I was engaged a few years back. I was very much in love with a woman who- in the end- got caught cheating on me.
Time heals all wounds, but I never spoke to her again after moving out. I then moved away and tried to start over.
I was home for the holidays this week, and while taking my mother out to dinner, saw my ex-fiance. when she noticed me, she came to try to talk to me.
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO YOUR EX?
As for me, i tersely told her I had no interest in talking to her. I promptly left the store I was in.
I feel like a pussy.

bang your dead lol just kiddn you just say i hope you found what you looking 4 but once a cheater always a cheater and just wish her luck and dude move on to new things you are not a pussy your a man remember you left her it was the best thing you ever did find a new love i t aint easy but shes out there im still healing from some bull@#$t my self so life goes where we take it so just carry one my freind you will find it again

You did the right thing. Why do people think they need to confront others? You say hello and move on. nothing more . She cheated ,you left her, case closed.

Sorry to hear about your ex cheating on you then having the misfortune of running into her again. My ex-fiancee and I officially broke up right before the holidays ( Tomorrow will be the 1 year anniversary:( ) and have run into him a few times. The break-up was a complicated situation and I don't hate him.

The first time we ran into each other after the break-up I was out having drinks with a bunch of my co-workers. He saw me from across the room and nodded. I nodded back and figured that was enough and that I'd make it through the night not having to speak to him. I was wrong. A few minutes later I tried sneaking to the bathroom and when I got out he was there waiting to talk. It was really awkward and he said, "Hey you. How are things?" I replied, "Pretty good, thanks. How are you?" He instantly reached out and grabbed me in a bear hug and told me, "I miss you soooo much and wish things were different. I'm sorry about all of it." I said, "Miss you too. Want you to know you are a great guy and I'll always care about you." We chatted a little and decided to keep in touch and try to be friends.

I think the first run-in differs based on how things ended and the circumstances of the break-up. He and I are close friends. Maybe that is a bad thing though.

I would have acted as if I were happy to see her, tell her things in my life were absolutely GREAT (even if they weren't) and let her think for the rest of her life of the opportunity she missed. Never let em think you're not over em.

I, too, had an ex-fiancee who cheated on me, so I know where you're coming from dude. I had moved to CT in 2006, and dropped back over to NY for a week-long visit in September of that year. I had stopped by where I used to work and saw a few of the old associates when she spotted me talking to the Assistant Manager of the pet shop. I took a glance outside for a bit and then looked through the aisles as if I hadn't even noticed her at all. She must have been sad, pissed, whatever. It didn't matter to me, I was indifferent towards her since the day she did her dirty deed. Nonetheless, I chatted up a storm with the A.M. and I left, grabbed two slices of Sicilian pizza and off I went. A few days later I went into a Radio Shack in Queens, and she was there again. I was like, "Was I aware that this was 'Psychotic Bitch Week'??" Anyway, I walked out and she said hello. I said hello, just for the courtesy of not getting pissed off too much. The moral of the story is "Run, Forrest, Run"... LOL.

All kidding aside, each person has a different tolerance level for their ex, whether it be good, bad, or downright ugly. Personally, I choose not to acknowledge my ex-fiancee, she left a sour taste in my mouth when we broke up. As for you, you did the right thing and you chose not to get into any confrontation with her. She probably would have turned it right around against you, claiming you were at fault for why she cheated.

you hold your head up be polite,send her a gift of castra oil to clean her out...no just kidding be polite. remember she messed up not you so your clean.no ghost in closet

For once I would have to agree with you wingz....whod'a thunk? lol

I'd have said 'Hi, nice to see you, asked how she was doing, general chat.. I mean it costs nothing to be polite rite?

You said exactly what you wanted to say -and for good reason! Would you be any more a man if you pretended to be glad to see her -or that she did not hurt you?
Methinketh not! Perhaps now she might realize that the things she does have consequences -and might cease to do such things!?!? Perhaps -but I wouldn't count on it. I think you should feel quite pleased at your reaction -though the situation as a whole is not pleasant. Showing such indignation toward improper behavior is quite appropriate and beneficial to all directly or indirectly involved -some guy at the store might have overheard you and thought... "Yah, that's what I should have said to...." She might have been trying to express sincere remorse for her actions... but do you think that was the case? If not, most any other response would have set you up to feel a lot more foolish! Think about it!

Being engaged to 3 different men in my life time. I've been there. I have to agree with you wing. Only 1 of my ex's we realize we could never marry. we are much better friends than lovers. The other 2 well........ my grandma gave me good advise.... "Kindness kills".

I don't really know what I would say. I'm the type that, once I'm in "dick mode" so to speak, it's hard to control my words and I'm very harshly honest. I hope that I don't run into her because I don't want to be mean. She's a nice enough woman who simply had a shit-storm of a situation to deal with and what's done is done. Still, feelings are a pesky bugger and they tend to rather cloud things when a situation smacks you in the face.

I would love to say that I would do the same as you... but I probably wouldn't. I think you did awesome, she probably spent the rest of the day just wondering about what you were up to and how your life was, but you didn't give her the time of day and rightfully so.

I was confronted with a similiar situation and I was indifferent. I don't show any emotion just very matter of fact. It caught her off guard.

she cheated on you, I wouldnt even say hi.. I freaking HATE cheaters.. but rememeber this, "what goes around, comes around"

I was engaged a few years back. I was very much in love with a woman who- in the end- got caught cheating on me. Time heals all wounds, but I never spoke to her again after moving out. I then moved away and tried to start over.I was home for the holidays this week, and while taking my mother out to dinner, saw my ex-fiance. when she noticed me, she came to try to talk to me. WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO YOUR EX?As for me, i tersely told her I had no interest in talking to her. I promptly left the store I was in.I feel like a pussy.

I know that painful feeling when someone has told you ''I love you'' Then the next thing that you know that she goes ahead and cheats with another man behind your back. You did the right thing about getting out of this relationship. If I was ever given a chance to say this to my exgirlfriend, it would be, ''Why did you tell me the other night that you love me but the next day you said you didn't love me at all''? and some other questions that I want her to answer but more than likely she will just run and hide. Hopefully you will find that special lady that won't do that to you. Take care.

Have some fun and throw some doubt in her head... Make up something completely untrue - for example, say "You know, I had a hard enough time nailing your sister the whole time we went out and keeping it hidden from you, and just after I got done paying off the abortion costs I find out she cheated on me - and then a month later YOU go and cheat on me too. What the FUCK is WRONG with your whole family anyway?!? I'm done with all of you."