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christa69

Joined: 10/15/2008

cause all i see r lies and cheats. no one wants to have anything real any more.all games and fakeness.

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kindheartedgirl

Joined: 7/16/2011

i agree to that, or they want us to be their slaves, both physically and sexually.. Sex is not everything in a relationship, and most guys think it is. THere's more to a relationship than just sex, there's communication, which alot of men lack.

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jem1987

Joined: 7/20/2007

If you keep encountering these problems, you should look at what you are doing that may be inviting the behavior. I personally have never had this problem, with any guy I've gone out with, even for just one date. I think sometimes we invite these things without realizing it.

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

thanks jem. you said what i wanted to but just couldn't quite figure out how to word it.

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kindheartedgirl

Joined: 7/16/2011

No it doesn't mean that im inviting the behaviors in. it's just they see my personality of kindhearted as a means to control me, and/or take advantage of me. it has nothing to do with me letting them do it, that's why i usually break up with them.

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

Reply to: No it doesn't mean that im inviting the behaviors in. it's just they see my per...
but first you must be somewhat attracted to that type. i am very kindhearted and giving and have not had that trouble at all.
as jem said, perhaps you are subconsciously inviting it.

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jem1987

Joined: 7/20/2007

I am not accusing you of anything. I think you are misinterpreting what I said. People will absolutely take advantage of the kind hearted. I know that all too well. When people continually take advantage of you, then you need to adapt ways to prevent it, otherwise it will continue happening. You either adapt or receive the treatment. There are no other options.

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cherrimashed

Joined: 4/24/2011

this is webdate...the men here are sleazy, let's just cut the bullshit. the want to wack off and that's it. 98% of them are married anyway. this is not the site for a relationship. if you want something real try Eharmony or match.com
just being honest girl, cause men do take advantage, and it's nothing your doing personally, that is how they are.
good luck here , personally i think like a man so i play these b****es right back. lol

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merlinshood

Joined: 7/9/2011

this is a bit of a witch hunt by the sounds of thing's, not all of us men are like that, i could say the same about women as well but i find there's good & bad in all.
pearsonaly i would like to find someone who would just be themselves & not someone who they think you want.

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jem1987

Joined: 7/20/2007

Welll said.

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cherrimashed

Joined: 4/24/2011

if you have been on this site for more than 6 months and haven't found someone
YOU are wasting your time and playing games.
or your hideous one or the other. just go out into the real fucking world and meet someone!! the same fake bitches you meet here are the same ones your gonna meet on the street. so just get over your fear and do it. because webdate is not for dating this is a jack-off site for people who can't afford to find a real relationship. So if your in it for a good laugh, waste your time here.
actually ZOOSK has alot of nice people, the reason those sites that charge you to find someone are so popular is because it is REAL. this isn't..... trust me.

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Smiley43

Joined: 7/1/2011

Reply to: if you have been on this site for more than 6 months and haven't found someone ...
Girl you got that right......sooooooo soooo true

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

i think every site is what you make of it. i met a great guy on here. we didn't make a connection but we made a great friendship.

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jem1987

Joined: 7/20/2007

I met two of the best friends I have ever had on this site. Staying on the site to chat with friends doesn't make us losers or lame or whatever else you said. It sounds like you have been burned on the site. Which is too bad. But don't blame the entire site for it.

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merlinshood

Joined: 7/9/2011

well said jem, just because we're here doesn't mean we're hard up or desperate, people do make friends on these sites.

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cherrimashed

Joined: 4/24/2011

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nighthowl50

Joined: 9/28/2005

Reply to: um, i am married and if i wasn't id never date anyone online . if you have frie...
i met my hubby online so dates are possible and even probable for the right person.
so you just come on here to disrespect your spouse by camming. i don't find that such a great life.
that is MY opinion.

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PanduhBear

Joined: 1/26/2011

Reply to: um, i am married and if i wasn't id never date anyone online . if you have frie...
Get ur ugly azz out and shake hands and meet people DAMN. what's wrong with that. webdate is a bootycall dating site, it is what it is! dumb azz 
everyone has opinions and that is mine, you stated yours and i gave mine back, suck it or keep it moving.

Keep it respectful, please.

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wolverine111

Joined: 1/29/2011

I think most people want the same things; love, respect, and above all happiness. Some guys, and girls for that matter take the wrong route to getting it, myself included. Some people also dont know what they want out of a relationship and or arent willing to work for it....not a matter of games or fakeness.

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Iceumup1

Joined: 11/30/2008

I hate to break it to ya but it ain't just men doin it. Doesn't make it right but it is what it is.

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crystal2219

Joined: 7/5/2011

Reply to: um, i am married and if i wasn't id never date anyone online . if you have frie...
Why are you such a bitch? Geez!!! Calm the hell down!!!!

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ensygnia

Joined: 6/1/2011

Reply to: If you keep encountering these problems, you should look at what you are doing ...
Thank you, Jem . I had an ex girlfriend that wanted sex more than i did and she was 6 yrs older. Sex is an important part of the bonding process between 2 ppl. Body language is great way to say something that words cannot explain, like Love. There is a balance to the love me or are we just f*&king scenerio. Before dating anyone else take a good look at how well you treat yourself. The insecurities, fears , problems that you have with you and who you are as a person and work to UNDERSTAND these things, you cant fix them overnight. Just recognize why theres a certain type of person you always go for go through the crap that has to do with change then begin to learn how to love yourself without having to have someone to back you up on how much you are valued by feeding you sh@t. Just to feel Loved Guys will always want sex period !!!! When sex is no longer used as a bartering tool or ultimatum maybe , maybe it will become just as important to you as it is to us. !!!!!

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eyesopen

Joined: 3/7/2013

Reply to: Thank you, Jem . I had an ex girlfriend that wanted sex more than i did and she...
this is in reply to what do men want out of a relationship.......i did not reply to jen ???? ...... i think men are looking.to find someone that will understand them ....and some one they can have a good relationship with.....

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pornfan121

Joined: 10/18/2013

To cherrimashed, not all men on here are sleazy. Personally, I'm just looking for a loving relationship with a kind and caring woman. Is it too much to ask for a woman to give me a chance? Apparently you don't belong in here if you don't trust any men here.

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ilikecans

Joined: 10/31/2013

We'll I think some people are tired of having relationships and feel why not be straight forward on what they want out of it if its a bitty call or just fwb. I understand not everyone here is just for a booty call or a relationship I'm looking for a booty call my self but I like meeting people and making new friends is just as good but maybe we are just trying to cut the chase short maybe not life is a crap shoot or like poker u deal with the hand your delt. I'm sorry if u disagreed with my opinion but keep in mind everyone is entitled to one even if we all don't agree but just keep looking to u find what you are looking for it hard work but worth it in the end I pray u all find what you are looking for have a great say

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