probably fake profile shows you to be on the outside. I really find it hard to believe that you are this upset about life if your pictures really are pictures of you.

As far as Al Gore and Mr. Moore don't put me in the same sentence as those two liberal douchebags. That is more offensive to me than your self-righteous brow beatings.