I have been married for a little over 7 years. I married a really great guy in everyway but our sex life. He is so dull in bed. Never wants to try anything new. It's the same positon everytime. Foreplay for me is non existent, but he expects me to turn him on everytime. But for this he just lays there while I do all the work. I like to get a little freaky but he's having none of it. I have talked to him about this and he'll try for 1 or 2 times but then it's back to the same old routine. I don't want to cheat on him, but I have needs too! Any suggestions?

Quit pleasing him until he does the work to please you.

Agreed.

yeah don't marry a selfish boring guy next time. but seriously this isn't lets throw away our partener evertime theirs a problem, i heard when someone takes those vows their for life.

but nothings gonna stop anyone once they make up their mind for some side action, either, it's sad, just be prepared for the cosequences that go along with that price tag of pleasure. i need to get laid too and i'm friggin single and i make sure my partener is pleased.

unfortunately my partener is my hand, talk about boring gawd..

exactly shut him off,, so his mistress feels neglected as well.. lol

Uhh when a wife neglects her man for whatever reason and he has a mistress, the mistress NEVER feels neglected sexually.

i know being sarchasticle,, hee

Why are married people getting on a dating site? I simply don't get it.

Quit pleasing him until he does the work to please you.

Yeah I've actually tried that, but he must have a very low sex drive because if I didn't initiate the sex we wouldn't have any...lol! And I know what you're thinking...maybe she's bad in bed...well let me tell you, I've been with over 20 guys and they all say I'm excellent in bed! One even said it's the best head he's ever had...and he's been with over 100 women!

 just be prepared for the cosequences that go along with that price tag of pleasure.

I know what you're saying. That's why I'm so frustrated! I don't want to cheat, but watching porn and using vibrators get old after awile!

Why are married people getting on a dating site? I simply don't get it. 

Do you know of a site for just married people?

I don't know. Are you here just to chat in the forums? The forums are entertaining. o_O

if you want to save your marriage (and you do say he is a great guy), then you best start opening up the lines of communication. let him know important this aspect of the marriage is to you.
good guys are hard to find. working on saving it now before either of you make a mistake that can't be taken back.

maybe him and my X should get together lol

Sorry lady, but youve come to a real bad place for good advice, and Im not just blowing smoke.

lolllll

First and foremost its great that you have communicated your concerns to him...good communication is key to any relationship! However, with this situation perhaps there is an underlying problem with him that he doesn't or isn't ready to share with you. Its easy to assume he "might" be cheating on you, but such might not be the case. Is there a medical problem? Has there been a recent death in the family? Are there any simple things he has changed or done differently recently? Does he seem withdrawn when you're not having sex? How does he respond to you on a day to day basis? Also ask him what he finds about you that excites him; what turns him on to get in the mood. Furthermore, are you the only woman he has ever been with?

You of course know him better than anyone, but these are questions you should be asking yourself. It is very important you continue to keep communicating with him every day. Tell him how you feel and how he makes you feel when having sex. If you both love each other just as much as you did 7 years ago, then you should be able to work this out.

Please feel free to ask me anything and I will try to help you sort through this problem. I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist but I do play a good devils advocate!

Sincerely,
Scott